1) At what point in your life did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you—or even excite you? I’ve noticed that most of the people and couples I meet in this lifestyle are over 40, and almost all say they wish they’d started far earlier. Does this resonate with you?
I suppose it started with a couple of my female teachers in high school. I was more attracted to them than to girls my own age.
My Wife is about twice my age (31M/66F) and we were first together when I was 18 and She was 53. I didn't know there was a name for it back then, but She has always been the Dominant partner in our relationship - we have been married almost 7 years now.
2) If you could set the intensity of your Wife-Led Marriage, what level would be preferable for you? (Levels 1-4)
Karin and I are around a 3, and it works well for us.
3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do, but you’re a bit too shy—or reluctant—to ask for?
Most recently, we did Locktober in 2024 (I asked for it) which had been on my list.
She took my virginity (both PIV, and Her pegging me) when I was 18. Taking a young man's virginity had been one of Her fantasies, and I would love for Her to get the opportunity to do the same with another man.
I've never asked, but I would love for Her to teach a pegging class to other FLR-aspiring women, and use me (caged) as a demonstration, CFNM-style.
4)If there’s a significant age difference where the dominant woman is younger than the submissive male, does this add an extra spark or present unique challenges? How does it shape the roles and dynamics in your relationship? (This could also apply to non-marital situations, such as with professional Dommes, etc.)
I'm generally attracted to older women (it probably goes back to #1 and being more attracted to my teachers than classmates.)
5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive (could you explain a bit)?
Not specifically as a sub, but I told a long-term (male) friend of mine the details about the relationship my Wife and I enjoy, including about Her pegging me. He basically said I was on the road to becoming a (insert gay slur here) and has had nothing to do with me since. I don't need that kind of negativity, so I haven't told any other friends of mine.
1) At what point in your life did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you—or even excite you? I’ve noticed that most of the people and couples I meet in this lifestyle are over 40, and almost all say they wish they’d started far earlier. Does this resonate with you?
2) If you could set the intensity of your Wife-Led Marriage, what level would be preferable for you? (Levels 1-4)
3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do, but you’re a bit too shy—or reluctant—to ask for?
4)If there’s a significant age difference where the dominant woman is younger than the submissive male, does this add an extra spark or present unique challenges? How does it shape the roles and dynamics in your relationship? (This could also apply to non-marital situations, such as with professional Dommes, etc.)
5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive (could you explain a bit)?
Q: 1) At what point in your life did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you—or even excite you? A: From my early teen years, though I was tall, my penis was undersized (4") and grew up being dominated by female teachers, classmates, counselors, and workplace supervisors. By adulthood, I had accepted female domination as my fate. Q: 2) If you could set the intensity of your Wife-Led Marriage, what level would be preferable for you? (Levels 1-4) A: Level 3. Q: 3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do, but you’re a bit too shy—or reluctant—to ask for? A: My wife is not dominant, nor does she wish to be. Q: 4) If there’s a significant age difference where the dominant woman is younger than the submissive male, does this add an extra spark or present unique challenges? A: No, I've had several female workplace supervisors who are younger, attractive, and quite dominant, and I've accepted my submissive with them, just as much as they seem to enjoy dominating me. Q: 5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive. A: Yes, Once I wanted sex with my girlfriend, and she didn't want to. When I insisted, she only saw me in public and spent 2 weeks teasing and denying me with suggestive clothing, rubbing against me, then denying me sex. I soon learned to submit to her wishes and do as I'm told.
Q1) at What point did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you or even excite you: A) Early in life I had dreams while sleeping of submitting to powerful women. This was probably as early as 12 or 13. I fantasized about submitting to powerful women in puberty, perhaps a result of watching Gorgeous Ladies of Wrestling. I recall a guidance counselor wearing leather dresses to school and the click of her heels. I wondered what it would be like to serve her. During adolescence I thought about what it would be like to be the female in a relationship. These feelings were suppressed or not acted upon until my late 20's. However, I had female supervisors in my mid 20's and there's nothing more I wanted than to impress them. In my mid 20's I discovered chat rooms and then in my 30's started seeing professional dominatrix. Several years ago, I watched an old episode of GI Joe and realized how "The Baroness" had influenced me. I am now happily married to a woman who is willing to take the lead, accepts my service, and loves to be dominant in the bedroom.
Q2) If I could set the intensity of a wife led marriage / FLR what would be preferable to you? I would go with a level 3.5
Q3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do but you are reluctant to ask for? We recently have incorporated pegging into our relationship. I would like to, but haven't yet asked for some gender bending role play as part of that. I would be open to her being a hotwife as well. I also would like her to grow in her dominance without falling into being mean--but basically to not apologize for taking what is rightfully her's. I would also like to try chastity with her.
