I don't want her to go home alone to him, then I feel like I lose my control, and role in this.
Under the current circumstances, this is precisely what will happen because there was no honest communication and no resolution to your feelings before diving headfirst into it. Good luck to you.
You are harsh in your descriptions. Certainly good points from your side, but as I said, it was not intentional. And long after bedtime, you must be able to have adult time. I think the nature of the incident has not been quite correctly perceived, he had his hand on top of his thigh, just under his skirt, nothing else, it was the kiss that was reacted to. And it should be explained at the first opportunity in a nice way.
It was she who wanted a closer relationship with Lars, I have been reluctant for a long time, before I agreed to this gradually
Ok on the book or article you posted all it took was for me was changing the word cuckolding to swinging or even regular relationship to see I for what it was .... Fluf or wishful thinking at best ...... Bad or misleading information to promote what the writer wants at worst .... There is not thought put into the husband's situation or tools put in place to help navigating problems for him or the couple....Â
Now that being sead id like to say do people pull it off I'm shere if I went out looking I could find one or two ..... I could if I sat down talked with some people in the lifestyles community find out and put something together more comfortable for all involvedÂ
Now on to a different note you might be traumatized by this hole thing.... You might need some you time to process what happened and what you feel .... No dis to any one .... Jealousy saprized miscommunication these things build up to a big problemÂ
Take a moment see who you are in this remember who you are and what you need then talk to and think of what's best for both of you long run you and your wife that is ..... You will get a more clear picture of what needs to happen next .... This is tuff but you can do it I'm rooting for youÂ
You are very right. It's a bit tough. It's tough when they go up to the bedroom, it's tough to hear her with him, watch a little, but can't manage for long at a time
My wife also brought me something..... If ever something happens that she feels down about without word I'm there to help her through it and she in turn does the same for me .... We never discussed it it was always automatic.... Maybe this is something you two should run with as a new ground rule for both of you ...... hope it helpsÂ