I've been thinking of my evolution as a woman, and I kept coming back to the two female archetypes of Lilith and Eve.  I've come to the conclusion that there are basically two types of females as far as how they exist in relationship to men, and they are embodied in these two mythological figures of Lilith and Eve.  I was raised, in-cultured, and instructed as a daughter of Eve, but I'm now an awakened daughter of Lilith.  Let me explain.  I think it's helpful to have the language and identify terms before women and men can make a change moving into the new millennium.  Are you Eve, or are you Lilith?    

I think a discussion of these two characters is worth entertaining.  Some may believe they actually existed, but it may be even more interesting to think that men felt they had to make them up for the purposes of religious mythology.  They needed to demonize the powerful woman to instruct girls as to their proper role as they knew Lilith was inside their daughters, and men felt they needed to extinguish the force of Lilith inside their daughters with this myth, and brain wash them into accepting their sole role as only agents of fertility ...or maybe these two women really existed.  Far be it from me to disabuse anyone of what they believe to be history.  I confess that there is something inside me as well that wants to believe the latter as it explains so much about the nature of women and men. 

Some say Lilith was created first before Adam, and at the least, they were created at the same time from the very same stuff.  Lilith was Adam's first wife in the garden of Eden.  She refused to submit to her husband as he demanded and would not assume the missionary position lying on her back with her legs spread and insisted on riding on top for her own sexual gratification.  She reasoned she would only accept an equal relationship as they were both made from the very same star stuff.  Lilith was just trying to maintain her equality, and Adam tried to overstep his authority insisting that she submit.  She refused, spoke the name of god, used her frequent flier miles and flew away.  It's interesting that no where in the mythology did anyone from the establishment descend and issue the "Thou shalt chill, Bitch" command to Lilith ordering her to listen to Adam.  Adam takes it upon himself to overstep his authority.  In her seclusion, she bore many children in a cave.  Angels were sent to convince her to return and threatened to kill her children if she didn't.  Everybody upstairs really wanted her to return to that asshole, but she refused to return to Adam because he was basically being a total dick demanding that she submit.  Obviously, Adam was a frequent ejaculator jerking off in the garden all day and hadn't discovered his true nature through semen retention.  Because of his extreme dickishness, Adam was alone in the garden.  And the establishment went back to the drawing board to come up with a woman that could coexist with a dick of this magnitude.

Lilith was replaced with the spineless Eve that was designed from the initial concept phase from the
beginning to submit to her husband's word and be a helpmate to her husband.  To make this kind of spineless woman that Adam could subject to his will, they had to make her from different stuff than Lilith and Adam were made of.  Eve was a watered down, dialed down version of a woman designed to submit and created last as an afterthought, the weakest link to stand in for the real woman to take her place next to Adam after everything else on earth was created.  She was taken from Adam's rib to give him power over her.

We see these women everyday: women that submit to their husbands, women that tear down other women that actually are making a difference in the world, the 42% of the women that voted for Trump, women that sexually mutilate little girls in some sects, women that enjoy the rights that the daughters of Lilith fought for without a second thought about the sacrifice it took to obtain them etc.  The daughters of Eve are all around us enabling Adam and his overwhelming drive to make the world submit to him from his oppression of race and gender to enslaving and raping the planet for his own gain.  The daughters of Eve fulfilling their purpose and design have been propping these men up for millennia. 

Even though Adam got what he wanted, I can't help but think he didn't have respect for this Stepford wife and always regretted losing Lilith who was the true equal to him that Eve never was.  It's interesting to note that Lilith was not banned from partaking from the tree of knowledge but Eve was.  After all, the establishment didn't need to deal with another woman that had any brains.…

We had a week recently where we were very much involved in other things other than our sex life.  My husband was preoccupied with things of a technical nature.  He was retaining semen, but we let the sex slide for the week so there was little stimulation.  Even though he was retaining, I still encountered attitude problems consisting of disrespect or treating me like his employee which is unacceptable.   Sometimes semen retention is enough to highly motivate his behavior, but nothing really beats semen retention combined with daily stimulation.  Again this is my husband, and your experience with your husband may vary, but I assume hormones and psychology are somewhat consistent.  We may both own Toyota Camrys, but mine may have quirks that yours doesn't.

