Let’s talk chastity. The locked-up, squirming, can't-touch-your-cock-unless-she-says-so kind of chastity. It’s a kink that’s been quietly hiding in the femdom subculture for decades, but something fascinating is happening: more and more men are drawn to it. Not just men in long-term power-exchange relationships. Not just sissies or cucks or hardcore lifestyle submissives. Just… guys. Normal guys. Curious guys. Tech bros. Gamers. Blue collar dudes. Even your mild-mannered coworker who you’d never guess is hiding a steel cage beneath his pleated khakis.
So what’s going on?
Why would any man voluntarily give up control of his pleasure? Why would anyone from single men to seemingly happily married men, choose chastity?
Let’s dig in. I promise, this isn’t just about kink. It’s about culture. It’s about power. It’s about feminism. It’s about everything.
If you’ve spent even five minutes on Reddit, Twitter, or OnlyFans lately, you’ll notice that male chastity is no longer some hidden, shameful fetish whispered about on obscure forums. It’s front and center.
The subreddit r/Chastity has exploded. Creators are flaunting keys like jewelry. You’ve got entire content ecosystems where male denial, ruined orgasms, and keyholding dynamics are the norm, not the exception.…
Another thought provoking post.
A1 – I’m not sure what the link between toxic masculinity, single men and male chastity is though? Therefore because I don’t understand the link, I’m not sure how male chastity will affect toxic masculinity. After all incels are chaste and their chastity makes their attitude worse.
A2 – For me personality chastity which I practice occasionally as an AMAB NB person, is about internal discipline as no-one else knows so I can’t get external validation.
A3 – I don’t know how to answer question 3 at all, sorry.
A4 – I definitely think chastity can exist outside of kink. After all one does not need to wear a chastity device to practice chastity. IMO it would look like men and AMAB people challenging themselves to set a target and then see how it affects their mood, their mental health etc
A5 – I’m not sure what male guilt about dominance you’re referring to. Prior to me coming out as NB I never felt any such guilt but that could be because I’ve always been NB, I’m not sure. My male half feels guilt at the way women have been and are treated in the world and I fight to change that.
I just wanted to add something
“Men often don’t know what it feels to be truly desired or longed for. Men often report that they are revered for what they can do for a woman not who they are as a person.”
This is absolutely spot on. Many men feel that they are just seen as a walking paycheck, a walking wallet and nothing else. There is a famous expression that “only women and children are loved unconditionally. Men are only loved for what they can provide.”
Unfortunately chastity in a relationship is simply reinforcing this belief that men are only valued for what they can do for a woman, since they’re not doing it for themselves but for their female partner like many things in a FLR.
What are your thoughts on this Emma? FLR can be seen as just another way men are only loved for what they can provide? In this case submission and subservience etc etc, whereas the woman in the FLR is loved unconditionally?
Chastity when one is single though, could be seen as who the man is as a person so that’s an interesting distinction since the fact they’re single means they can only be doing it for themselves since IMO I cannot see a man practicing chastity for a non existent woman partner.
It might affect his chances of meeting a partner since biological test show male chastity can make men get in touch with their emotions and feelings more easily due to the build up of dopamine, and this in turn may make them more confident and happy and thus make them more appealing as a potential partner.
Q: Why Are So Many Single Men Getting into Chastity? Feminism and the Future of Male Sexuality
A: There are a number of reasons for this: i.e. Boredom with the status quo, Lack of confidence to approach women for dates, being turned down too many times, feeling their size is inadequate, being dominated by women as boys and teenagers, fewer eligible females due to increased percentage of lesbian and bisexual women, lack of quality male role models, fear of being labeled sexist (you never hear of women being labeled this way – do you?) kink attraction, or simply a lack of worthwhile goals.