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NEWBREIZH
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Hello
New here and from France (sorry for the mistakes)
In a married couple for 15 years, me 50 years old my wife 40 years old, we started on my initiative a controlled male chastity relationship since the beginning of the year (24H / 7J), even if Madam still has trouble understanding my motivations and to get involved in the control of the key, it already measures all the interests of the situation.
For my part, I am happy that we are advancing slowly together on the right track.
See you soon and bravo for your Blog, very interesting
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Topic starter Posted : 12/03/2021 1:30 am
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DavidS
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Hello neighboor (i'm from France as well). Great that you can get moving on the path of FLR and chastity.

What brought you to want to take that path? How did you manage to get your wife on board your fantasy?

Would love to read more about your background.

By the way, welcome! 

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Posted : 12/03/2021 6:48 am
Emma
 Emma
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Welcome to the site! As @davids said, we would love to hear more about your life if you wish to share.

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Posted : 12/03/2021 9:48 pm
NEWBREIZH
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@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

Hello all.
It started a few years ago, in my 50s, a very calm sex life and a lot more expectations and needs on my side than on my wife's.
It made me angry to ask my wife for sex and her rejecting me.
I discovered Controlled Male Chastity and it seemed like a good way to put myself at the same pace as my wife.
Even if today, she is not yet very involved in this process, concerning me, there is a real change in behavior, more attentive, more attentive and a desired and assumed frustration.
Our relationships are more intense.
Since January I have been caged 24/7 and she accepts to hold the key.
You have to give yourself time, not to force things and let your partner gradually evolve and accept his new role, when it is not desired.
Patience in this type of relationship seems essential.
Thank you for your site which allows me to evolve.
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Topic starter Posted : 18/03/2021 1:11 am
true42
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@newbreizh best of luck with the whole thing. You seem to be approaching it well, with some realism. I think a lot of men mess things up by treating their wife as a keyboard and mouse porn star instead of a partner in a relationship. The wife is not a prop.

And sadly, a lot of couples have very lopsided libidos, which can make finding a solution difficult. But if you can find a way to make it work, it can work well. Chastity can be an important part of that for some couples.

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Posted : 19/03/2021 3:49 pm
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subhubphx
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Posted by: @true42

I think a lot of men mess things up by treating their wife as a keyboard and mouse porn star instead of a partner in a relationship. The wife is not a prop.

Nothing could be more true.  In a mature, loving, "real" WLM/FLR, the woman is NOT a fetish peddler.  Instead she is a Queen that is served by a man (or woman) that get their pleasure from providing their Queen pleasure in life.

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Posted : 19/03/2021 4:24 pm
Brian
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Posted by: @subhubphx
Posted by: @true42

I think a lot of men mess things up by treating their wife as a keyboard and mouse porn star instead of a partner in a relationship. The wife is not a prop.

Nothing could be more true.  In a mature, loving, "real" WLM/FLR, the woman is NOT a fetish peddler.  Instead she is a Queen that is served by a man (or woman) that get their pleasure from providing their Queen pleasure in life.

I know I shouldn't respond, but I cant help myself lol.

When you throw the words mature, loving, real into the same sentence as NOT a fetish peddler, and then add a Queen that is served by a man, which is pretty much the dictionary definition of fetish, it makes my head spin.

I'm all about FLR btw.

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Posted : 19/03/2021 10:57 pm
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Spfccmt
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Labels. I have read so much on this topic that my head spins. My wife (of 30 plus years) and I have played around with chastity, mostly at my urging, for a few years. I never seem to find material that matches our relationship, (or what I envision it to be.) I am not sure if it would be called Gentle Femdom or Kinky FLR at this point. When sites wander from full monogamy I feel it has gotten to kinky and not enough about the emotional bond, but when things get to much based on servitude and the submission to your Queen without sexual fantasy I feel off course as well. I never seem to find material I can share with my wife. This site has been the better ones based more in reality than fantasy. 

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Posted : 20/03/2021 4:49 am
subhubphx
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Posted by: @brian

When you throw the words mature, loving, real into the same sentence as NOT a fetish peddler, and then add a Queen that is served by a man, which is pretty much the dictionary definition of fetish, it makes my head spin.

I'm all about FLR btw.

