Once in awhile on rare occasions your husband will ejaculate. When this happens, he will tend to go through a process of reevaluation of himself and this new dynamic between you and him. Ejaculation is necessary as it keeps him interested in you. It also conditions the penis to stay hard by rewarding it with an ejaculation every once in awhile during an intercourse session. If he never ejaculated, eventually your husband may have erectile problems as he loses hope. And if the penis is never reinforced for getting an erection, it may also lose hope if I can anthropomorphise a penis. And we don't want the penis to lose hope now that our yoni is awake and it finally appreciates a hard penis that lasts and keeps coming back for more. Thanks to retention, I had 27 orgasms delivered by a rock hard penis today about an hour ago, and he's still hoping to give me more later.

Ejaculation is the off switch for a man. If you want to feel unwanted and neglected, just flip that switch. Once that switch is flipped, you may become the opposite of appealing to him. Things that aroused him before, may actually be repulsive to him after that switch has been flipped and his brain has dumped a boat load of chemicals, depleting norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide, and the hormone prolactin. This all activates the cingulate cortex and amygdala to call it quits. He then puts his pants on, makes an excuse about having to get up early and leaves you to clean up his mess.

It's sad to hear so many women mourn the fact that their male partner is no longer interested in them after they ejaculate. They don't understand why he would be that way after they've been so nice to them getting them off. They say things like, "I don't understand it. I have sex whenever he wants it, and he's not interested in me." It's disheartening to hear such a profound misunderstanding of male biology from a woman. That statement is the equivalent of me saying "Why is the light off. I flicked the switch to the off position. Why is the light off?!" When you turn him off, ladies, he wants nothing to do with you. In fact, at best you're probably just annoying him. At worst, he may be repulsed by you. It doesn't make sense given that five minutes ago he worshiped the ground you walked on does it? Most women I know want to turn their man on, and yet they're the cause of turning him off. Knowing what you just learned, why would you ever flip the ejaculation switch except for rarely and only if it's in the best interest of his health. Your husband wants to love, honor, adore and respect you. Why would you make these desires more difficult to have by permitting ejaculation. We need to get past the belief as a culture that ejaculation must happen for a man every time he has sex. When you have weekly companion inventories with your husband, these are the topics you can delve into and discuss. These are the creatures that lead and dominate our planet. Is it any longer a mystery why the world is in the state it's in?

I speculate that the sedating effect after ejaculation is mother nature's way of preventing the depleted man from exerting himself after he has drained so much of his reserve. Sleeping it off or relaxing for awhile before getting up to perform the next task would allow him time to conserve his energies and recuperate which could take hours or days after the release. I always insist my husband eat a can of oysters or take a zinc supplement the day of his ejaculation to help him replenish that vital nutrient he so generously releases in large amounts on his E-day.

Dr. Niel Stanley director of sleep at the University of Surrey says that legendary nap after sex which men are famous for is only specific to the human species. Some researchers assert that ejaculation is the equivalent to taking 2-3 mg of diazepam (valium). This link between sleep and sex is not known in the rest of the animal kingdom. I could probably enlighten him that this link between sleep and ejaculation isn't due to the human male as a unique species. It's due to depletion and sexual exhaustion. My husband isn't sleepy after retaining for 7 days or more and then ejaculating, but was wiped out with frequent daily ejaculation. Feeling ready for nap time after ejaculation is not normal. It's a sign of depletion and a man that needs some help to get on track with his health. Of course, male researchers don't see this because sex without ejaculation would be horrific to them.

This link between ejaculation and sleep is not seen in the animal kingdom because all animals except for primates don't have hands. As soon as man was able to grasp his penis as a species, he became depleted. Retention is more the rule than the exception in nature. In the animal kingdom, the opportunities to ejaculate are likely not occurring as often. Some animals will only be interested when the female is fertile and in heat, releasing pheromones to arouse the male.…

If there is one behavior that drains a marriage of passion, it's a husband's masturbation habit. He should be retaining semen for the benefit of the relationship and recognize that you have the right to be involved with what he's doing in private as it directly effects you in a major way. If you're not receiving intimacy with your partner because he's being intimate with himself, that's a moral crime against you and your marriage as it robs both of you of shared intimacy with each other.

To me this habit is close to adultery in what it does to a marriage and should bring close to the same consequences if the wife finds out about it. I hope I've conveyed this with enough gravity. The only thing his penis should be stimulated by is you as you transcend together.

