Note: You may notice in my last two articles that I always have 9, 18 or 27 orgasms. These are just numbers that have to do with sacred geometry. They are 9 or divisible by 9. I know, it's weird. But I need to pick a stopping point, or lovemaking could go all night. I choose 9. Number 9 is the number of Universal Love and a host of attributes too numerous to mention here. 9s are intensely passionate people needing to control their wild impulses. In love, 9’s are romantic and ardent. Now, on to the article.
An aversive stimulus is an unpleasant event that is intended to decrease the probability of a behavior when it is presented as a consequence (i.e., punishment).
Despite the title, please dispel the notion of of the leather clad dominatrix you might have conjured in your mind. I consider that I'm writing for women much like myself. Like me, I consider my audience educated, and they have the desire to turn up the passion in a marriage that may have become routine over the years. But I'm talking about introducing such an intense level of passion that you will need some kind of firewall to keep your man from going over the edge. This aversive stimulus if done correctly is not a weekly, monthly or even bimonthly event, nor does it have to involve an investment in leather outfits or going to Buffalo Bill Cody's ranch to learn how to handle a bullwhip. It does however require you to lay down the law about how you feel about unauthorized ejaculation to your husband. In life, we all live with unpleasant consequences to deter certain behaviors. We're merely talking about creating an environment that is undesirable for a man to ejaculate in without your permission. You should have already read about the foundational principles of semen retention, and constructing an ejaculation schedule for your man here:
Enhancing Your Marriage Through Semen Retention
Implementing an Ejaculation Schedule for Your Husband
I'm a normal professional woman married for over 10 years to a normal highly intelligent man. I employed the principles of semen retention, the ejaculation schedule and consequences for violating the schedule in my marriage over the past year, and I'm to the point where I can safely say I'm not going back to having just a "good" relationship. Once the first three principles are implemented with daily sexual stimulation, passion and service will emerge and be self existent in your relationship. …
“Violating the schedule should be almost as serious to you as him sleeping with another woman. It is to me.”
Replace the word “schedule” with “rule about unauthorized ejaculation” and it describes my relationship with Ms. K. In fact, I believe it was this very blog post that properly set us on our course and foundation for our WLM.
From an anonymous reply: “Just before my wife spanks me it is arousing but more from me experiencing her authority during the spanking it is not arousing at all.”
I can relate to this perfectly. The spanking isn’t what is arousing. It isn’t. Especially if it is for an authorized ejaculation. It’s rare that it happens for that reason, but when it does, it’s very, very ouchy? I rarely have an erection while being spanked. I almost am hard during aftercare, and when I am thanking her for my spanking.