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Tied Up And Pegged: Restraints Are About Trust and Dominance

by | Feb 21, 2025 | 2 comments

Restraints are like the cherry on top of a deliciously dominant sundae—they’re not strictly necessary to enjoy the treat, but wow, do they elevate the experience. When your partner is tied up and pegged down, you're not just introducing kink gear into the bedroom; you’re setting the stage for a profound mindset shift—for both of you.

Let’s get real about what restraining your man adds to the experience, how it deepens submission (hello, subspace!), and why a little extra aftercare afterward is the unsung hero of this kind of play.

Restraints are both literal and symbolic. Yes, they prevent your man from moving or touching, but they also strip away his ability to control the moment. That’s where the real magic lies. Pegging already flips traditional roles upside down—you’re taking him in a way that society has conditioned men to think of as taboo. Add restraints into the mix, and it amplifies his surrender tenfold.

Restraints create a psychological shift - by strapping him to the bed, positioning his body exactly how you want it, and holding all the power, you’re reinforcing the dynamic: You’re in charge; he’s there to be used and taken. This isn’t about hurting him (unless he’s into that); it’s about owning the experience and relishing his vulnerability.

For the submissive partner—your husband in this case—restraints help them let go of control more easily. In daily life, men often carry societal pressure to "be in charge" or "stay stoic." But when you tighten those straps or click those cuffs, he no longer needs to think. He is free and the physical inability to move forces his mind to surrender, freeing him to focus entirely on the sensations you're delivering.

And let’s be honest, there’s a wicked thrill in knowing his only option is to feel and take what you give him. His body is yours to tease, torment, and pleasure—all while he’s helplessly under your control.…

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ChrisR

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Anonymous

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Great article, Emma!

Do you recommend always keeping the male caged while you peg him? It’s definitely humbling to not have access at all while submitting to being taken.

Last edited 3 days ago by HerPermission
jay

I realize you didn’t ask me, but that hasn’t stopped me before. *grin My Wife has established a general rule; unless otherwise instructed, I am only allowed to orgasm while wearing my cage, including when pegged. When she pegs me, it has caused a shift in my mind that focuses my sexual desire and energy to very much wanting to be penetrated by her, which has, on occasion, produced the ever-elusive prostate orgasm. Most often, however, there is no orgasm, and I am left denied. But, when I am able to orgasm from pegging, it is incredible!

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