Some women may feel relieved that their husbands masturbate as it means they won't be annoying them with their desires because they themselves are sexually shut down. If that's the case, your marriage is already on the comfortable road to tolerable boredom and happy routine, but one of the things that can help correct it is for the husband to stop masturbating and channel his chi to the wife and help her awaken her yoni. I will address awakening your yoni in a later article if yours is a little sleepy after years of 3 minute sessions with your partners or your own personal issues.

Hopefully, we've come to the conclusion that one thing is paramount: masturbation for the man must stop. He can't be allowed to continually deplete his body of semen in this way. You need to take an interest and monitor this. Your marriage must be built upon honesty. If he'll lie to you about this, then there is a whole lot of work that needs to be done before you even consider this road. Just like alcoholics have a sponsor, you need to be there to give him guidance, support and a sympathetic ear. He needs to be accountable to you, and call you if he has a problem. If there is an infraction, I expect him to call my secretary and tell her he as a problem at home that needs my attention, and she'll give me a message. He should know there is an immediate consequence for that infraction, and I know how much he dreads making that call. We'll address the issue when I get home and deliver the appropriate consequence. Please see the article on consequences. Once you're actively involved in your husband's intimate life, that alone may be enough to eliminate this behavior.

He should expect daily inquiries from you about whether he has masturbated and acknowledge that you have the right as his wife to make these inquiries. This may have been an issue that both of you didn't really acknowledge before. Now it will be out in the open, and he will know that this is a top priority to you. I feel that even one upstroke on his penis is an infraction of the no masturbation rule, and an averse stimulus will be applied. If he's only broken the rule by stimulating himself, and there was no ejaculation, the averse stimulus may only be an 8:30 pm bedtime for a week. What's the harm if there was no ejaculation? All sexual pleasure should flow through you to him. As you establish yourself as the sole pleasure giver in his life, he will focus on you hoping for your touch, hoping for the daily intercourse session where he truly feels privileged to enter you, and he will work his hardest to deliver as many orgasms to you as you can stand and then some. You will become the perpetual novel female that he craves. He will listen to your words and not do anything that will make you form the words "You've just been bumped a day." Discipline may be no more complicated than the threat of delaying his E-day. You have no idea how smooth and blissful your day will be when he's trying to stay on schedule for his release. As he treats you with more respect, you will become a stronger more confident woman, and in turn his respect and love for you will increase.

When this habit is broken, you can be standing fully clothed in the kitchen, and he will get an erection just looking at you. You may simply want to just turn up the passion in your relationship using these principles which is fine, but once he is retaining, eliminated masturbation, and you've installed the ejaculation schedule you may define the relationship as you wish. Retaining semen, he will change, and his true self will emerge. He will come to see you differently. If you have poor self esteem, you may not feel comfortable with his new perception of you, but you should embrace this image of you that the Tao is revealing to him. It's through your husband that you will discover your true self. Your opinion will be highly valued, and your words will be closely listened to. Indeed, once my husband approaches 10 days without ejaculation with daily intercourse sessions, everything is "Yes, mam." No, mam." And he will even ask for permission to speak if it's about a subject we may have disagreement about. Your opinion will move from just being your opinion to law. I don't require these things at all from him, there are no rules issued by me. This former alpha male just adapts these behaviors as his biology changes.…

As your man practices retaining his semen, almost every intercourse session will end up with him not ejaculating, and he may feel that the desire to complete the act is unstoppable. This is only one of the most important purposes he has in his life, so teaching him to put the brakes on that runaway train, and postponing ejaculation for 5-7 days while servicing you daily can be a challenge, but it's possible.

At this point we need to discuss the "brink". You're on your bull ride cranking out those orgasms which for me tonight ratcheted up to 18 full and powerful orgasms.  Thank you, hubby!  Now what do you do with the quivering whimpering mass of man lying between your thighs in excruciating pleasure on the brink.  It's over for him and he's still humping the air like something might happen but it's just not.  Unfortunately, ejaculation is still 5-7 days away for him.  You need to take solace in the fact that the orgasm he's going to have days from now will be far more mind blowing than the one you could give him now.  Women want so much to please their man, but you need to realize that this delay is the best thing for his health and the long term passion in your relationship.  The most difficult part of getting started with this new life was redirecting him when I'm finished, but it's not finished for him.  The thought of your husband not finishing probably hasn't occurred to you before.  It seems like a man finishing is such a given in the western culture. I assure you, men have done this and lived to tell about it.  This is not routine boring married sex.  This will be the most intense sex your husband has probably had in his life, so he should be in good health.  Your husband probably will not die despite the look of him at the moment you dismount and just walk away.  I mean ...he could die, some men die during sex every day.  So, maybe .....but probably not....but he could.  Life is such a gamble.  Let's just say I was willing to bet my husbands life on it.  I love my husband enough to risk his life to make sure he has the most mind blowing sex everyday he's in this realm, and I'll love my next husband the same way.  I'm not a medical medium.  Your husband could die.

