Aren't they all? Seriously though. This guy has an unrealistic expectation of sex in this relationship. He may have gotten into a relationship expecting that he would have daily sex with you. He may not have taken into account that you are an actual person that may not be in the mood some of the time. Then he takes it a step further by constantly badgering you for sex which is an enormous mood killer. Why would he think that a guy begging for sex is ever a turn on? Has this somehow been effective for him in the past?

I would be remiss if I didn't take the time to address why he is sexually frustrated in the first place. You might just be mismatched in the libido area or just not all that attracted to him. If the libido mismatch is the culprit, a good conversation explaining sexual expectations would be a good idea. Make sure to have this conversation while he is locked to ensure that you've got his full attention. Many times, a guy has a bit of a heightened sense of self importance in the bedroom.

I think most of us have been in relationships with guys who we aren't 100% attracted to. He is maybe 70% there and his personality or other traits make up for the rest. We don't want perfection, we just want a guy who looks good, keeps himself groomed and we aren't afraid to introduce to our friends. That is totally ok, guys are a bit more forgiving when it comes to women. If she is the least bit in to him and he finds her attractive, he will usually forgive most imperfections. That's just the way things work, or at least the way I've seen things work.

Your guy has too much sexual energy and that is a good thing, you just need to redirect that energy. With just a few short weeks, he will be eager to please you both in and outside the bedroom.

An interesting thing here is when a sexually frustrated man brings male chastity to you rather than the other way around. This may seem counter intuitive since he is sexually frustrated but wants to be locked. Men bring chastity to their wives and girlfriends more frequently than you might expect!. Over the years, as you've conditioned him man to ask for sex with frequent denial makes makes him feel powerless in the sexual aspect of his life. He may masturbate frequently and feel guilt about his porn or masturbation frequency. He may also want to formalize the power transfer since he feels like he has already handed you control of his sexuality.

A cage simply reinforces what he feels you want, a man that does not have sex or masturbate unless given specific permission. He is, in a sense trying to please you, pleasing women is very natural for men and does bring them pleasure especially when used as an outlet for sexual energy. Much of this happens at the subconscious level so he may not even know why. The sexual urges that he is feeling are probably extremely uncomfortable and distracting. The sexual urges that men feel are much different than the urges that we feel. …

What kind of man allows a woman to lock up his penis? Why on earth would he subject himself to this sort of treatment? This kind of humiliation? Emasculation? A "real man" would never let someone do this to him.

First off, many men feel enslaved to their penis and to their sex drive. Think of the recent celebrities that have been in the spotlight. Cosby, Louis C.K. etc etc. These men are very intelligent and made some very poor decisions based upon choices that were made merely to fulfill sexual desire.

In my opinion, a real man isn't defined by his penis he is defined by his actions. A real man is a good husband, a good father, a good person. Allowing someone to help guide him to positive behavior is simply accepting help in an area that by your very nature is weak. If he can allow his wife to guide him in this one area, the entire relationship will glow. He needs her strength after their lovemaking sessions to ensure that he stays true to his agreement with her. Although different and strange to some, there should be nothing humiliating and emasculating here. The man is putting his wife first and allowing her a level of sexual enjoyment that other women would beg for. There are some fetishes that involve humiliation but that depends on the couple and we can save that for a different conversation.

I admittedly only know a handful of guys who are caged or have been caged in the past because it isn't something that couples openly discuss with others. I personally wish the taboo for this practice would go away because I feel like it is a legitimate way for women to help guide their man on a successful path. Part of the reason that I wanted to create this blog is to try and do my little part to help take things a bit more mainstream.

Traits of a man who benefits be being guided in this manner:

• High energy and sex drive
• Large disparity between the sex drive of he and his significant other
• High self confidence
• Low self confidence
• Works in an environment where he is in charge, admired or has sway within his organization
• Works in an environment with lots of interaction with females
• Has a penis
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