Exploring cuckolding was a decision that brought my husband and me closer than ever. From the moment we first discussed it, we both knew there was excitement and eagerness. This was something we wanted to explore, a shared fantasy that ignited a spark in both of us. As you can read from this blog, there was a tremendous amount of fear, aversion and anxiety around it. For a time, I outwardly rejected it as an unhealthy dynamic for a relationship. My religious upbringing made me somewhat more trepidations but his encouragement and sense of safety made it something I felt comfortable exploring with him.
Reflecting on those initial experiences now, I can still vividly recall the overwhelming mix of sensations. One memory in particular stands out: I was lying beneath another man—my husband’s best friend, no less. My husband’s eyes were glued to the scene, wide with both anticipation and a raw, primal excitement that mirrored my own. His expression was a blend of awe, love, and an intoxicating arousal that seemed to radiate from him. He looked at me with a blend of deep love, desire and lust that I’ve seen rarely from anyone.
As my lover’s movements quickened, I could feel the tension building inside me. The sight of my husband’s face heightened my pleasure as I looked deep into his eyes and held my breath. In that moment, I realized how deep our connection truly ran. This wasn’t just about sex; it was about trust, exploration, and an intimate bond that had grown far stronger through this shared experience.
The climactic moment arrived with an intensity that left me breathless. My lover’s thrusts became more erratic, and I felt the familiar, undeniable warmth of his release filling me. The guttural groan he let out was matched by a soft gasp from my husband. I looked over at him, our eyes locking in a moment of pure, unfiltered intimacy. I could see only his love for me, the deep care and safety you can feel from a partner that you know loves you unconditionally. Further, the joy it brought me seeing his arousal at the sight, and the deep sense of satisfaction this brought him. I did a good job.
As my lover pulled out, I felt his cum starting to trickle out of me, a tangible reminder of what had just transpired. My husband moved closer, his eyes never leaving mine. He leaned in and kissed me, his tongue exploring my mouth as he tasted the remnants of another man’s pleasure. There was no embarrassment, only an immense turn-on for both of us. I touched myself and pulled my cum covered finger to my husband’s mouth, his acceptance of my fingers into his mouth signified acceptance, approval and submission to me and my sexual needs.
That first time my husband saw another man cum in me was unforgettable, but it was only the beginning. Each encounter since has deepened our bond, each man’s climax inside me a testament to the unique dynamic we have embraced. The sight of my husband watching and the approval and love I experienced as he participated in the cleanup, has become a cornerstone of our intimate life. It’s a potent mix of arousal and trust, of shared pleasure and exploration.
Over time, witnessing the bond shared between the love of my life and another man has become hotter and hotter. Knowing that another man is filling me while my husband watches, aroused and envious, heightens the experience. My bareback preference adds to the intimacy and closeness, making it even more thrilling.
The act of another man cumming inside me while my husband watches transforms our connection. For me, it’s a blend of vulnerability and empowerment, feeling the physical closeness and the raw intensity of the moment. The sensation of being filled by another man, with my husband’s gaze upon me, heightens my pleasure, creating an almost addictive mix of ecstasy and emotional release. There’s an intimate satisfaction in knowing that my husband is part of this experience, that his presence intensifies the moment for both of us. He is so close but so far.
For my husband, watching another man cum inside me is an experience that defies traditional boundaries. It evokes a primal response, blending arousal with a sense of surrender to the moment and surrender to my feminine energy. There’s a profound depth in witnessing his wife in such an intimate act, an almost meditative state where jealousy transforms into shared pleasure. Seeing another man fulfill his wife brings an unexpected pride and deepens the emotional bond we share. It’s a journey into uncharted territory, exploring the dark waters of desire and trust, finding new depths in our relationship.
As we’ve grown together, we’ve found that humiliation adds to the equation and further provokes these feelings of security and compersion. It also adds meaning to him in an overtly subconscious way. Why is another man laying on top of my wife and pumping furiously? The deep feelings of insecurity and not being good enough exist within us all and they are deeply vulnerable moments. As I look into his eyes and tell him that my lover is so much bigger than he is, so much more muscular and so much more of a man. These things are undeniable because they are in his face. He can see the difference in the penis size of the lovers I select. He can see the taller stature and more muscular appearance that the men I select for myself carry. I choose based upon sexual prowess and physical arousal, but he is the pinnacle of emotional arousal. None of this would be possible for me without t him. He once asked what I would do without him and I said I would look for you or someone just like you.
