Today, we’re diving into a topic that I know resonates with many of you in the chastity and cuckold relationship world—pussy-free marriages. Specifically, what happens when a man who’s happily embraced a pussy-free lifestyle begins to rethink his choices and feels the pull to reintroduce PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex into the relationship.
First off, let me just say, if you’re in this situation, you’re not alone, and it’s totally natural to feel your needs shifting over time. Relationships evolve, and desires can change too. But here’s the thing: just because your needs have changed, it doesn’t mean your wife’s have. And let’s be clear about one thing upfront: she doesn’t owe you anything.
For those of you unfamiliar with the concept, a pussy-free marriage is one where PIV sex isn’t part of the relationship dynamic. I wrote about it previously in exploring the concept of a pussy free marriage. Maybe it's because of health reasons, personal preferences, or sexual fetishes, but whatever the reason, couples in these relationships have decided that traditional intercourse just isn’t on the menu. And guess what? It works for them. They find other ways to connect intimately, whether it’s through emotional bonding, mutual masturbation, pegging, or a whole host of other sexy alternatives.
In some cases, the wife might be sexually satisfied by a bull (or multiple bulls), leaving her husband in a supportive role as the submissive partner. And here’s where things can get really interesting—when the husband who previously decided to sit on the sidelines starts feeling like he wants to step back into the PIV game and is hit with the reality that, well, maybe she isn't interested in changing things.
So, let’s say you’re the man in this situation, and after a few years (or months!) of pussy-free bliss, you start rethinking things. Maybe you're starting to miss the feeling of PIV sex, or maybe there’s a longing to connect with your wife in a way that feels more traditional.
This is where the real talk needs to happen.…
There are other options as well. My Wife and I don’t have a pussy-free relationship by definition. She has no interest in cuckolding me while at the same has even less interest in giving up penetration. Also, I am caged (almost) 24/7/365. So what’s a Wife to do? Our default for penetration (for her) is that I wear a strap-on harness over my cage whenever she desires sex with penetration … and it’s incredible. I am kept denied, and she is not denied the penetration that she craves. It also provides her options for which of her boyfriends (a variety of dildos) is going to fuck her. I’m still performing the act, but my cock is secure in its cage while it’s happening. She has even allowed me to orgasm without permission while fucking her with the dildo if I can. I have, but it’s not often. All that said, there are rare occasions when she will simply order me to remove my cage and use my penis. She will often deny me an orgasm in those instances or, if she is feeling benevolent, will use her vagina to ruin my orgasm. That’s a shit-ton of awesomeness too.
She also knows that for me, being allowed inside of her puts me on a cloud of gratitude and bliss. For this reason, she will also allow soaking, which means I am allowed inside of her, but no movement is allowed. No thrusting or grinding … just soaking, and as long as I don’t break the rules, and as long as I remain erect, I am allowed to stay inside of her, wallowing in a state of bliss. Emma has a blog post somewhere here that will tell you all about soaking if you don’t already know.
I’m certain that if she were to decide never to let me inside of her again and declared ours a truly pussy-free marriage, for whatever reason, it would likely be the end of our relationship. I pray she never feels that way, and I’m confident she won’t, but hypothetically, it would be soul-crushing. I have dedicated the remainder of my life to her happiness and pleasure, in whatever way she decides, but hey, this man still has needs. I’m just being honest.
Each to their own every couple are different, i am in a cuckold relationship with my wife but she loves piv sex with me, she loves to dominate me, use me as she calls it, then deny my orgasm and tell me to get dressed and make her a cup of tea.. when she does allow me to orgasm i either have to finish myself off, or rub myself against her feet or leg. Different strokes for different folks, all is good as long as everyone is happy and consenting
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For me and my girlfriend being pussyfree is an important base in our relational triangle cuck-wife-lover because it makes everybody’s role and function clear. In the beginning of our cuckold dynamic I was still aloud to have PIV-sex with her. I was very aroused that she had sex with another man emotionally but I got also very jealous, got angst, started to have ED, loosing self-confidence, starting to have sleeping problems etc. My girlfriend got also stressed because she then had a guiltfeeling towards me that she was cheating on me. It also disturbed our relationship because I wanted to have still PIV sex wit her and she did not want this anymore because she wanted to be completely dedicated to her lover. She still wanted to pleasure me but did not want to have me penetrating her or having contact with my semen. The ED that I started to have because of all this emotions and disturbed balance in our relation was the key to get everything in balance again. Because I could not get it hard she had now a good reason and freepass to have sex with another guy. And for me letting her have sex with another guy releaved me of my feeling of guilt that I could not satisfy her anymore. She in fact was the one that understood that, keeping me, inducing and enhancing my state of limpness was ideal for her to have sex with her lover. She also introduced the fact that she did not want to have PIV bit by bit together with the growing confirmation that I was sexually not able to fulfill (funny worduse…) her. Wearing a chastity cage also confirmed visually and symbollically my state of being and also helped the psychological image for both of us. I am now 13 years pussyfree and we are very happy together.
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