Not sure I understand what you are telling me here.  

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Posted : 20/03/2021 6:04 am
Brian
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Posted by: @spfccmt

I never seem to find material I can share with my wife. 

Maybe you could write it? And of course share with us as well 🙂

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Posted : 20/03/2021 11:19 am
true42
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Posted by: @brian
Posted by: @subhubphx
Posted by: @true42

I think a lot of men mess things up by treating their wife as a keyboard and mouse porn star instead of a partner in a relationship. The wife is not a prop.

Nothing could be more true.  In a mature, loving, "real" WLM/FLR, the woman is NOT a fetish peddler.  Instead she is a Queen that is served by a man (or woman) that get their pleasure from providing their Queen pleasure in life.

I know I shouldn't respond, but I cant help myself lol.

When you throw the words mature, loving, real into the same sentence as NOT a fetish peddler, and then add a Queen that is served by a man, which is pretty much the dictionary definition of fetish, it makes my head spin.

I'm all about FLR btw.

Yup, you're correct. But also, not quite ...

Is it a fetish? Hell yes, it is a fetish.

But I think that the underlying question is what the true purpose is, assuming you can even divine it.

For example, I finished up washing the dishes and all that stuff a few minutes ago. I almost *never* did dishes until this thing happened with us, and if I did, you can sure bet that I expected something in return. And I'd fume if I didn't get it. Sex, of course. Now? Nope. I expect nothing in return, although I do crave (!!) the appreciation and smile and so on that I often get. Sex in return? Hahahahahahahahano.

So yeah, I've always been a submissive with respect to a sexual fetish, but I haven't always been submitting without an expectation of something in return. Is it still a fetish? Yeah, sure it is. But is it also real submission? Polonius, to thine own self be true ... I think it is.

Either way, she likes it. And I enjoy spoiling her. And she enjoys it, and does seem to be in absolute control. So right now, it's working well, whatever it is.

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Posted : 20/03/2021 11:54 am
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Brian
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@subhubphx Fair enough. What I wrote was pretty confusing. 

This is how it played out in my head. I'm not saying its right or means anything. Its just how I experienced it.

When one elevates a person to an exalted status like Queen, it falls into the dictionary definition of fetish, and if she is a willing participant, by definition, she is kinda peddling it. So when you say with capitals that she is NOT a fetish peddler, it made me do a double take.

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Posted : 20/03/2021 12:02 pm
subhubphx
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Posted by: @true42

Is it a fetish? Hell yes, it is a fetish.

But I think that the underlying question is what the true purpose is, assuming you can even divine it.

That's was always only my point.  Everything we do is a fetish, yes.  Pegging, chastity. retention, spanking, ruined orgasms, etc.  It's all fetish.  To me, what matters in a mature, loving WLM is the real reason for the man's submission to his wife.  If a man behaves, is obedient, attentive, etc. for the primary reason of getting something out of it sexually only, then he is submissive to his fetishes.  If a man does those things for the sheer pleasure of seeing his woman wallow in her pleasure as she see's fit, sexual or otherwise, then he there is very little chance of ultimate resentment setting in for him when he ends up feeling that she isn't doing enough, as often, or the the way he thinks it should be done.  

We all have our way of living in our respective dynamics.  I'm always in support of "it works for us".  I just happen to believe that if the man can genuinely have his wife's pleasure be his primary source of pleasure, and she can find comfort in knowing that she is giving him pleasure by seizing hers, there is more than just a good chance that they will happily ever after

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Posted : 20/03/2021 3:14 pm
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Susanstoy91
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New here today...My Wife(KH) and I are both retired and have been married for 32 years. She is ten years older and we have been into MC for three years and wish we would have started sooner. We live in Northern Ontario, Canada. Always nice to find other people who are interested in MC and to hear others stories...Take care...

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Posted : 24/03/2021 10:50 am
subhubphx
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Posted by: @susanstoy91

New here today...My Wife(KH) and I are both retired and have been married for 32 years. She is ten years older and we have been into MC for three years and wish we would have started sooner. We live in Northern Ontario, Canada. Always nice to find other people who are interested in MC and to hear others stories...Take care...

Forgive me, but what exactly is MC?

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Posted : 25/03/2021 5:48 am
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