Hello all,
I have been in a relationship with a woman for quite some time who has many domme qualities and on occasion, reveals what I see as her true nature, and it is glorious!
The question she has, always comes back to... why? Why am I into this or that? What is the reason for wanting to be dominated in someway. I am not sure I can explain why. Certainly I have failed to express it to any satisfactory level.
Can I kindly ask, can any of you explain why you find yourself here, or seeking the lifestyle? I would love any insights or thoughts any of you can share.
Humbly,
nhi
I wonder this a lot too.
Like many guys, I learned quickly as a young man that to have success with women, I had to take a more assertive and dominant role. I picked that up and had some degree of success. Because of that, I could compare my relationships with women where I took the lead vs. where the woman took the lead (ie making all the first moves). I found that I liked it more when the woman took the lead. I also found those relationships to be deeper and more fulfilling than the ones where I led a more submissive woman.
While I never even kissed a woman or had a girlfriend until I got to college, a girl who liked me asked me to go to the prom with her in high school. Looking back, that might have really set me on a path of deeply loving when the woman is more dominant. However, my first sexual fantasies were about dominant women, so I inherently had those preferences even before that girl asked me out.
Why I had those preferences at the age of 12 or 13 is a mystery to me. Any speculations I have involve a deeper commentary about human instincts vs. what our modern society determines is correct.
