In my previous blog about antisocial distancing, I talked about physical touch and separated it from sex. In this one I will do just the opposite. What about when touching your sexy bits isn't about sex at all. I started researching tantra and massage shortly after posting our tantric troll's story.
The penis is referred to as linghma in tantra's language. The lingham means wand of light. Pretty cool, right? Calm down there tiger, don't start waving it around like a light saber (I'm admittedly jealous). So how can you do it at home? How can you make him feel loved? Start first by finding a dimly let area without distractions. Light a candle with a relaxing scent, turn off electronics and minimize all other distractions.
Take some time to relax his body with a warm wet towel and place your hands over his genital area. Drip some oil, lotion or water based lubricant on him and gently massage and stroke his testes.
It may seem strange or awkward at first but make and hold eye contact with him. Lock eyes and be one with him. Share his emotions, smiles, laughs everything is ok. You want to be with him completely.
Use a firm stroke from head to base and back up again. The erogenous zones are from halfway above the knee to his belly button. Focus on that area and move up and down. Alternate your speed and pressure in tune with his reactions. If he appears to get close, slow your touch and back off.
Remember that this isn't about orgasm, this is about experiencing a bond and a closeness with someone else. If your partner is locked, this is a great exercise to reinforce teasing. There is absolutely no problem with unlocking him for something like this and locking him up shortly after. Physical touch is a beautiful thing. …
That was an interesting read, even massages are so intimate and this take it to a whole different place. Relaxation techniques are a big part of prenatal care (for those that are interested we follow something called the Bradley method for pregnancy, which focuses on natural healthy birth. The U.S. is horrible most things healthcare and maternity care is no exception) and preparation and we try to practice that several nights a week if possible. I read through the link you provided, do you have more information available. Especially about technique or about benefits during pregnancy.
I plan on doing my own research but maybe you will have something I missed or passed over.
Thank Emma (or anyone who can help)
I did some looking and found that yoni massages are safe and healthy for pregnant women. In fact there seems to be quite a few tantric therapist that have both pre and post natal options.
This will be something that I try my hand at incorporating into the current exercise and relaxation routine for my wife for the rest of the term.