It started like a thousand other nights where we flirted with the idea of more.
David and I had talked about it — the fantasy of seeing me flirt, seeing another man want me, the rush of feeling wanted and watched at the same time. But talk is just talk until you’re sitting at the dimly lit hotel bar, your hand lazily stirring a cocktail while your husband watches you openly seduce another man. Hell, I didn't even know if I could anymore. Was I even sexy? But then it happened...
The guy was gorgeous. Tall, tan, confident but not cocky. He caught my eye immediately.
David saw it too. He smiled that little knowing smile of his — the one that said go get him, baby.
And so I did.
I leaned into the stranger’s space, laughing a little louder, touching his forearm as I made some ridiculous joke. I was shamelessly flirty in a way I never allowed myself to be before.
David watched — quiet, calm, and god, if I didn't see a spark of something raw flicker behind those strong blue eyes. A mix of jealousy, lust, and pure adrenaline.
I didn’t have to drag the stranger along. When I suggested we go somewhere “a little more private,” he practically leapt off his barstool.
His hotel room was just a few floors up — same building, just a short elevator ride away.
As we piled into the elevator, there was this electric tension.
I teased David: "You sure you want to come with us, honey? We could leave you at the bar…"
But he shook his head, a little breathless.
"No. I want to watch."…
Lovely story, beautifully written. I also like the AI image chosen to illustrate it. Something about the woman’s chest being so exposed highlights her femininity, and the intimate pose between the three; perhaps this is the three characters in this story further down the line 🥰
Again there’s this obsession with humiliating the husband at every possible opportunity. As Emma has said in this blog Sexualizing Insecurities: Is small penis humiliation (SPH) healthy? – Evolving Your Man this level of humiliation is not healthy so why write about it. Is there something inherently fun to be cruel to the person you claim to love?
You write
“In making David submit, in making him show his love so openly — it erased any guilt I had about wanting more. About craving pleasure that he couldn’t always give.
It made me feel loved.
It made me feel cherished.
It made me feel like I could finally breathe again.
I felt so powerful, like my sexuality was the strongest thing in the room. No – the strongest thing in the world.”
All this gives is a narcissistic scream of “me me me me me”. David got nothing apart from a cheap wank in the toilet. To write it pretending that he got anything out of this is a narcissistic fantasy at best and instead a sociopathic cruelty to David at worst.
Pretending that the husband actually gets any fulfillment or any emotional need met in the above situation is a joke, it´s laughable. The line where David says
“Finally, David reached over and laced his fingers through mine.
“You were amazing tonight,” he said softly.”
is simply included to try and trick the reader into believing that he´s ok with what happened, while the rest of the story makes it clear that nothing about what happened is for his benefit.
The line
“It was about him lowering himself — choosing to be small — so that I could finally see myself as enough.”
in particular is very telling since only weak people need to put other´s down to make themselves enough. Truly strong people see themselves as enough without their partner having to lower themselves and choose to be small.
Visiting this site is an invitation to yourself to explore alternative sexual dynamics. There’s no need to wet all over a story you don’t agree with.
While I appreciate your point, I was pointing out the apparent contradiction of Emma saying how harmful the situations displayed in this and many other stories are, and yet encouraging them.
This is tacitly saying that, as I’ve said repeatedly, harming the men emotionally and mentally is both encouraged and supported both in Emma’s own blogs and in the stories on here.
The latest blogs are no longer about men being treated with love and respect in consenting relationships. They’re all about encouraging and emphasising mental and emotional abuse of men for the sake of female empowerment.
I’ve asked repeatedly for a single thing a husband would benefit from by seeing his wife getting railed by someone else. She gets everything, the love the sex and the aftercare. He gets to like it and lump it after he’s cleaned her up with his tongue.
He’s a sex toy and no more.
As a husband I crave that feeling of submission to my wife’s power. Of ‘hating’ that she is free to do what she wants with other men but loving the fact that I can do nothing about it. Strange but true. It’s a core part of who I am. I’d be thrilled to be with a woman who understands that like Tora and Emma do.
Respectfully,
Open_to
Thanks for your honest response and I’m glad you enjoy it. I hope you understand my concerns however.
I’m a submissive too but I’m not prepared to be humiliated, rejected for another man, used as a sex toy, told how useless, small and pathetic I am. I’ve lived all those things for real (apart from the sex toy) all my life and they HURT. They’ve left scars on my psyche that will never heal.
