Have you ever found yourself lying in bed next to your partner, looking up at the dots on the ceiling and wondering if things in the bedroom could be… spicier, deeper, or just a little more fun? If so, you’re far from alone. Whether you’re the one craving kink or you’re hearing your partner hint at exploring new territory, it can feel intimidating to figure out where to start. That’s why I picked up Kate Sloan’s book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do—and why I think it might just belong on the nightstands of those of us navigating modern relationships, power exchange, or a female-led dynamic.
Kate Sloan is kind of like your super-knowledgeable, non-judgy friend who isn’t afraid to say the things we’re all thinking but too shy to admit. She’s been writing about sex and kink for over a decade and has built a loyal following through her blog GirlyJuice.net. Her writing is smart, tender, honest, and inclusive. What I love most is that she doesn’t make kink feel like it’s only for “the pros.” She brings it down to earth—and makes it feel like it can be yours.
Kate has a rare talent for making taboo topics feel approachable and dare I say attemptable. She’s also refreshingly real about the emotional side of kink, not just the toys and tools. And for those of us in female-led relationships, her work is empowering. It says: You can lead with confidence and compassion—and still have a whole lot of fun.
There’s a big gap between wanting more kink in your relationship and knowing how to introduce it. Maybe your sex life feels stuck in a rut, and you’re craving something new. Maybe your partner brought up a fantasy, and you froze—not because you’re opposed, but because you just don’t know what that looks like in your bedroom. Or maybe you both want more, but you’re speaking different erotic languages and can’t quite find the overlap.
101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do is for those moments. It’s for couples who are curious but cautious. Eager to let go of control but afraid to lose control. It’s not just a list—it’s a manual. Kate walks you through bite-sized, low-barrier, low cost ways to explore kink together. It’s playful, imaginative, and filled with “oh, I could totally do that” moments.
And the best part? You don’t have to be “kinky” to benefit from this book. You just need to be open-minded and willing to play. Whether you’ve never dabbled or you’re already a little kinky and looking to reconnect with your partner in a more intentional way, there’s something here for you.…