For wives considering this path, I encourage you to embrace the idea and explore it with your partner. Imagine the intensity of letting your husband witness such an intimate moment. The act of making him watch is about deepening the emotional and psychological connection. It’s about laying bare your deepest desires and seeing his arousal, love, and devotion in response. Embrace this journey, and you may discover an entirely new dimension to your relationship, one filled with unparalleled empowerment, trust and intimacy. While it may seem backwards, our hottest cuckold experience has been about truly cuckolding my husband. Truly doing this to him, taking the reins and controlling the situation. Not doing this with him as a group effort. This is about empowerment and sexual energy. If he has control then it relieves you of the energy and has the potential to make it about your husband controlling your sexuality, something that couldn’t be any less arousing to me.
For husbands considering this journey, it offers a unique perspective and thrill into your own wiring and genetic proclivities that make you innately male. Watching your wife in such an intimate act with another person can be incredibly arousing and humbling, pushing the boundaries of your own pleasure, trust and allowing you to redefine your own image of masculinity. It’s about experiencing the depth of your partner’s desires and the strength of your own emotions. It is about allowing your wife to take unbridled control of her sexual energy and feel empowered knowing that you are by her side, supporting her as she takes what she wants. The psychological and emotional journey can be as rewarding as the physical act itself.
If you are considering this path, remember that it’s about the journey of discovery together. Men often struggle with communicating openly about this sort of thing especially when they find it humiliating, wrong and unmanly. I encourage you to push him to communicate about the things he wants from this type of dynamic. Knowing the answers to important questions will help you understand how to guide the experience to best suit the needs of both. Despite you taking control of the situation, this is about both of you and the bond you share together. Communicate openly with your partner, establish boundaries, and trust in the strength of your bond. The rewards of such an intimate exploration can be immense, transforming your relationship in ways you might never have thought possible.
Questions to promote discussion
If he doesn’t take them seriously and doesn’t give full and complete, honest and vulnerable responses – stop and continue again later. Many of them are written to be especially titillating because they will give you a unique response by provoking that side of his brain.
- Would you find it more arousing for me to have one man or several? Why?
- Do you want him to cum inside me? If no, why? If yes, what about him cumming inside me is arousing to you?
- How do you feel about his penis size? How would it make you feel if he was bigger than you? Why would you feel that way?
- How would you feel if your friends found out that you enjoy watching your wife fuck another man? Why?
- Would you hold my hand while he fucks me? Would you look into my eyes? If so, what is the importance of those things for you? If not, why?
- Would you find it hotter for me to find the man myself or for you to find suitable men for me to select from? What about this is arousing to you? Do you see this as part of caring for me?
- Would you want to have sex with me after he had finished inside me? Why would this be arousing to you?
- Would you want the guy to be someone we know? Why or why not?
- What if cuckold sex was the only sex we had together from now on? How would that make you feel?
- How would you feel if my lover said humiliating things to you? If he was dominant toward you and expected your submission?
- How would you feel if I asked you to go in the bathroom and masturbate prior to a cuckold experience with me? I wouldn’t begin until you had emptied your tank.
- Would you go down on me after my lover finishes inside me? How would this feel to you? What about this is arousing? What does this deeply submissive action say to me?
- Would you suck my lover’s cock to prepare him for me? What would this make you feel? What meaning would you hope I would take from it?
- How would you feel if I reminded you about his penis size, if I compared the two of you and verbally explained what was obvious? What would that response say about your masculinity? What would it say about our cuckold relationship?
- Would you want to watch me with several men? Why?
- How would it make you feel to watch me with several men but not be permitted to participate?
- How would you feel about taking his load on your face? Kneeling and waiting for his sticky cum to dry before being allowed to stand and clean yourself.
- How would you feel the appropriate way to address me during a scene? Would you be comfortable calling me your queen? How would it make you feel to address me like that?
- How about the bull, would you be comfortable calling him king or sir? How would it make you feel to submit to him in this way?