Had I provided daily stimulation, I'm sure he wouldn't have drifted so far into an assertive and aggressive state requiring correction, but he also bears responsibility for the coming punishment as he should have foresight and keep the consequences in mind. This is where consequences are important.  As I've said many times, this does not require contact punishment to be effective.  I always advocate a weekly companion inventory where you sit down as a couple and inventory your wants and needs where both sides can openly express their feelings.  I find it useful to conduct these companion inventories while I sit in a chair, and he sits and washes my feet, and we can relax and explore the previous week together.  Through these discussions, I've come to know my husband very well, and I know his needs.  I understand he needs contact punishment, and I'm more than happy to provide that service to shape his behavior.

In the beginning I very much was neutral about the activity, and it is rare so it's no big deal, but I've discovered something new about delivering a strapping this time.  I discovered that I really am awakening to the enjoyment of delivering a strapping to my husband, particularly after a week where his behavior got so out of line.  Truly enjoying it.

This was Sunday, and he was scheduled for ejaculation.  I told him that ejaculation will be postponed maybe until Tuesday.  This really got his attention.  This is one thing us wives need to realize.   When we control the ejaculation schedule, we wield great influence over our husbands.  I explained why his special day would be delayed, and that before sex happens today, there will be a punishment delivered.  He insisted that it wasn't necessary, and he would be good in the future, but that doesn't take care of the inappropriate behavior that had occurred.  I explained that whenever he feels like he wants sex today, he needs to let me know, and we'll take care of it.  This is what's good about this method.  He will always submit to discipline, because he will always be driven eventually to a strong desire to enter me.  As women we need to realize we set the terms of entry to our vaginas and not to give that up lightly.  Eventually, he came to me and said he'd like to have sex.  I said that's fine, but there's business to take care of first.

I told him to strip and get on his knees.  I think it's important for him to be naked so his penis is displayed just to assess his arousal.  I notice when he's on his knees, his penis is standing straight up.  This will not be a successful punishment if that penis is still standing when I'm done.  Again, it's not punishment if it arouses him.  I restrain his hands as he can't seem to keep them away from his rear while I deliver his strapping.  I use leather cuffs with metal carabiners that clip into the headboard and put pillows under his pelvis to get his rear in the air.  This not only makes the target easier to strike, but it also displays the penis so I can assess the progress of his arousal, as well as his testicles that adds some extra fear as he needs to hold very still during his strapping so that the three tailed strap doesn't catch a ball or two because of moving.  It may be arousing at the start but quickly escalates with sincere tears and cries for me to "Please Stop!!!".  But of course it's only just the beginning.  It's important for him to have genuine remorse, and a desire to change. As far as I'm concerned the strapping hasn't started until his penis is completely soft after stripping the arousal out of the experience with 10 or 15 strokes with the leather strap, and then the punishment can begin.  After examining his soft penis, I can see he's definitely not having fun anymore, and then we'll start counting the strokes.  This is why this is rare, but I am really starting to appreciate this activity.  As we count, we'll stop periodically so his rear can rest, and he can explain to me why this is happening which is of course because he doesn't think before he opens his mouth, and he can also explain to me what his future strategy will be to make sure it doesn't happen again.  Then we resume.  My goal was 50, but he really could only make it to 41.  I could see that he just wasn't going to make it through that last nine.  My fault for not pacing the intensity right, and I might have been enjoying it too much.  Plus the 20 inch wooden drilled paddle is brutal.  In any case, I could see he was filled with remorse, and sincerely wanted to change.

I've gained deeper insight into this activity since we started a year ago.  Men are taught early on that boys don't cry.  Men conceal their feelings and aren't prone to displays of vulnerability.  I can see how this would bring a couple closer together as the wife has the power to bring the husband to a state of tears.  As he discovers his place, it brings us closer together.  It's a very intimate experience between husband and wife.  It also appears to be a very bonding experience that a man won't experience in any other way.  His heart is genuinely turned toward the wife seeking forgiveness.…

We recently finished a period where I extended his ejaculation schedule to 14 days.  During that time I applied intense pre-climax stimulation to him during those 14 days.  There was a lot of begging, whining and crying to go back to the way things were during these highly intense intercourse sessions without ejaculation.  I decided to give him a week off after the 14 day period.  I told him during that week, he could masturbate to orgasm or have sex with me with him orgasming as often as he wished, but at the end of the week he would need to make a decision as to what his life will be with me.