I’m currently undergoing therapy for PTSD as a result of the above things so to read about people inflicting such things on their partners for the sake of their OWN sexual pleasure sickens and repulses me.
To read such casual cruelty inflicted on another human being, one which the story makes clear doesn’t have a choice other than to face punishment, has no safeword (since there is no mention of such in Mark’s POV) and most importantly hasn’t consented specifically to these actions other than a vague consent “I agree to follow my wife’s orders in all things” make the actions depicted in these stories at best dubcon and at worse rape/SA.
I’ve spoken to a good friend who writes dark erotica for a living and sent her the story as she has to make sure that her work doesn’t stray from CNC or dubcon into outright rape so she’s somewhat of an expert. She says this story is right on the borderline of dubcon and rape and it could be argued convincingly to be either. Since she’s an expert I accept her analysis.
I hope your situation with your wife is much better, that you have a safeword and your wife doesn’t treat you as simply a meat and bones sex toy which she can use for her own pleasure while belittling, humiliating and rejecting you, or that you don’t have a FLR agreement where she can literally tell you to do anything otherwise you’ll be punished. That aftercare for you both, is truly aftercare for you both, not simply for her while you get to suck it up. I truly hope this is not the case.
I’m sorry that you’re not a fan of Tora’s fictional story but I’m curious which of my blogs I encourage mental and emotional abuse of anyone.
Every cuckolding blog where she says to her husband that he isn’t enough, he’s not big enough, he can’t make her cum, he’s pathetic, useless
https://evolvingyourman.com/2025/04/15/cleanup-fantasy-role-playing/
You even say it’s not just about humiliation thus admitting it is about humiliating him. Humiliation is mental and emotional abuse.
https://evolvingyourman.com/2025/04/16/reignite-your-marriage-with-erotic-redirection/
You say that humiliation can be hot thereby admitting it’s at least partially about humiliating the husband.
https://evolvingyourman.com/2025/04/04/reconnecting-after-date-date/
Every single idea you have for so called aftercare is all about her rubbing her husband’s face in how useless he is. You even have a section called extreme and humiliating ideas just to really twist the knife..
In the section called “Catharsis to Humiliation” you even admit to enjoying his fear, his jealousy, his inadequacies, his struggles, his suffering as can be seen below.
“The fear he feels isn’t just about losing me; it’s about knowing that not only has he lost control, he never had it”
“That mix of fear, jealousy, and desperate adoration turns him into exactly what I want him to be. That is a man who worships me endlessly, who knows his place beneath me, and who thrives on the pain of his own inadequacies (real or perceived). That pain doesn’t push him away—it binds him to me even more, making him crave my affection, my attention, my mercy.”
“And the truth is, I need that power. I need to see his struggle, to watch the way his body betrays him with arousal even as his heart twists with longing. I need to know that I hold that much influence over him, that his desire for me outweighs his pride, his ego, and even his own comfort. It’s a cycle of deepening submission, a way for him to prove his devotion over and over again. And every time he sinks into that fear, every time he trembles with the possibility that I might be slipping away, it only makes me want to pull him back in—reminding him that he belongs to me, and that his suffering only makes him love me more.”
I hope this answers your question. You’re actively encouraging the mental and emotional abuse of men by highlighting enjoying his fear, his jealousy, his inadequacies, his struggles, his suffering all for the sake of YOUR pleasure alone. You say as you are empowered he gets to enjoy the overflow. The only overflow he gets is cleaning you up. This is mental and emotional abuse.
He doesn’t get to enjoy intimacy with you as you get it elsewhere. You point out how he’s in chastity and there is no mention of this being removed, ever. He gets to to watch you have fun and he gets nothing apart from a Stockholm Syndrome sense of being happy for you as that’s all he gets. This is mental and emotional abuse.
Even the aftercare is all about the woman and twisting the knife into the husband. He gets to cuddle you while he’s frustrated and rejected because he can’t satisfy you, and you’ve convinced him that this is ok. This is mental and emotional abuse.
When people throw around serious terms like “rape” or “abuse” to describe consensual adult kink, they not only misunderstand the lifestyle—they trivialize actual trauma survivors. That’s harmful, and it’s dangerous.
The first blog you mentioned even has role-play in the title. These types of activities are negotiated, agreed upon and entered into by consenting adults with safe words, boundaries and aftercare. Rape is defined by the absence of consent and consensual kink hinges on consent.