- How would you feel about this being a one-way arrangement with me able to seek other lovers but you staying exclusive to me? Explain why.
- If I was to say humiliating things to you, would you like it? Why do you think you would/wouldn’t like it?
- Would you like my bull to say humiliating things to you? Why do you think you would/wouldn’t like it?
- How would you feel watching me give him oral sex? How would this compare to our sex life?
- How about humiliation, are there any topics or insults that would be especially arousing for me to say? Is there anything that should be off the table?
- Why would you want to be involved instead of staying at home while I do this on my own? What about being present adds benefit for me? What about you being present adds benefit for you?
- Would you wear a chastity cage in a cuckold situation with me? Why? What would it symbolize?
- Would you wear a chastity cage in a non-sexual situation with me whenever I ask? What would it symbolize?
- Would you limit your masturbation to videos of me and my lover(s) exclusively? What would this shift mean to you and to us?
- What if I told you to go to his hotel room and pleasure him without me? Would you? How would me requesting that you pleasure another man make you feel?
- What about deeply submitting to a man that I’ve taken for a lover is arousing to you?
- Could you be friends outside of the bedroom with him?
- When would the dynamic shift and how would you see it shifting?
- Why do you think we need to explore a cuckold relationship together? What do you think is lacking in our relationship to where I need to seek another man to satisfy me?
- What about being humiliated is arousing to you? Why would any man want to be humiliated by his wife?
- If I went and did something with my lover without your presence but came home and asked to sit on your face. What would that mean to you? What would you hope it would mean to me?
- How would you feel about my lover coming into our home and having sex with me in our bed?
- How would you feel about calling my lover to come over when I tell you I am feeling especially horny.
- How do you feel you should address him when he arrives at the door? What should you say? What should you do?
- If we all sat to watch a movie, how would we sit? What would you find arousing for me to do to start things off and make him feel welcome?
- What can I do to set the tone of making him feel like a king in our home? How can you show submission to him in your own home?
- Would you be alright with showing submission to him? Do you feel like it is important to show submission to him in a non-sexual setting? Why?
- What else would you like to share about this fantasy? Did I miss anything that you want to talk about?
“As you can read from this blog, there was a tremendous amount of fear, aversion and anxiety around it. For a time, I outwardly rejected it as an unhealthy dynamic for a relationship. My religious upbringing made me somewhat more trepidations but his encouragement and sense of safety made it something I felt comfortable exploring with him.”
Please correct me if I am wrong. In the beginning, it was your desire to fuck another man on a day when you and then fiancé Kev were playing ping pong with a neighbor. You asked Kev and he allowed. Soon after, an emotional relationship developed with this man and he became a regular in your bed with you and Kev. Shortly after that, you suggested that Kev wait outside the bedroom on the couch while you had sex with this neighbor, and from there, significant and much deeper feelings developed between you, Kev, and this man, culminating in disappointment when he moved far away for work. The journey down this path was desired and led by you but all the while you needed Kev to ‘green light’ all of the activities, and just as important, the direction and depth this was going, which by all accounts he gave.
Also, during all of that time, you hated the work cuckold because it was disrespectful and degrading and your feelings for Kev prevented you from putting his feelings in harm’s way. Clearly, things have evolved for both of you and it seems that Kev has evolved into a man who desires, even craves the humiliation that comes from words and being relegated to something less than primary when it comes to having sex with the woman he loves.
All that said, a question if I may … Is there any level of hesitation or remorse from your husband regarding how and where things have developed, or is he genuinely more and deeper in love with you know than he was then?
Forgive me for being so personal, but I think you know my feelings about the humiliation and degradation that comes along with cuckolding, and the anxiety (for me) that comes with it.
Given how far that you have come and how much you have changed, it would be interesting to hear what kind of advice and wisdom that you would give to the version of yourself that you describe in the first paragraph of this post. It is pretty safe to assume that the majority of those interested in the kind of stuff you write about are men. Maybe even 99% of them are men while women would take the perspective of first paragraph Emma. Fear, aversion, anxiety, and trepidation. You ended the article with a bunch of questions to ask your husband but maybe even more important would be, what questions should the husband ask of her or even better, what questions should she ask to herself.