The results were very interesting.  During that week, he masturbated only once.  He had standard sex with me where he orgasmed as he chose only once.  Both experiences were very sub par for him and kind of frustrating.  He thought it would have been much better than it was.  At the end of the week, he decided /wanted/craved to come back and submit to semen retention, the ejaculation schedule and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.  The pleasure he now derives from our method of intercourse is a state of hyper pleasure where everything else pales in comparison.  He's been so well trained in this method, I really wonder if he would be able to perform standard sex if I found him a normal pretty girl or even get a good erection for her.  He now requires a particular set of circumstances to perform.  If a normal woman tried to have intercourse with him, she would need to read my instruction manual to even get him started.  His erection during our standard sex session was only adequate for penetration, hardly adequate to reach my A-Spot in the cervix area and provided little pleasure for me.

I've never been concerned about my husband cheating on me, but after what I experienced with him during his week off, I really don't see him performing without the appropriate circumstances.  I'm not saying it's impossible for him to have sex in a normal fashion with a pretty girl that just wants to get laid, but it would be highly unlikely and difficult for him.  Once you have your husband trained and broken in with this method, I think standard sex will be very disappointing for him no matter how much he says he wants to just ejaculate whenever he pleases.

I think he's effectively been castrated except for when I need his penis for my purposes.   He's no longer compelled to masturbate, and his ejaculation is conditioned to the sound of my voice issuing the release command.  His erections are unbelievable when submitting to a female authority.  Many men can have difficulty sustaining an erection during standard intercourse, but once my husband is at full mast, his penis stays locked in that 100% erect state for the duration of our lengthy session and for some time even after our session is over.

So, can your husband do this?  What's best for him?  For my husband, it was either the hell of standard sex which was really pitiful compared to to our semen retention sex or the torture of intense intercourse and ecstasy of semen retention sex without ejaculation.  In the end he says standard sex with ejaculation when he chooses is a D grade, and semen retention sex is an A+ grade except for the end without ejaculation which he gives an F grade, but that brief ejaculation is such a small part of the experience compared to giving me 18 orgasms.  He's trading his one orgasm to have me orgasm 18 times on his face. If your husband chooses this road, your orgasm will be his orgasm.  He will be in service which is the higher calling than his self indulgent ejaculation.  It's my husband's excruciating pleasure, screaming, whining, crying, begging that drives me to an intense whole body orgasm as I'm flooded with his energy that passes to me that I then share with him as I ride his face in ecstasy 8 -18 more times and finally drown out his cries as he receives me at the end of our session.  In the end, he's traded 1-2 minutes of substandard thrusting with 10 seconds of pleasure for 20-30 minutes of excruciating pleasure almost daily.  Some day, maybe years from now, during one of our sessions he may even experience an orgasm without ejaculation like the masters.

Despite his experience with his week off, I'm still holding off on having him hand over complete control over his ejaculation to me in an official ceremony of lifetime commitment.  I still consider this a trial period.  It's a very huge decision for him, and once it's done, it's done.  He will be effectively castrated except when I require it for my service, and it will be drained per the schedule I set for it accepting it without question, and unauthorized spills will be punished severely as they are now, but there will be no turning back.  This commitment won't be taken lightly.  He's made that pledge for our trial period, but I think it gives him peace of mind that there might be a way out.  I can see obviously that there is no way but this way.  His penis doesn't function without the three pillars of semen retention, ejaculation schedule, and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation, but he needs to come to that conclusion as well.  After the ceremony this way of life will be a condition to be in a relationship with me.  He will leave his relationship with the daughter of Eve behind, and he will enter into a passionate commitment with a daughter of Lilith.…

In his 1948 studies, Alfred Kinsey found that 75 percent of American men achieved orgasm within two minutes of commencing intercourse.  The female body takes much more time to awaken, plump up, and lubricate enhancing her sexual stimulation.  If that's not an argument for semen retention, I don't know what is.  This 1-2 minute time clearly illustrates the human male's lack of discipline and self control and is a strong argument for the female to step in and assist him in being disciplined with his ejaculation.

