Hi friends! Let’s dive into a topic that’s been swirling around my mind lately—emotional connection (or the lack thereof) in our busy modern world. Grab a drink, kick back, and let’s get into how we can redefine intimacy through a playful lens, especially in the context of polyamory and monogamish relationships.
Let’s face it: many of us are craving deeper emotional connections. We scroll through our feeds, filled with pictures of perfect lives, yet many of us feel a gnawing emptiness inside. In our fast-paced lives, we often prioritize work, social media, and a myriad of distractions over nurturing our most important relationships. It’s like we’re running on a treadmill, going nowhere while our emotional health takes a backseat.
Remember when relationships were about supporting one another emotionally and socially? In the past, marriage was often a transactional arrangement, primarily for family support. The real socializing happened outside the primary couple. Friends, family, and community played vital roles in providing emotional sustenance. However, as society has evolved, we’ve shifted toward an expectation that our partners should fulfill every single need we have.
That’s a pretty hefty burden to place on one person, right? I mean, can you really expect one partner to be your best friend, therapist, adventure buddy, and, oh yes, your sexual soulmate? It's unrealistic, and it leads to codependency. Instead of building a relationship based on mutual growth, we often find ourselves trapped in cycles of unmet expectations and emotional starvation.
Enter polyamory and monogamish relationships. These terms may sound a bit edgy, but they are all about embracing adult play in social interactions. Instead of fixating on the idea that one partner must meet all our emotional needs, polyamorous relationships allow for multiple connections to fulfill different aspects of our lives. This doesn’t mean abandoning commitment; rather, it’s about expanding our understanding of intimacy.
In her insightful contributions on the Netflix show Sex, Love & Goop, intimacy coach Amina Peterson emphasized that sex is, at its core, a form of adult play. Just like children engage in play to explore and learn, adults can use intimacy and sexuality as a way to connect, express, and discover. By embracing the idea of play, we can reshape our emotional connections to be healthier and more fulfilling.…