Hello,
For me the interest in the blog has increased since cuckolding has been introduced in it.
I find the subject arousing and very interesting as a humiliating and hard to carry on practice.
Thanks.
Hello. Great great job.
These are my answers.
Would you find it more arousing for me to have one man or several? Why?
Several. Avoid an intimate relationship with just one lover. I would feel you more powerful towards me.
Do you want him to cum inside me? If no, why? If yes, what about him cumming inside me is arousing to you?
Yes. Girls like it. So do I.
How do you feel about his penis size? How would it make you feel if he was bigger than you? Why would you feel that way?
I feel submissive if he is bigger than me because he can give you more pleasure.
How would you feel if your friends found out that you enjoy watching your wife fuck another man? Why?
Bad. Being submissive or loving being hurt is not socially acceptable for men.
Would you hold my hand while he fucks me? Would you look into my eyes? If so, what is the importance of those things for you? If not, why?
No. Maybe. I don’t know.
Would you find it hotter for me to find the man myself or for you to find suitable men for me to select from? What about this is arousing to you? Do you see this as part of caring for me?
Interesting question. I would feel more comfortable if I could decide who is going to be with you. If it were imposed for me to choose I would feel humiliated and would feel it as one of the duties of a cuckold husband.
On the other hand not being able to decide would make me feel jealous and out of power.
One of the most arousing moments I have red about was a situation I red in a femdom blog. The wife told her husband she had been with a man her husband-slave didn’t like. He got angry and left the room. She made him come back and gave him a good ass spanking.
When the husband calmed down came back to her, apologized and accepted she could have sex with whoever she wanted. It was very exciting for me to read.
Would you want to have sex with me after he had finished inside me? Why would this be arousing to you?
Not specially.
Would you want the guy to be someone we know? Why or why not?
No. It would involve other feelings than sex. Friendship…
What if cuckold sex was the only sex we had together from now on? How would that make you feel?
I like standard sex. I don’t know…I would have to see how it feels. How torturing/pleasant it can be.
How would you feel if my lover said humiliating things to you? If he was dominant toward you and expected your submission?
I don’t feel attracted to the idea of a man dominating me.
How would you feel if I asked you to go in the bathroom and masturbate prior to a cuckold experience with me? I wouldn’t begin until you had emptied your tank.
I think that would be too much for me. Retention is the fuel to make greys into white.
Would you go down on me after my lover finishes inside me? How would this feel to you? What about this is arousing? What does this deeply submissive action say to me?
I would prefer he leaves the room before, but yes. It looks tasty unless its taste mustn’t be so good.
That action says to you that I share the fantasy with you and that you deserve my submission for behaving as a domme towards me.
Would you suck my lover’s cock to prepare him for me? What would this make you feel? What meaning would you hope I would take from it?
I would have to be “forced” to do it. It would mean that I accept your humiliation.
How would you feel if I reminded you about his penis size, if I compared the two of you and verbally explained what was obvious? What would that response say about your masculinity? What would it say about our cuckold relationship?
I would prefer you to do it when we are alone.
Would you want to watch me with several men? Why?
No. I don’t like it. Too much people.
How would it make you feel to watch me with several men but not be permitted to participate?
Idem.
How would you feel about taking his load on your face? Kneeling and waiting for his sticky cum to dry before being allowed to stand and clean yourself.
Dark dark grey.
How would you feel the appropriate way to address me during a scene? Would you be comfortable calling me your queen? How would it make you feel to address me like that?
I would prefer not to be present.
How about the bull, would you be comfortable calling him king or sir? How would it make you feel to submit to him in this way?
I don’t like submitting to men.
How would you feel about this being a one-way arrangement with me able to seek other lovers but you staying exclusive to me? Explain why.
I would feel a strong feeling of being owned and very submissive towards you.
If I was to say humiliating things to you, would you like it? Why do you think you would/wouldn’t like it?
It depends on what things. Ok if those things fuel my desire.
Would you like my bull to say humiliating things to you? Why do you think you would/wouldn’t like it?
No.
How would you feel watching me give him oral sex? How would this compare to our sex life?
I would find it very arousing. I would know he is feeling the same things I feel.
How about humiliation, are there any topics or insults that would be especially arousing for me to say? Is there anything that should be off the table?
