FLR Without the F: Being a Solo Submissive

Female led relationships can be a ton of fun for everyone involved, including the submissive. But what are you supposed to do when your FLR is missing the F?

In the world of BDSM and power dynamics, submission is often thought of as something that exists within the boundaries of a relationship, particularly one with a dominant partner. However, there’s an entire aspect of submission that happens outside of these conventional settings: solo submission. This practice allows individuals to explore their submissive side even when they are not in a relationship or when their partner may not be interested in playing a dominant role. Solo submission can be an incredibly empowering and fulfilling experience, offering a way to satisfy that deep-seated desire for submission on one’s own terms.

I frequently receive messages from men who long to explore their submissive side but face unique challenges. Some are not in a relationship, leaving them without a dominant partner to guide them. Others may be in relationships where their partner isn’t comfortable with role-playing or has no interest in assuming a dominant role. Still, some men feel hesitant or unsure about opening up this part of themselves to their significant other, fearing rejection or misunderstanding. These men often ask, "How can I be submissive when I don’t have someone to submit to?"

The beauty of solo submission lies in its flexibility and personal empowerment. It allows you to take control of your own experience while still engaging in acts of submission that bring you satisfaction. Whether it's through rituals, self-imposed rules, or exploring submissive fantasies privately, solo submission provides a path for men who want to live out their desires without needing to rely on a partner. It’s about finding balance, embracing your submissive side, and creating a fulfilling dynamic within yourself.

While the most obvious answer might be the simplest; find another female, sometimes that’s a lot more complicated than it sounds. So can you continue to explore the submissive aspects of your sexuality without having a dominant female in your life? At Lock the Cock, we firmly believe the answer is yes.

While solo submission can be very fulfilling to those of us not in a relationship, there’s obviously a few problems with the idea. Let’s talk about the issues you’ll face, or challenges as we prefer to call them.…