It's come to my attention that it may not be advisable to insert Jade Eggs inside the vagina.  It's been my understanding that these eggs have been used by women for over a thousand years originating in China.  There seems to be a recent controversy between gynecologist Dr. Jen Gunter and Gwyneth Paltrow about Jade Eggs.  Dr. Gunter a OB/GYN states that Jade is porous and can harbor bacteria.  I've always heard Jade Eggs referenced as non-porous which contradicts Dr. Gunter although bleaching can cause jade to become porous.  This is outside of my expertise.  People should research and do their due diligence on the subject and consult their doctor.  I've never heard of women getting an infection from Jade Eggs following the recommended cleaning procedure.  Of course that doesn't mean it's not happening.

I don't leave it in at night.  I also don't wear it daily.  My experience has been nothing but positive in regards to more vaginal tone and moisture.  Here's a couple of links that will give some more info.

Yoni Egg FAQ

http://www.cnn.com/2017/01/27/health/jade-egg-vagina-partner/

There are thousands of women using eggs and some gynecologists that recommend against using them because of infection risk.   The user should do their research and due diligence on yoni egg usage before purchase.  There is a potential infection risk because of the porous nature of the stone.  I won't recommend them until more is known.

DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband.  Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual.  Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.…

It's important in my opinion that when you have your man retaining and he is preserving his Jing and building Chi that I prepare myself to receive that special Lingam that has been prepared for me by my loving husband.  I incorporate Yoni exercises like this to maximize  my orgasms in addition to my regular Yoga routine.  I insist on his retention for spiritual and health reasons.  Some comments I receive seem to focus on retention as a way to domesticate the man which can be a role for him as he discovers his true nature through retention.  It's not something I'm as focused on as the spiritual and intimacy benefits.  He doesn't orgasm/ejaculate while servicing me, but he does participate in the cycle of chi between us.

These videos demonstrate why it's so important that I be his discipline for retaining as he is weakest at the moment of intercourse.  While every woman is not going to be as limber, or have the vaginal strength as other women, or even be as comfortable in letting it all go and being a sexual being, there are great benefits in practicing and strengthening and fun in seeing what your yoni can be.  I'll let Grace demonstrate (Her husband also retains)

Note: The linked videos are no longer available.

Hopefully these exercises will give some insight in how to awaken your yoni.  I think this also shows why my husband needs a strong aversive stimulus to prevent ejaculation and help him focused on retaining and keep that chi cycling between us until I've received my ninth orgasm and we put his penis away until our next session that he's very much looking forward too.

I thought I would share this realizing  not every women is going to feel comfortable doing yoni exercises the way Grace does.  Hopefully though this can give you some ideas, and then you can make your own sexual prep practices something that is comfortable for you.  Sex prep can truly enhance your strength and ability to orgasm.

Before he was retaining, my husband would maybe last a few minutes.  With retention, my yoni is able to take full advantage of his lingam.  Yoga centered on the yoni can really pay off when you have a male with a penis that's there for the long haul during intercourse.  And since sex no longer revolves around goal oriented male ejaculation, he's more in moment with me.  When I'm finished, he's still hoping for more.   He doesn't get more, but I may sit on his face, and even get a thank you later for my resolve in helping him retain.  Initially he may have some resentment when the session ends, but he's short sighted at that moment.  He knows sex is best for him this way.…

I've received a few questions from men that are really intrigued by this system, but are hesitant or afraid of what their wife might think or how they might react.  This is one of my most recent comments.

Wonderful blog you have here. Nicely put and everything seems logical. I want to share and practice this with my wife but I'm afraid how. I'm afraid how she's gonna react or what will she think.

I found this intro to Karezza video, and I wanted to share it.  First, if you don't know what your wife will think, there needs to be more open communication in your relationship.  Talking about what will turn you or her on, or how we can make our great relationship even better, hopefully should always be up for discussion.  And if you don't know how she would react, I certainly don't.

The below video is a really great intro to Karezza.  There is really only one flaw in that they recommend that both the male and female abstain from orgasm.  Alice Bunker Stockham is the originator of Karezza.  She originally recommended that only men refrain from orgasm, but she thought that was unfair to the men and so adapted it to also include women as well.  The Tao or Tantra would disagree.  And as I witness it in my own life, having intercourse with a male that's practicing retention has opened my sexuality even further allowing me to be multi-orgasmic.  I am not drained by having orgasms.  I am only enhanced.  My husband however is drained of energy by ejaculation.  With daily stimulation, my husband's one orgasm a week is more powerful than they otherwise would be.  So, Mrs. Stockham came up with a good thing and then got sidetracked by some twisted version of what she thought might be fair and just IMO.  You can practice however you think it works best for you as a couple.  I have not read Cupid's Poisoned Arrow by Marnia Robinson, but I am familiar with her point of view from interviews etc.  I thought this video could be a nice little ice breaker to open up a discussion as a couple to other possibilities:

Cupid's Poisoned Arrow Animated Book Review NOTE: No longer available

The Daily News also did a story on Karezza which could also serve as an ice breaker:…

Our intercourse sessions are very passionate.  I think if most women could witness them, they might find it unbelievable.  But this is the way a man responds to a woman's vagina when he is stimulated with it daily without ejaculation.  The sobbing, crying and screaming are par for the course as I ride him in his pre-climax state letting him rest only when I'm riding his face for my orgasm.  I've become very skilled in the saddle, backing off to give him some space so he doesn't spill but not too far so he falls out of his pre-climax state.

I think every woman wants the power to fuck her husband's brains out, and ladies, once you've introduced your husband to his new life of retaining with an ejaculation schedule, that's exactly what will happen each and every time you have sex, not just on a birthday or anniversary.  My husband is delirious during intercourse and takes a while to get his head on straight afterward.  Note: Your husband should not drive after sex like this, and performing even simple tasks like pouring a glass of water can be a challenge as his brain is swimming in all those neuro transmitters.  Now that's erotic power.  Of late, my husband is begging to have another week or even month off from retaining as I ride him hard and relentless which can make it difficult for him to reach that 7th day for ejaculation while on the verge of release without spilling.

I've mentioned having a ceremony where he would vow only to ejaculate when given permission by me.  But he really seems to be dragging his feet on this issue, so I decided to go ahead and make it easy on him and set the Terms of Entry to my vagina.  He may be uncertain about that kind of commitment, but I'm not.  And I feel certain that at this point in my life that I will not be in a relationship with a man that is not retaining and on an ejaculation schedule.  I think any woman that has tried this would feel the same way.

As a woman, I have the right to decide on the terms and conditions that I will participate in a relationship with a man, and the man of course has the right to choose a different path with a different woman.  But if my husband wants to enter my vagina, these are the terms that he must abide by:

• He must practice semen retention.
• He must abide by the ejaculation schedule I  set.
• He will submit to the agreed upon consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.

I don't set these terms lightly, but the trial period is over.  There is no question our relationship is better in every respect under this system.  I'll relate the experience of coming to this obvious realization that I have rights too. This is a two way street.…

More than a few times people have asked me for suggestions in my comment sections on aversive stimuli that could be used for unauthorized ejaculation.  I decided to put this together so I have something that I can easily refer people to. If you select the right one and apply it correctly, your husband's behavior can improve greatly.

You will have to decide what works best with your husband during your companion inventories. With any aversive stimulus, if the behavior repeats, or isn't curtailed, then a different stimulus should be tried.   My husband fears non-contact punishment much more than contact.  My go to non-contact punishment is to delay ejaculation day, and that will  curtail his mouth immediately every time.  The phrase "You've just been (or will be) bumped a day." functions as a sharp reminder when he drifts over the line.  Really, this should be enough to influence and correct behavior for most males once you've both agreed that your the one controlling the ejaculation schedule.

There are so many effective aversive stimuli available which may be more appealing to women to apply than contact punishment.  For most of us, our nature is not to be harsh and abusive.  I encourage you to come up with your own ideas with your husband in your companion inventories.  The following are ideas that often work just as well if not better than contact punishment:

-Delay ejaculation day one or two days (this is the most common one I use).

- An early bedtime for a week.

-Revoking TV or computer time.…

I received this question from a reader recently:

Great blog full of practical information, thank you!

Given your medical/science background, do you have any health concerns regarding long-term retention? My wife's previous schedule was a monthly ejaculation. We are gradually working on increasing the length between ejaculations to once or twice a year which I am in complete agreement with.

Are you aware of any health risks with such a long term schedule? I'm currently at almost three months and feel great so far. Thank you for your consideration.

 I answered it in the comments section, but I thought it would be worth going into it with a little more detail.  There really isn't any consensus on this in the medical community, but there are some interesting studies to look at.  However, different studies reach different conclusions which may just add to the confusion more than clarification on the issue.

Polyxeni Dimitropoulou, PhD; Rosalind Eeles, PhD, FRCP; and Kenneth R. Muir, PhD, obtained detailed sexual histories from 840 men. About half the men developed prostate cancer by age 60, and about half did not have cancer.

This was a 2009 study that states frequent masturbation for men is 2-7 times a week for men in their 20-30s and increased the risk of prostate cancer compared to same age men masturbating less than once a month.  These frequent masturbators had a 79% greater chance of prostate cancer by age 60.

For men in their 50s, frequent masturbation was defined as one or more times per week compared to same age men that reported never masturbating.  These 50 year old masturbators had a 70% less chance of prostate cancer.…