Arousing: I own you. You are mine and I can do whatever I want. This is what awaits you for the rest of your life.
Why would you want to be involved instead of staying at home while I do this on my own? What about being present adds benefit for me? What about you being present adds benefit for you?
I would prefer to stay at home, but I would like my partner to be present if I were at your place.
Would you wear a chastity cage in a cuckold situation with me? Why? What would it symbolize?
Yes, at home during your night or weekend out. Torture for me, pleasure for you.
Would you wear a chastity cage in a non-sexual situation with me whenever I ask? What would it symbolize?
Yes. Permanent ownership and arousing torture.
Would you limit your masturbation to videos of me and my lover(s) exclusively? What would this shift mean to you and to us?
Yes if you want to. That’s rather wicked. A way to convert me into a permanent cuckold who just gets pleasure from your pleasure with other men.
What if I told you to go to his hotel room and pleasure him without me? Would you? How would me requesting that you pleasure another man make you feel?
Dark dark grey. Very perverted and humiliating.
What about deeply submitting to a man that I’ve taken for a lover is arousing to you?
Not much.
Could you be friends outside of the bedroom with him?
Perhaps.
When would the dynamic shift and how would you see it shifting?
Up to you and me. Fundamentally you.
Why do you think we need to explore a cuckold relationship together? What do you think is lacking in our relationship to where I need to seek another man to satisfy me?
New feelings.
What about being humiliated is arousing to you? Why would any man want to be humiliated by his wife?
It arouses me the fact of women on top.
If I went and did something with my lover without your presence but came home and asked to sit on your face. What would that mean to you? What would you hope it would mean to me?
It depends on if I were aware of the encounter or not.
How would you feel about my lover coming into our home and having sex with me in our bed?
Arousing. Embarrassing.
How would you feel about calling my lover to come over when I tell you I am feeling especially horny.
I would let you two alone.
How do you feel you should address him when he arrives at the door? What should you say? What should you do?
Interesting saying “should” instead of “would”.
If we all sat to watch a movie, how would we sit? What would you find arousing for me to do to start things off and make him feel welcome?
Unbutton his pants.
What can I do to set the tone of making him feel like a king in our home? How can you show submission to him in your own home?
Telling each one what he has to do.
Would you be alright with showing submission to him? Do you feel like it is important to show submission to him in a non-sexual setting? Why?
I wouldn’t feel so confortable.
What else would you like to share about this fantasy? Did I miss anything that you want to talk about?
I find very arousing when the wife tells her husband “Come here. Now you know what you have to do”. To tell him it’s time to clean her up.
I find very exciting when the husband is treated like a slave.
Thank you.
Nice post with a lot of good info. It’s just sad that the contributors to this site consist basically of Emma and about 5 guys. The few women who do post here don’t stay around very long. Female led relationships and cuckolding are both growing in popularity, but finding women who are willing to talk about this consistently in these forums is like finding cactus in Siberia. I wonder why…
I agree. FLR’s and cuckolding are both increasing in popularity. One of those greatly increases the chances for a long, sustained happy life together and the other is like playing with fire while covered in gasoline and living on the edge of a razor.
I suspect the reason for the lack of women (or men for that matter) who are willing to consistently talk about them in these forums is that the latter is ultimately the demise of the former. Of the people I know/correspond with, other than Emma and Kev (thus far) and 2 other dominant wives who practice cuckolding, all the others have faded into oblivion. Some return later to explain that their relationship has ended, with the stated reason being that one or both of them succumbed to falling out of love with each other due to the lack of respect that grew for/of the subjugated husband, etc.
That said, I still do love consistently talking about this life with Emma, you, and the one or two other guys around here that contribute.
This kind of lifestyle is an extreme and it takes quite a bit to make it work. I get what Emma is saying. That for something like this to work there needs to be complete trust, open and honest communication, and a playful nature to relationship in order to dive in and explore these roles. Sort of like method acting for a movie, then the director says “cut” and everybody goes back to their normal lives after living in this other reality. It could never be a 24/7 thing or it would be completely unrealistic. It is like playing with fire while covered in gasoline but some people can play with fire while covered in gasoline. Not everybody and that needs to be understood.