Monogamy is easy to define when it comes to sex, right? It’s all about exclusivity—sex is shared with only one partner, and that’s the cultural norm for most people. But when we step into the world of polyamory or cuckolding, things get a little more complicated. Suddenly, the rules aren't so clear-cut, and there are no predetermined expectations about what sex should look like between partners. It’s a beautifully messy, continuing and ever evolving open-ended conversation between everyone involved.
And honestly? That’s kind of where the magic happens.
In today’s blog, let’s dive deep into the idea of sexual hierarchy in polyamorous and cuckold relationships, explore how sex as a resource plays a role in these dynamics, and why open communication is the glue that holds it all together. Whether you’re already in this type of relationship or you’re just curious, let's break down how it all fits together.
When we talk about sexual hierarchy in non-monogamous relationships, we’re referring to how different sexual roles or dynamics rank in importance or access. It's not as formal or rigid as it sounds—each relationship creates its own set of rules, and the hierarchy (if there even is one) depends on the individuals involved.
In cuckolding relationships, for example, the bull often holds a higher sexual status than the cuckolded husband. In many cases, the bull is only in the picture because of the cuckold dynamic so a heightened value in the sexual hierarchy makes sense. The wife may have primary sexual interactions with her bull, while the husband’s sexual role might be limited, replaced, or even denied altogether. Some couples enjoy this dynamic because it plays into fantasies of sexual ownership and control, but it’s important to remember that it’s all consensual and discussed openly.
In polyamorous relationships, a sexual hierarchy might emerge naturally depending on how central sex is to the connection between partners. Some relationships prioritize sex, while others might place more importance on emotional intimacy, companionship, or even shared hobbies. Everyone’s needs and preferences are different, and so are the ways in which sexual hierarchies evolve.…