It's really hard to fathom that 75% of men could be that uncaring.  1-2 minutes is not sex, it's using a women's vagina as a masturbation aid.  Is it any wonder that so many women are shut down sexually with this kind of experience?  Women are capable of so much sexually.  They can reach great heights obtaining many orgasms.  Ironically, it's many women that are thought of as frigid or not sexual, and it's men that are thought of as more the sexual creatures.  It's really quite the opposite.  It's just that women are capable of such high performance, and men are capable of so little, that they don't even come close to starting that formula one engine that a women has that can run circles around the Volkswagen male libido.  It's only when men retain their semen that their libido can then begin to outpace the woman.  Retaining semen, my husband far out does me with his stamina.  After he's given me 18 orgasms, he's still ready, pleading, begging to give me 18 more.  If the male seed is not required for procreation, he should retain it according to the ejaculation schedule his wife has set for him and use that desire to help his wife transcend sexually, and transmute that stored energy into outward service.  When he does not retain, that energy collapses into selfishness and laziness.  Some practitioners of tantric sex aim to eliminate orgasm from sexual intercourse by remaining for a long time in the pre-orgasmic and non-emission state. Advocates claim that it eventually causes orgasmic feelings to spread out to all of one's conscious experience.  I think this may be a worthwhile road for males to strive for as they are only capable of one orgasm resulting in the loss of jing (life essence).  Women however are designed to be multi orgasmic, and they only build chi and jing with each orgasm, flooding their bodies with life giving energy.

Many women have not experienced or fully explored the varying ways the female body is able to reach orgasm.  Taoist philosophy states that there are three gates to achieve this for the woman.

1. The Clitoris
2. The G spot  
3. The Cervix

The Clitoris:
When many women awaken, it's first with stimulation to their clitoris.  They have their men perform sustained oral service on them because their penis has no stamina.  This is a great thing as at least they are half way there, but it is ideal for the clitoris to work in harmony with the vagina.   Sexual intercourse is the union between the yoni and the lingam.  It's when this union happens that there is transcendence and an exchange of essence between the male and female body.  It has been postulated that when the skin of the penis is stretched as taut as it can be that the pores open and the male can absorb the female essence.  All this doesn't happen when the male is just licking between her legs.  There is no union in that.  With oral only, she has only awakened a portion of her potential.  She must also awaken her sleepy vagina and enjoy the union between the yoni and lingam.  When the male is trained for sustained thrusting, he is truly worthy of being inside a yoni.

The G spot:
Most of us have heard of and are familiar with the G spot which can be found just a couple of inches within the vagina towards the front of the body.   A male can easily find and stimulate this area with a finger or two, and the male penis can easily reach this spot.  Rather than just thrusting deeply with the penis in short strokes, it can be very satisfying having the male pull out further before thrusting back in so the G spot is stimulated by the head of the penis sliding across this location.…

All good science attempts to explain what is observed, and I observe that when my male subject ejaculates frequently, he is assertive, dominant, and aggressive. When he retains semen with daily stimulation, he is submissive and compliant craving a controlling, severe, female authority. Why?

For many years researchers have tried to explain the mechanics of pair bonding of animals and humans, and they've discovered a link between vasopressin and monogamy in the prairie vole. Researchers at the Center for Molecular Medicine, Emory University, Atlanta, Georgia injected vassopressin into montane (anti social) voles and they exhibited increased affiliative behavior after injection with arginine vasopressin.

The prairie vole is a rodent that is used by researchers as a model to explore human pair bonding. Why? Because they have an unusually high amount of vasopressin recepters, and prairie voles pair for life after their first mating. They may take an occasional sexual partner other than their partner, but they stick together through thick and thin.

Then there's the montane vole. They are basically the same species as the prairie vole, but they don't have as many vasopressin receptors as the prairie vole. Consequently they don't pair for life. This is why researchers speculate that vasopressin may be the monogamy hormone or play a strong part in life long pairing.

Humans do not have as many vasopressin receptors as prairie voles. For some reason humans hold up the ideal of monogamy, but only about 50% seem to accomplish it successfully. I would speculate that humans don't have as many vasopressin receptors because we simply don't make as much vasopressin. What would happen if we could make more vasopressin naturally, and if it's possible, how? And what would be the point as we don't have that many vasopressin receptors anyway?