For some it should never leave the realm of role play, for others it can truly be a sexual dynamic or lifestyle but to be clear it isn’t for everyone. You quoted parts of my writing but left out many blogs about healing, devotion, emotional safety, aftercare, boundaries and communication. That’s not abuse, its evolved intimacy.
Yes I speak openly about humiliation because many men find that it is one of very few ways to tap directly into emotion and give erotic release, closeness and emotional vulnerability. It is kink, not punishment. Humiliation in a kink scenario is not the same as degradation, it is consensual roleplay.
This story, is consensual role play. Could Tora’s story be more explicit about consent/communication etc. Yes. I personally didn’t find it problematic but I’ve added my own notes to some of her other erotic stories when I feel like they need it. I don’t want to discourage her writing because frankly I love it but I’ll add subtext when it is required.
The one I had the most visceral reaction to was this one because it speaks of “hate” which is a very strong word and represents deep seated resentment but even that I didn’t find problematic because it represents the deep struggle that people, especially women go through. It is interesting to step back and consider where those emotions come from. Why did I feel the way I felt?
No one has a right to go through life unoffended, but feeling offended can be an opportunity to explore your own boundaries, desires, needs, and even unresolved trauma. Sometimes what offends us most deeply also points to what we secretly crave, fear, or haven’t made peace with.
Thanks for your response and I am an actual trauma survivor so I’m not trivialising anything. Would you like me to list the physical, mental and emotional trauma and abuse I suffered at the hands of my mother and then at the hands of my ex wife? Perhaps then you’d understand why I respond the way I do when every day is a new blog encouraging women to humiliate and degrade their men.
I do have unresolved trauma and PTSD and I am in therapy for it. I fear and haven’t made peace with it so you’re quite correct.
I admit I’ve not read all your blogs. I have read some on aftercare and I quoted one because it simply talks about her aftercare and how he can help her after a cuckold visit. How he can clean her, how he can run her a bath, how he can do all different things for her, but nothing for him apart from some empty thanks for him allowing her to get exactly what she wants while he gets nothing.
That’s not true aftercare because he’s not getting cared for. His humiliation, jealousy and frustration are all being ignored completely while she states how much of a good evening she had.
You even continue to make more and more extreme examples of him helping her, but nothing for him apart from empty platitudes.
One thing I will say is your blog today https://evolvingyourman.com/2025/05/02/kink-life-balance-relationship/ explains clearly about some of the more day to day dynamics which I’ve never been able to find elsewhere. I loved this blog and hope you do more like these.
You mention that these activities are entered into by consenting adults with safe words and boundaries except safe words are never mentioned (that I have found in your recent blogs anyway) boundaries are mentioned in the aftercare but nowhere else. It’s a bit late to be checking boundaries in aftercare. Besides, I’ve never seen an aftercare blog of yours which truly cares for him? If you can link one I’d be glad to read it. All the ones I’ve read talk about aftercare for her only and as I said before he gets empty platitudes.
I’d also enjoy your blogs about healing, devotion, emotional safety, boundaries and communication as well, as long as these give equal focus on his as well as hers as most I’ve read only focus on hers. Quite what healing and emotional safety she needs I don’t know when she’s getting everything she wants and gets to watch her husband suffer for it and enjoy his suffering.
Where have you got this idea many men link humiliation with tapping into positive emotions like closeness. How can negative emotions like fear, terror and jealousy, frustration, help anyone tap into anything positive?
Emotional vulnerability is tricky as if you are vulnerable you’re open to being hurt as well as I know to my personal cost but yes it can also lead to pleasure. Basically vulnerability is letting one’s guard down. If, when my guard is down my theoretical wife sticks a proverbial dagger in me, do you think I’m going to show vulnerability again?
However if like my ex, when I’m vulnerable and she provides a loving safe space and truly cares for me, my feelings and my emotional safety then that leads me to trusting her implicitly and being vulnerable with her much more often. She and I were close and I tapped into my emotions, not through her humiliating me but through tenderness, love and care.
Thanks for the notes on Tora’s stories because while they are effective in drawing readers into the story, their lack of details re consent, re safewords, re choices etc makes them highly problematic.
I also read the story you linked about hate and I was tempted to use it as another example myself, since again it involves the usual contempt and disregard for husbands that appears in all her writings I’ve read so far.
