Managing modern relationships can be difficult for both genders. Women can find this especially challenging due to all of the expectations of today's woman. I don't know about you but finding a guy who is appreciative of what we go through is challenging if not impossible. I was working on a master's program in the psychology field and recently had to put that on hold due to the pandemic. In the meantime I've continued to use my personal relationships as guinea pigs (sorry fellas). Truth is, they don't mind because it enhances intimacy, closeness and the overall quality of the relationship. I've had a couple long term and very fulfilling relationships that followed this formula. I've currently been with my boyfriend whom I reference frequently on this blog. We've been together for about five years, have a wonderful relationship and marriage may be in our future.
More attractive women typically have traits that the male mind finds more suitable for reproduction. When you do something to subconsciously limit his ability to find value in a woman, he puts all of that value and admiration directly into you. This may seem manipulative and maybe it is but it directs his hormones and sexual energy in such a way that he is laser focused on your emotional and physical needs. Nobody else in the world can exist but you.
How can I get my boyfriend/husband to focus his energy on me? The number one thing that I attribute to this success is being in complete control of the sexual aspect of your relationship. I don't mean that you have to be on top every time, do the act of sex however you want but ensure that he must ask you for sex. If he attempts to initiate sex without asking permission, break off sexual activity and shoo him away.
Maintaining control of his sexual release ensures that you are of sexual value and importance to him. Women are of a certain value to men, prettier women are more valuable than less attractive women. While one can argue that it isn't fair, that's fine and frankly I would agree with you but that is just how it is. I know, I've upset a few of you. Sorry. My point is that men find value in attractive women because of the prospect of having sex with them. If your limit his sexual release, the inherent value that he sees in you changes and his brain tells him that you are the most valuable woman in his little world. This little brain hack ensures that he doesn't look elsewhere and his brain fixates directly on you.
If he asks for sex, don't answer right away. Consider it for a moment before responding. This will ensure that he knows you are weighing the pros and cons and not overly anxious to hop in bed with him. Suggest and tease sex through the day and change your mind once you get home and comfortable. Too tired, headache, explosive diarrhea, we've all used these reasons before. You want to show him that sex with him is a privilege and never something that you owe him. Although you want him to sexualize your body, you don't want him to objectify it. You are in a partnership and both of your bodies are part of the enjoyment of that relationship. Make him feel important to you in all ways but sex, in that department you should make him feel important but unnecessary.
Sex is certainly not something that he will receive from you simply because you promised it earlier in the day. This will continue to reinforce his sexual needs coming second to yours in the relationship. You want to demonstrate a level of sexual superiority and as you build this dynamic, he will begin to feel less confident in the bedroom. As his confidence wanes, he will come to you for more and more of his confidence. Eventually he will come to gain confidence by pleasing you. As such he will be greatly impacted if you are displeased. …