Males have an almost insurmountable urge to complete the act and plant their seed.  After all, it's what their designed to do.  And if your trying to have a baby, by all means let him proceed with his duty.  So, just stopping and moving to another activity may almost seem incomprehensible to him.  In fact to a male new to this, it is very incomprehensible!! ....like newtonian physics to a five year old.  Just put it away!? But how!? It's not possible!  Trust me, it's possible.  Men in eastern traditions have done it for a thousand years or more.  The masters would have regular intercourse and ejaculate once in six months.  It's not easy for him.  Support him, tell him how important it is to you.

After thrusting me to 18 orgasms, his emotional state is a little fragile, and I imagine if I could open his brain case, there would be nothing but tapioca pudding swimming in a dopamine soup.  If it were left to him, there's no question he would opt for ejaculation.  That's why it's up to the woman as his dopamine dealer to step in and make the right call for this helpless dopamine addict at this critical moment.  Only she has the clarity at this point to see the future and what's best for him and the relationship.  And this is why the consequences discussed in the last article are so important for unauthorized ejaculation.  Because even in his wrecked brain at this moment he remembers the stimulus that was applied almost a year ago that eliminated masturbation from his life.  And if he has a spill, it will be applied again.  Thirty minutes later after he's pulled himself together and has his head on straight, he'll thank you for it.

Though, I would love nothing better than to finish him off,  I know there's a greater good involved.  Every mom knows you don't give a toddler a bag of Oreos just because they've been good, and they really, really want them badly.  Men are not women.  They are not built for pleasure the same way.  A woman can have orgasm after orgasm and be energized and ready for a full yoga and Qigong routine.  A man has one orgasm and is exhausted and ready for a nap.  I'm convinced that frequent ejaculation is one huge factor for low testosterone levels I see in my practice.  He must retain for health reasons and spiritual ones.  This isn't some BDSM fetish to be mean for the sake of being mean.  We're talking about the couple progressing together and finding their true natures as the male practices retaining his semen.  So, in the spirit of the Oreo analogy in which orgasms are cookies,  the toddler gets a cookie but mom can have the whole bag.  It's not a woman superiority thing.  It's just the laws of nature.  Men lose chi with too many orgasms, and women only gain chi with each orgasm.  It's why I don't have a refractory period, and I can have 18 orgasms in 18 minutes.  If your yoni is not already awakened, I hope these articles can help get you there, and you too will be able to eat the whole bag everyday ....and give your man a cookie every 5-7 days.  He will derive much pleasure, Jing and chi from watching you eat the whole bag. 

As your scraping the crumbs from the bottom of Oreo cookie bag and licking them from your fingers, tell him how proud you are of him, and how much you admire him for giving to the relationship in this way.  I praise him and tell him how good the session was, and recount the highlights for him, and how amazing sex is now that he's retaining, and emphasize how much bigger his cock feels inside me now that he's retaining and how much of a difference it makes to my pussy.  I also emphasize how big his penis feels during sex with phrases like, "God! I Love big dicks!".  This is something you might want to go on and on about.  He won't get tired of hearing it, and he'll need the encouragement, and it lets him know how virile you think he is.  I rate the orgasms for him on a scale of 1 to 10.  He really likes that.  I also keep a calendar recording daily how many orgasms he's given me so he can see at a glance what he's done for me.  His stamina is incredible practicing semen retention, and should be acknowledged.  And if all that doesn't persuade him, tell him that sex is just as good or better with him practicing semen retention now as it was with Steve your boyfriend back in your old college days.  He will then be fully on board with it.  The rewards will be many.…

So, semen retention and the implementation of an ejaculation schedule has given you your man of steel, but he now cums faster than a speeding bullet.