Gigi Engle’s All The Fucking Mistakes is yes another good resource n the world of modern sexuality, relationships, and personal empowerment. It’s blunt, funny, and packed with real talk about sex, love, and self-discovery. Engle, a certified sex coach and journalist, doesn’t hold back in calling out the harmful narratives we’ve been fed about relationships and intimacy. She brings a sex-positive, feminist perspective that challenges outdated notions and offers a roadmap to healthier, more fulfilling romantic dynamics.
For anyone in or curious about female led relationships (FLRs) or modern non-traditional marriage dynamics, this book should be a good resource. The fact that she used the word "fucking" in the title shows that you she is making a thinly veiled attempt at being edgy but it does a good job of mixing the value of communication, autonomy, and the idea that women should prioritize their pleasure and emotional fulfillment. These concepts of course align beautifully with female led relationship dynamics. Like any book (unless written by me ), there are a couple of areas where it doesn’t perfectly map onto every aspect of a female-led relationship. More on that later.
Engle is merciless in breaking down how traditional sex education has failed us. Most of us grew up learning a fear-based, abstinence-heavy, heteronormative script that ignored pleasure, queer relationships, and female desire. She argues that understanding and owning your sexuality is one of the most empowering things a person—especially a woman—can do.
How this aligns with FLRs: Female-led relationships thrive when women take control of their own desires and set the tone for what they want sexually and emotionally. In FLRs, pleasure isn’t just a male-focused concept—it’s something women should claim, define, and explore on their own terms. Engle’s encouragement to unlearn shame and embrace sexual autonomy fits perfectly within this framework.
One of the strongest themes in the book is the importance of radical honesty in relationships. Engle stresses that being clear about desires, boundaries, and expectations leads to healthier dynamics and deeper intimacy. This isn’t just about sex—it’s about emotional needs, deal-breakers, and making sure both partners are on the same page.
How this aligns with FLRs: A successful female-led relationship is built on clear communication. Whether it’s discussing relationship structure, sexual preferences, or emotional support, FLRs work best when women feel empowered to say what they want and expect their partner to respect and follow through. Engle’s emphasis on honest dialogue reinforces the core values of FLRs.…
