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When one goes soft

SandiBeaches
(@sandibeaches)
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I just got the automatic email about a new blog post and it put a huge smile on my face. Glad to see you back. We love your blogs.

Question for you! How do you handle when one of your guys goes soft or when one of them is much harder & his body is clearly more interested than the other? In your situation I am curious how you handle this.

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Topic starter Posted : 12/03/2021 12:42 pm
Emma
 Emma
(@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j)
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Thanks Sandi. Hope you enjoyed today's blog!

Guys go soft or just don't feel 100% from time to time and there is no need to coax his body to be into it when the drive isn't there. This happened a few times with both Kev and Andrew and there is no shame in asking him to sit this one out. We have a computer desk and chair in our bedroom and it has been used by both guys more than a few times. Sometimes there's nothing wrong with the anatomy, you are just feeling more in tune with one over the other and that is ok too. 

Heck this happened a few times when Andrew wasn't in the picture and Kev watched as I took matters into my own hands. Remember that even if the boy parts don't work perfectly, tongues almost always do.

Remember to discuss afterwards to make sure that any feelings of resentment or frustration are discussed rather than being left to fester. Force him to open up and discuss how it made him feel.

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Posted : 12/03/2021 9:46 pm
SandiBeaches
(@sandibeaches)
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@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

I would imagine this could be quite frustrating but it makes sense for there being no shame in sitting one out as you say. I think I am too worried about feelings in these types of situations and your very direct approach is probably the best option. Why ruin the experience for the other two if one third of the picture doesn't seem to be fully feeling it.

I would just be so worried about resentment but communicating afterwards should patch things up but knowing me I would forget about the communication part and then need to address it hours or days later probably resulting in more damage than if I had just addressed it right away!

Three in a bed is incredible but it rarely goes off without a hitch like it does in porn. I guess you've just got to be ready to roll with the punches and address situations as they come up. The one that bothers me is nearly-gay situations that I have to remember. Things like not going straight from a dick in my mouth to kissing or things like that.

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Topic starter Posted : 27/03/2021 12:27 pm
Emma
 Emma
(@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j)
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You are totally right! Things never go as they do in porn but some of the funny moments are the best. Bloopers reel anyone? As far as the nearly gay things. I just don't have time for that and don't engage with it. If we need an extra hand to make things work, we need an extra hand. In my experience, they get over it pretty quickly and they aren't squeamish after the first time or two. Seriously guys I get that you have a sexual preference but its just that. A preference. Just get over it, we can have a good time together and we may stretch the boundaries of what you are comfortable with. So what! 

Yes, this has been a topic of several discussions and we got through it. Rather, they got over it.

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Posted : 30/03/2021 3:38 pm
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