Her use of the word hate didn’t trigger me as much as other stories, as I was expecting her to write how men are useless, how women should use and abuse them and I wasn’t disappointed. It just featured in a different way in this story. Yes it’s a deep seated struggle that everyone goes through, not just women. Hence the rise in divorce rates. I’ll say as I always do, if one hates ones partner or isn’t satisfied then leave. Don’t cheat either physically, emotionally or as in this story fantasising. Women rip men to pieces for watching porn because the men are getting off to other women’s bodies. However apparently it’s fine for women to fantasise about other men. The hypocrisy is blatant in this story.
My boundaries, desires and needs are clear. I want to be in an FLR. I want to meet a dominant woman. However one who will never humiliate, degradate, never tell me how useless I am, never tell me that I’m not enough for her, never tell me how small I am and never deliberately hurt me.
I’m looking for a strong loving, courageous leader who will be my captain as I’m her lieutenant. She’ll be my queen as I’m her knight. She’ll recognise my skills, my talents and my uses and will utilise them all to lift us both up as a couple. I can be her biggest supporter, the wind beneath her wings, as long as our relationship is one of mutual respect, mutual love and mutual care, but where she’s in command.
The finest commanders, the best CEOs, the best generals recognise and utilise the skills of those below them. The worst commanders, the worst CEOs are the ones who take what those below them provide and never give anything back. All your recent blogs and Tora’s stories are all about women only taking and giving nothing back except empty platitudes and half hearted attempts to show that somehow a man who’s been told how useless, small and unsatisfying he is, actually enjoys being told this.
There may be men that do enjoy this, I’ll admit. However I suspect the number of men who instead enjoy being vulnerable and during that vulnerability, being provided a safe space, to cry and show other emotions which men are usually told to suppress, far outweigh the ones who get off on the humiliation. One catches more flies with honey than with vinegar after all.
One of the problems in the world is the patriarchy and how it tells men to suppress their emotions apart from anger and hate. If we want to get men to express their emotions in a healthy way, starting with humiliating them is absolutely the worst thing anyone can do.
There is a reason gentle femdom exists after all. This style of femdom perfectly encapsulates encouraging men to be vulnerable, to be submissive, devoted and safe precisely because it offers safety for the men to do so as gentle femdom is just that, gentle, caring and helping men to be vulnerable. However most FLRs I’ve yet found take the opposite approach of pain, humiliation and degradation.
Marissa Rudders books on FLR start out as a mixture of Reverse incel/ Andrew Tate philosophy in that they claim over and over again that men are inferior in every way and which if they were spoken by a man about women, would have that man lambasted like Tate is.
The first book contains some wisdom amongst her views about love, respect and communication, and yet the following books immediately descend into telling women how to use, and abuse their men for their own pleasure without caring for their men at all. It’s all about the woman’s pleasure, her goals, her aspirations. Nothing about his and quite the reverse.
If I am ever to successfully get into and FLR and my partner didn’t care anything about my goals, my aspirations and my pleasure because those didn’t matter as only hers matter then the relationship would be dead before it started.
This is getting quite far off topic from Tora’s story so I don’t think this is the right place to respond further on this but I do hope the trauma gets healed and I appreciate you visiting the site. If you would like to discuss more, hop over to the forum.
It’s just a erotic story? If you don’t like it, move on. I don’t know why you seem so angry.
You get off on rape stories?
Rape no but I am a fan of cnc stories which this also is not. Where is the rape in this story? Why are you so angry?
You obviously don’t understand consent rules. Pressuring someone, forcing someone into agreeing to perform a sex act makes the subsequent sex act rape.
When a girl is pressured by her boyfriend by cajoling, ordering, threats of punishment i think we can all agree makes any subsequent sexual act SA or rape, under UK law at least.
When the man in the story is pressured by his wife into performing the act he’s clearly hesitant to do, this changes the dynamics of the situation to SA or rape.
Tora loves creampie cleanups and god she describes them so hot. I am obsessed with the way she writes.
A locked male, throbbing with lust sits helplessly and watches his shapely lady having sex with another man. I find this wonderfully erotic!
David should now follow her into the shower, clean her, dry her off, while listening respectfully to her tell him “It could have been you, dear, if only you were big enough” while he remains locked and frustrated. Later, when they go to bed, she should cuddle up behind him, gently rubbing her large boobs against his back and grinding her womanhood into his tailbone. When he begs to be released from his cage, her proper response should be: “No dear, not until I say so” Sweet dreams David! 🙂