Hello all. I’m a wannabe cuck and for awhile been very into this idea but afraid to bring up to my wife bc she’s somewhat traditional. When I found this blog and read the intro I just started seeing my wife as potentially a good candidate. She loathes when I masturbate and keeps tabs on if I’m lasting too long or not cumming with enough volume and gives me grief for masturbating. So in a way she’s already sort of controlling my orgasms, I’m just bad at complying.
The issue is she’s not very open minded about non traditional sexual topics. How do I lead her to discover how great this could be for her without exposing it as my idea?
Small steps and allow time, time. You cannot go from 100 to 1,000 so talk to your wife and allow her time to explore without pressure.Allow her to learn and see what she likes. You will be amazed when there is no expectations. My wife was very vanilla as well in our marriage until. It took honest communication from me and accepting my wife exploring in her own time. For me it took 12+ months and we started with chastity
How did you eventually bring up chastity to her?
Hello all. I’m a wannabe cuck and for awhile been very into this idea but afraid to bring up to my wife bc she’s somewhat traditional. When I found this blog and read the intro I just started seeing my wife as potentially a good candidate. She loathes when I masturbate and keeps tabs on if I’m lasting too long or not cumming with enough volume and gives me grief for masturbating. So in a way she’s already sort of controlling my orgasms, I’m just bad at complying.
The issue is she’s not very open minded about non traditional sexual topics. How do I lead her to discover how great this could be for her without exposing it as my idea?
Fortunately for you, your wife already frowns on your masturbation habit, so you might say something like: "I know you disapprove of my masturbating, so maybe you could help me with it. I'd like to buy a locking chastity cage, and let you keep the key" You may have to bring this up multiple times, but if she agrees, then after she's gotten used to being your keyholder, there is a good chance she'll be receptive to cuckolding you. Baby steps can often be the best tactic.
What I’ve found helpful in helping my wife understand my desires is to remember that the goal is to grow your relationship and make it better, more fun, more loving. Cuckolding, chastity, and any other kink are just ways of achieving that goal. Try approaching things from that angle. “Locked in Love” is a great book that could be useful for you.
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I was honest with my wife about how often I masturbated and she was hurt at first but read into the mindset of a male and we trialed the cage. At first she noticed I became very attentive by the hour and then she trialed locking me for days and began orgasm denial and this lead to chastity being a normal part of our life now. Small steps and it took 12+ months. You cannot go from zero to a hundred.