Can we create more vasopressin receptors? Well, we know that when people are vitamin D deficient they have fewer D receptors, but when we raise their vitamin D levels with supplementation, more D receptors begin to appear on the cell membranes. It appears that when there's more of a substance, cells develop the capability to utilize it. So, I'm just going with the idea that if one could make more vasopressin, then more vasopressin receptors would appear. And possibly if we could do that, it would strengthen the pair bond of the male to the female like the prairie voles.…

One of the cardinal rules in operant conditioning is that a continuous stimulus ceases to be a stimulus. After being married for over 10 years, it's safe to say that I was a continuous stimulus to my husband, and for ten years he used my body whenever he desired it. Sometimes he was barely hard. Sometimes he was hard but he would pump forever because he wasn't stimulated enough to ejaculate, with me staring at the ceiling wondering when it will end. Welcome to married sex land where routine sex is on the menu every night sex happens, and the waiter with the passion grinder never stops by your table. He had steak and lobster everyday, and he was sick of it. Loving wives offer themselves to their husbands continuously, and they are rewarded with disinterest and a lack of respect. Then some couples try things like swinging, hotwifing, or cuckolding in order to try to inject freshness into their marriage, finding that they are able to have passion in their marriage but only with other people while their partners watch. Many resign themselves to just being best friends and partners. And in this day and age, any marriage counselor would call that a resounding success story if they feel that way after 20 years. I mean you can't have passion in your marriage forever, right? Wrong.

So, we have wives that are no longer a stimulus to their husbands because they are always ready to drop their pants whenever their husband has the slightest urge because they're good wives after all and their husbands have needs, right? And we have husbands in the next room masturbating being stimulated by 30 novel females a minute on the Internet and yelling "When's dinner going to be ready?" Or worse, they're both dead inside, and the embers of their passion barely remain. How do we fix this?

Was it me that was the continuous stimulus or was it my body combined with his frequent ejaculation on demand? He had an appetite and a sex drive despite masturbating frequently as he is biologically driven. Even though he was ejaculating frequently, his release was not that intense for him. We had two continuous stimuli: my body and ejaculation. I could leave for a month, and I would be a stimulus again. But that's not feasible or practical. The more feasible thing is to remove ejaculation and porn, keeping my body as a continuous stimulus. Doing this, his biology will do the rest as it pours his sex drive into me. In fact, this works. I now have a man that has enough passion for probably two or three more women and certainly can't get enough of me.

For him to find you stimulating again, ejaculation will need to be removed except for 2-4 times a month or so. (Read making an ejaculation schedule for your husband ) Doing this he will come to live for your body hoping to touch it or even see it nude. If your husband has been using your vagina as a masturbation aid to stimulate his genitals, excluding your needs and desires, and masturbating by himself daily in addition for years, you may need to give him a 3 week break with daily intimate stimulation sessions with no ejaculation and let him replenish his desire. You both need to have a companion inventory and discuss your wants, needs, and goals as a couple. Hopefully one of the goals that you arrive at is that you'd like to have the passion you had as a couple the first week you met each other. I assure you it's possible. After ten years, I was only slightly more arousing than the kitchen table to my husband thanks to his frequent ejaculations. Now, my husband is so passionate for me, he can't even sleep in the same bed with me because his night time erections and attempts to hump me keep me awake. Steak and lobster is now off the menu except for very rare occasions, but he does get to look at it and touch it daily.

The idea of my husband not ejaculating never occurred to me before I learned about the centuries old tradition of semen retention. Not ejaculate? Of course he's going to ejaculate. It's what western men do. They do it on your chest. They'll do it on your good vest. They'll do it in your hair. They'll do it on your pair. They'll do it in your ass. They'll do it in your grass. They'll do it here. They'll do it there. They'll do it everywhere, Sam I am. They'll even do it when they don't feel like doing it. Women need to get over this notion that they must finish their man and that their man needs to finish once he's started. My husband has had sex almost daily with infrequent ejaculations for the past year. It's now his life. He's been trained to accept it. Whereas in the past my vagina was used as a masturbation aid for 1-2 minutes for his pleasure, and I just laid there. Now, he makes mad passionate love to me for extended period where I receive 9-18 orgasms nearly daily, and he has one orgasm every 7 days or so which has intensified his pleasure immensely. A husband's heart should be turned to the wife, and this method accomplishes that.

Once ejaculation is rare, we're talking about extending courtship into marriage for decades. Your husband loves you, but he won't be able to demonstrate it properly if he's constantly in his PE (post ejaculation) phase. And if he's ejaculated in the past week, he's in his PE phase. Your husband wants to love, adore, honor and respect you, but just when he's starting to have these positive feelings, you drop your pants and let him finish. We like the first two phases of this process where he's interested and you drop your pants and you're both intimate. But we're going to eliminate the part where he finishes. He's going to be more passionate if he can only conquer you intermittently. You can give your husband oral and have his brain turn to mush in less than minute, or you can do it the old way sucking on him for fifteen minutes, and he's still only semi erect and half annoyed with your effort.…