Q4) If there's a significant age difference between the dominant woman and the submissive male, does that add an extra spark or present unique challenges? No, my dominant wife is 3.5 years younger than me, not much younger, but I love that she's in great health and takes care of herself.
Q5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive? No.
1) At what point in your life did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you—or even excite you? I’ve noticed that most of the people and couples I meet in this lifestyle are over 40, and almost all say they wish they’d started far earlier. Does this resonate with you?\
- In college. I have a very small penis and I was lucky to meet a dominant older woman(like 55 lol). That set me on the path
2) If you could set the intensity of your Wife-Led Marriage, what level would be preferable for you? (Levels 1-4)
- We live at a level 3 to 4, depending on the situation
3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do, but you’re a bit too shy—or reluctant—to ask for?
- I wish she were freer to use SPh in front of others. She does it, just not often
4)If there’s a significant age difference where the dominant woman is younger than the submissive male, does this add an extra spark or present unique challenges? How does it shape the roles and dynamics in your relationship? (This could also apply to non-marital situations, such as with professional Dommes, etc.)
- We are close in age
5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive (could you explain a bit)?
- Backtalking, I can be stubborn
1) At what point in your life did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you—or even excite you? I’ve noticed that most of the people and couples I meet in this lifestyle are over 40, and almost all say they wish they’d started far earlier. Does this resonate with you?
When I was around 19 yrs old I was in a threesome with a couple early 30's. She was really good in taking the lead in her pleasure and popped out a strap-on with the question if she would need it that night. I was unsure, baffled and said no, but I was intrigued none the less. Since then this has been lingering.
2) If you could set the intensity of your Wife-Led Marriage, what level would be preferable for you? (Levels 1-4)
Level 2-3, I think.
3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do, but you’re a bit too shy—or reluctant—to ask for?
Long-time chastity. We are starting out with a Cherry Keeper on the way and she is interested to use it during play, I'm not sure yet if she would want to be a longtime keyholder.
4)If there’s a significant age difference where the dominant woman is younger than the submissive male, does this add an extra spark or present unique challenges? How does it shape the roles and dynamics in your relationship? (This could also apply to non-marital situations, such as with professional Dommes, etc.)
I really can't tell - but if a Domme is younger than me, I think she would have an older soul. I need to connect like agewise.
5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive (could you explain a bit)?
Well - back to the first question...maybe that experience really woke up my submissive side a bit, but I didn't know and didn't dare to try it in the moment.
Q1) At what point did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you or even excite you?
I think it has been there since early childhood. I was amazed, impressed and mystified by the powerful women around me, including my mom, teachers and other females who held positions of power over me as a boy. That included fascination with -- and trying on -- women's underwear and clothing. That mindset followed me into adulthood sort of in the background. When my wife and I got into the swing lifestyle it opened up many lines of discussion. Changes in our lives, such as her becoming the primary breadwinner and me becoming a househusband, completed a full transition to FLR six years ago when she informed me that she was done sharing me with other women but she expected to continue on as a Hotwife.
Q2) If I could set the intensity of a wife led marriage / FLR what would be preferable to you?
2.5 to 3 depending on the situation.
Q3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do but you are reluctant to ask for?
I wish we could experiment more with tying me up and maybe pegging. I wish she would give chastity another try. She was not impressed with our previous use of cages.
Q4) If there's a significant age difference between the dominant woman and the submissive male, does that add an extra spark or present unique challenges?
There really isn't much age difference here. So, no.
Q5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive?
Not really. Maybe not asking for what I want more. But I don't want to top from the bottom either.
1) At what point in your life did the idea of submitting to a woman start to appeal to you—or even excite you? I’ve noticed that most of the people and couples I meet in this lifestyle are over 40, and almost all say they wish they’d started far earlier. Does this resonate with you?
As one person has mentioned, the foundations of service began in my childhood. I remember my early twenties I sought out stories of dominant women. I wrote a confession to my wife three years into our marriage about my desire to serve her. Ironically, as you mention above, her 40th birthday was the "official" start of my cuckolding.
2) If you could set the intensity of your Wife-Led Marriage, what level would be preferable for you? (Levels 1-4)
Level 3. 4 seems too much of a burden for her.
3) Are there things you secretly wish your dominant wife or partner would do, but you’re a bit too shy—or reluctant—to ask for?
Our communication was not the best, but one thing for sure was to try pegging more.
4)If there’s a significant age difference where the dominant woman is younger than the submissive male, does this add an extra spark or present unique challenges? How does it shape the roles and dynamics in your relationship? (This could also apply to non-marital situations, such as with professional Dommes, etc.)
Certainly more humbling.
5) Have you ever regretted doing something as a submissive (could you explain a bit)?
In the past, maybe. With time, I have no regrets other than wish we did it more.