FLR101 – Chapter 5: Stopping that unstoppable train, redirecting him when you are done.

As your man practices retaining his semen, almost every intercourse session will end up with him not ejaculating, and he may feel that the desire to complete the act is unstoppable. This is only one of the most important purposes he has in his life, so teaching him to put the brakes on that runaway train, and postponing ejaculation for 5-7 days while servicing you daily can be a challenge, but it's possible.

At this point we need to discuss the "brink". You're on your bull ride cranking out those orgasms which for me tonight ratcheted up to 18 full and powerful orgasms.  Thank you, hubby!  Now what do you do with the quivering whimpering mass of man lying between your thighs in excruciating pleasure on the brink.  It's over for him and he's still humping the air like something might happen but it's just not.  Unfortunately, ejaculation is still 5-7 days away for him.  You need to take solace in the fact that the orgasm he's going to have days from now will be far more mind blowing than the one you could give him now.  Women want so much to please their man, but you need to realize that this delay is the best thing for his health and the long term passion in your relationship.  The most difficult part of getting started with this new life was redirecting him when I'm finished, but it's not finished for him.  The thought of your husband not finishing probably hasn't occurred to you before.  It seems like a man finishing is such a given in the western culture. I assure you, men have done this and lived to tell about it.  This is not routine boring married sex.  This will be the most intense sex your husband has probably had in his life, so he should be in good health.  Your husband probably will not die despite the look of him at the moment you dismount and just walk away.  I mean ...he could die, some men die during sex every day.  So, maybe .....but probably not....but he could.  Life is such a gamble.  Let's just say I was willing to bet my husbands life on it.  I love my husband enough to risk his life to make sure he has the most mind blowing sex everyday he's in this realm, and I'll love my next husband the same way.  I'm not a medical medium.  Your husband could die.

Males have an almost insurmountable urge to complete the act and plant their seed.  After all, it's what their designed to do.  And if your trying to have a baby, by all means let him proceed with his duty.  So, just stopping and moving to another activity may almost seem incomprehensible to him.  In fact to a male new to this, it is very incomprehensible!! ....like newtonian physics to a five year old.  Just put it away!? But how!? It's not possible!  Trust me, it's possible.  Men in eastern traditions have done it for a thousand years or more.  The masters would have regular intercourse and ejaculate once in six months.  It's not easy for him.  Support him, tell him how important it is to you.

After thrusting me to 18 orgasms, his emotional state is a little fragile, and I imagine if I could open his brain case, there would be nothing but tapioca pudding swimming in a dopamine soup.  If it were left to him, there's no question he would opt for ejaculation.  That's why it's up to the woman as his dopamine dealer to step in and make the right call for this helpless dopamine addict at this critical moment.  Only she has the clarity at this point to see the future and what's best for him and the relationship.  And this is why the consequences discussed in the last article are so important for unauthorized ejaculation.  Because even in his wrecked brain at this moment he remembers the stimulus that was applied almost a year ago that eliminated masturbation from his life.  And if he has a spill, it will be applied again.  Thirty minutes later after he's pulled himself together and has his head on straight, he'll thank you for it.

Though, I would love nothing better than to finish him off,  I know there's a greater good involved.  Every mom knows you don't give a toddler a bag of Oreos just because they've been good, and they really, really want them badly.  Men are not women.  They are not built for pleasure the same way.  A woman can have orgasm after orgasm and be energized and ready for a full yoga and Qigong routine.  A man has one orgasm and is exhausted and ready for a nap.  I'm convinced that frequent ejaculation is one huge factor for low testosterone levels I see in my practice.  He must retain for health reasons and spiritual ones.  This isn't some BDSM fetish to be mean for the sake of being mean.  We're talking about the couple progressing together and finding their true natures as the male practices retaining his semen.  So, in the spirit of the Oreo analogy in which orgasms are cookies,  the toddler gets a cookie but mom can have the whole bag.  It's not a woman superiority thing.  It's just the laws of nature.  Men lose chi with too many orgasms, and women only gain chi with each orgasm.  It's why I don't have a refractory period, and I can have 18 orgasms in 18 minutes.  If your yoni is not already awakened, I hope these articles can help get you there, and you too will be able to eat the whole bag everyday ....and give your man a cookie every 5-7 days.  He will derive much pleasure, Jing and chi from watching you eat the whole bag. 

As your scraping the crumbs from the bottom of Oreo cookie bag and licking them from your fingers, tell him how proud you are of him, and how much you admire him for giving to the relationship in this way.  I praise him and tell him how good the session was, and recount the highlights for him, and how amazing sex is now that he's retaining, and emphasize how much bigger his cock feels inside me now that he's retaining and how much of a difference it makes to my pussy.  I also emphasize how big his penis feels during sex with phrases like, "God! I Love big dicks!".  This is something you might want to go on and on about.  He won't get tired of hearing it, and he'll need the encouragement, and it lets him know how virile you think he is.  I rate the orgasms for him on a scale of 1 to 10.  He really likes that.  I also keep a calendar recording daily how many orgasms he's given me so he can see at a glance what he's done for me.  His stamina is incredible practicing semen retention, and should be acknowledged.  And if all that doesn't persuade him, tell him that sex is just as good or better with him practicing semen retention now as it was with Steve your boyfriend back in your old college days.  He will then be fully on board with it.  The rewards will be many.…