Hello, friends! I’ve got a little update for you today, and I’m feeling all kinds of emotions—excited, reflective, and yes, a bit vulnerable too.
Let’s rewind for a moment, shall we? When I first started this blog, it was a little space on the internet devoted to exploring male chastity. At the time, Kev and I were deep into experimenting with that dynamic, and it was thrilling in so many ways. But, and it’s a big but, there was something about the whole cuckolding thing that just didn’t sit right with me. The word “cuckold” itself made me cringe—doesn’t it just sound so harsh? So, I skirted around it and came up with the term “poly friend” instead. It was a softer landing for my tender feelings and a more comfortable way for me to dip my toes into nonmonogamy without diving headfirst into uncharted waters.
Now, why was I so resistant? I’ve asked myself that question many times over the years, and here’s what I’ve come up with: it was fear. Plain and simple. Fear of the depth of connection that could develop with another man, fear that it might somehow threaten the solid partnership that Kev and I had built. I was terrified that opening up our relationship would open a Pandora’s box of emotions, jealousy, and insecurities that neither of us could handle.
But life has a funny way of challenging your fears, doesn’t it? For me, that challenge came in the form of the COVID pandemic and a man named Andrew. Unexpected? Oh, absolutely. But sometimes, the most unexpected moments are the ones that teach you the most about yourself.
Meeting Andrew and navigating our new relationship dynamic took away a lot of the guilt I’d been harboring about the idea of infidelity. When all three of us—Kev, Andrew, and I—were on the same page, advocating for our own needs and respecting each other’s, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I realized that cuckolding wasn’t a dirty word, nor was it a selfish act on Kev’s part to fulfill some sort of fantasy. It was an extension of our love, trust, and mutual desire to see each other happy.
So, what’s next for my marriage? Oh, darlings, so much happiness! Kev and I are doing better than ever. We’ve become experts at checking in with each other, making sure we’re both getting what we need out of this life we’ve chosen together. The connection we have now is deeper and more fulfilling than I ever imagined possible. We’ve come to understand that love is not a finite resource; it grows and expands the more you give it away.…
I love hearing how happy you and Kev are!!!!
I hope that some day that I can evolve and live a life as genuine as you two.
Looking forward to more of your thought provoking blogs!
I’m happy things are working out for the (3) of you. Frankly the thought of a husband, locked in a chastity cage, edged and kept hard for a woman, while his wife has sex with another man is quite interesting, and I often wonder just how many marriages (or B/F – G/F relationships) there are like this there are in the world. It’s a pity that so few women are willing to talk about this, because I suspect there are more than we think.
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