I really enjoyed and identified with this post from ShyLittleSizeQueen, she gave me permission to repost it here with her bio, links and some photos. With no further ado, here is a little about ShyLittleSizeQueen and her lovely marriage dynamic:

This is a long post, but I had the feeling it might help some people to understand how cuckolding can work in real life, so please bear with me. After reading lots of threads in this subreddit, I have come to the conclusion that many, or the majority of people here, are still fantasizing about cuckolding but have not yet taken the plunge.
I have identified a few "stages":

• Some people do not have a relationship to start with. My recommendation would be stepping back a few steps (stop watching porn) and trying to build a meaningful relationship with a woman. Cuckolding, in my opinion, only works between a couple that has a stable and loving relationship. I have my own opinion on how to approach a relationship with a specific fetish like cuckolding in mind, but that's a topic for another day.
• Some people are in various kinds of relationships—just fell in love, long-term, or married. I think being married is a very good base to dive into cuckolding, but of course, there is no obligation for that. These people have not yet come out to their spouse about their fetish. They are also fantasizing and hiding it.
• Some people are in a committed relationship, and they are already talking about cuckolding.
• And some people are active in the lifestyle and probably already know the things I want to elaborate on.

It's totally OK to be at different places in the lifestyle, though some men are very, very obsessed with certain topics, to an extent that looks definitely unhealthy to me. I receive disturbing DMs occasionally, and some people seem to be really lost in their fantasy.
Today, I want to shed some light on how cuckolding really works—at least how it works for us. It's obvious that other couples do it differently, and I would be interested in how it works for them, but I think there are some common denominators that are definitely not clear to many cuckolds, especially the wannabe ones.

The point is that no one is horny all the time. No one wants to be humiliated all the time. No one wants to be denied all the time. No one wants to be in chastity all the time.
Now, you might say: NO, that's totally wrong! I LOVE being denied 24/7 for the rest of my life!
But the probability that you are in a very horny mind space at that moment is very high. When men (also my husband) are very horny, they really believe it! They want it! He has asked me to deny him penetration and make him give me oral every time we have sex. For basically forever!
That does not work for me. And I know it won't work for him either. I think the number of couples that really go pussy-free for a longer period—like over a year—is very, very small.

BUT it does work for an extended period of time if we agree on it. And this is basically the essence of the game. You play it intensely, but you have breaks! My husband has gone pussy (penetration) free for over three months, and it was a fun experiment! He was not allowed to penetrate me. He was not able to wank, to edge—his mind space was not as horny as it was when he decided he wanted to be locked. I made sure to tease him every day, edge him—but after a certain time, he just became depressed. You cannot ride that high forever.
The reason for it is that sex—real penis-in-vagina sex—is massively bonding for a couple. You can smooch, cuddle, lick my pussy every day in the morning and in the evening, all of it. But it does not replace the powerful bonding that takes place when you actually have raw, passionate sex.…