It is common knowledge that many kinks are born of insecurities, the incredible human brain sexualizes potentially hurtful things and makes us embrace them. Weird and counterintuitive but it is a real thing. Really real. Realest of real. Our society values the penis and attaches a manly subtext to men with a large penis and feminine subtext to men with smaller ones. It shouldn't come as a surprise that many men self-shame with sexual performance and the ability to please a woman so closely tied to the male vision of success.
Just as women are held to unrealistic size expectations, men are too. We are expected to have a size 0 waist with enormous back pain inducing busoms. Men are expected to have a large unrealistic and frankly sexually unappealing penis. Yes men, that's right. Bigger is not better. Larger penises come with a higher risk of infection, injury and pain.
Body shaming is just as common for women as it is for men especially in that department. I'm guilty of it as I think many of us are. With regard to fat shaming that women experience, many studies show that it isn't motivational. Shaming a woman's body over her weight can actually trigger biological processes (specifically cortisol) that make you gain more weight. Shaming a guy for his penis size isn't going to boost their cortisol and change their size of his willy but it might cause some other reactions.
Body shaming can absolutely be toxic and cause psychological issues like self esteem, depression, risk of suicide and anxiety. Men are especially at risk because they are taught from a young age to keep their feelings to themselves. This means they internalize those feelings and never properly deal with them. It is even reported that Adolph Hitler may have suffered from a bit of phallus imperfectus. Did his penis abnormalities contribute to his insane murdering of millions of people? I have no idea let's move along, this is taking my blog into a direction that I don't want to go.
Deep breath. OK let's move on.
Small penis humiliation is consensual roleplay in which one person verbally humiliates another person for the size of his penis. There are varying degrees of erotic humiliation from giggling and calling him tiny to spitting on him and calling him worthless for his under-endowment. For the purpose of this blog let's roll with the first of those two, I don't want to celebrate degradation too much. The men on the receiving end of SPH report that they find it sexually arousing, many of them don't even have a below average sized penis which I find curious indeed. Small penis humiliation may be similar in many ways to self deprecating humor. When we make fun of ourselves, our brains may take in at least a small percentage of what we are saying as fact even when it is said in jest. If you joke about it being small, you may eventually accept that as your self-penis-image.…
I don’t have a SP. I kinda wish I did. I’m not huge. I’m definitely a grower not a show’r. So SPH doesn’t quite work for me. But I ejaculate in seconds. Always have. Can there be more useless p. Humiliation? I feel like I don’t fit into any groupings. (Just like high school lol)
There should be a minute man month. Premature Ejaculators April lol.
I want you to feel included!
wow, those are some cool ideas. I wonder how I would react if I was subjected to it by my wife.
I bet it would be an emotional roller coaster. Give it a try and see what sorts of emotions sprout up! Role playing is fun even if it isn’t real. Don’t forget the aftercare.
I am a male with a small penis, spurt very quickly, live in a FLR for 15 years and SPH has been part of the FLR for a long time.
SPH is a very difficult field. Sure, some basic psychological mechanisms can be identified. But they can not explain everything. I have had a lot of contact with men who also like SPH. Unfortunately there were less contact with women doing SPH.
For me, the following results emerged from the discussions with males (order without evaluation):
1.) Those men experience great humiliation by having to humiliate themselves. Be it towards their wife or others, also on the internet. It is deeply ashaming to have to explain to others how useless, ugly, incapable one’s own penis is. Also to answer their questions such as “what does your wife say about that” or “how often does he still get hard”? and endure the laughter at the answers.
2.) The permanent humiliation of the penis without a special reason is at most a great thing at the very beginning, but it quickly becomes boring. After all, the wife doesn’t discover “hey, that’s a small cock – I’m going to humiliate it now” every day new. Things that happen all the time lose their sincerity for both, the husband and his wife. Hence the SPH-September is a good collection of ideas, but applied daily it is too much of a good thing.
3.) Many of those men wish they could be allowed (or even forced) to prove at certain intervals that their penis can be used for something. A penis test, so to speak, or a penis challenge.They want to be challenged to make an effort for their goddess! This can be things like practicing how to keep the cock erect without cumming over a period of time or having to use a penis pump daily and keeping a record of success to present to the wife at the end of each month. Needless to say how this will end. You just have to think of it as resetting to the SPH zero point.
4.) Many men find it particularly humiliating when their wives blackmail them with SPH. “Shall I show my girlfriend pictures of your broken hose? Shall I tell your mother how bad you are in bed? What are you willing to do to prevent me from doing that?”
Many also like to be teased about it: “I met your work colleague yesterday, he flirted with me a lot. Nothing has happened yet, but I gave him a little to understand that I’m not averse, because after all you’re not particularly efficient.”
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