Hey ladies, let's talk about something that hits close to home—turning your open relationship into something more structured, where you’re firmly in control. Whether you’re just starting to explore or already well-versed in the world of open relationships, there’s something incredibly empowering about shifting into a female-led dynamic. And trust me, it's not just about gaining control; it's about building a healthier, more connected relationship—on your terms. So, let’s dive into how you can turn your open relationship into a cuckold dynamic that gives you freedom while he hands over his autonomy.
Exploring open relationships can be an exciting way for couples to reignite the spark that may have dimmed over time. For some, it’s a way to break free from the monotony of routine and add new layers of adventure and desire. This journey often begins with a mutual decision to explore together, perhaps with another couple, allowing both partners to experience something new while still remaining connected. The shared experiences of seeing each other in different dynamics can lead to deeper emotional intimacy, sparking new conversations and revelations about what excites them.
However, many couples choose to explore their open relationship separately, giving each person the freedom to pursue their own encounters. While this can start as an agreement of mutual exploration, it doesn’t always go as planned. One partner, often the female, may find herself thriving in the dating world, enjoying the attention and excitement that comes with new sexual experiences. Meanwhile, the male partner might struggle, feeling left behind or discouraged by his lack of success. The imbalance in these experiences can create unexpected feelings of jealousy or inadequacy, yet, paradoxically, it can also deepen the dynamic of the relationship.
For some men, the stories of their partner's adventures become a source of excitement in themselves. Hearing about her success, her encounters, and her pleasure can shift their role from active participant to enthusiastic observer, bringing in elements of voyeurism or even cuckoldry. Instead of feeling disheartened, some men relish the idea of their partner's experiences and find renewed intimacy in being on the receiving end of these stories. This shift, although unplanned, can transform the dynamic of the relationship, offering new ways to connect and bring back the excitement they both craved in the beginning.
Before we get into the “how,” let’s talk about the “why.” You might wonder, "Why not just keep it open for both of us?" Well, here’s the deal: closing his side of the relationship shifts his role into a supportive female leadership dynamic with an emphasis on your pleasure. When he’s not out there chasing other women, his energy, focus, and devotion are solely on you. This doesn’t just make you the center of his world; it also builds the foundation for a true female-led relationship. Here are some solid reasons why closing his side of the relationship can work wonders:
Closing off his side of the relationship can provide a sense of relief and security for a man who may struggle to keep up with the pace of an open dynamic. The pressure to find a partner can be overwhelming, especially if one partner is thriving while the other feels left behind. By taking away this pressure, you create a space where he can focus on the connection he has with you, free from the stress of trying to measure up. This shift can make him feel more valued, wanted, and secure, knowing that his role in your relationship is cherished just as it is. It’s similar to the practice of male chastity, where the man’s desire is focused entirely on you, and he finds comfort in your control and guidance.…
So my wife read this one handed her the phone she read it ….. Hard for her to finish… But she did ….
She says the following
1 She would never feel empowered by any of that some might others not at all
2 my wife finds it very empowering to share her man and wouldn’t want to give that up
3 opening a relationship takes a lot of work communication trust and love the closing of one side feels like a lack of one of these things
4 having the ability to watch me and some one have sex is a big turn on for her and yet a nother thing she wouldn’t want to give up
5 being able to say I give as much as I can get let’s her feel more in the relationship then most people can ever dream
Now all that being said she is not saying others may not want this she is just saying how she feels about it how it would affect her in ways someone who isn’t in a swinging relationship might not even know
Hopefully this is some helpful insight into the minds of swinging couples
Be awesome 😎 to eachother
I love number 2 for you! “My wife finds it incredibly empowering to share her man, and it’s something she wouldn’t want to give up.”
For us, swapping or swinging hasn’t ever felt like the right fit. Kev doesn’t get much out of being with someone else while I watch; his attention is on me and my pleasure, and he knows he’d be distracted wondering if I’m enjoying it too. Every relationship has its unique flavor, and that’s perfectly okay! It’s all about making changes that truly fit your dynamic. It sounds like you’ve both put in some great communication to land on something that feels right for you both, right here and now.
First I would never suggest any kink lifestyle to someone who isn’t questioning it already and even then I’d warn first of the pitfalls before the benefit just so you have a idea of the risk
As for me and the wife’s conversations my dear friend you would lose your mind if you knew the depths we talk of well everything people keep telling us to write a book 😂
Very well said. Keep him edged, teased, aroused – – and securely locked. His orgasms should have to be earned, and not always granted. Pegging will strengthen her dominant role in the relationship. He should be locked during her mating with her bull, and her cuck must be attentive and respectful when she tells him of the superior sexual experience her bull gives her – – no matter how high the level his aching sexual frustration may be. It’s interesting that even the most hesitant women will turn into dominant women once they realize the power and possibilities this lifestyle gives them.
…and don’t forget. Older guys don’t require as many orgasms as younger men, so don’t forget to adjust his chastity periods based on his age. (see photo below) 🙂
I would guess that more than half of my friends are non-monogamous to one extent or another. However, I am sometimes asked by my monogamous friends “How can you let your wife have sex with other men?”
But I don’t “let” my Wife have sex with other men. Karin doesn’t need my permission to do anything She wants to do, and She never has. I accept that She has an amazing desire for sex with multiple partners (both men and women) and the fact that She acts on these desires as simply part of Her being true to Herself.
Karin and I have never been monogamous. This was something I agreed to at the start of our relationship. From our very first date, Karin made it clear that no one person would be enough to fulfill Her sexual appetite. I accepted this and chose to continue the relationship under Her terms, rather than simply having a one-night stand with Her. (She had already told me that She was going to take my virginity that night, no matter what my decision was.)
Our relationship is constantly evolving. As She continues to enjoy Her sexual freedom, Karin has been gradually taking more control over me, both in and out of the bedroom, and I’m loving it. As an example, I asked Karin to lock me in chastity for Locktober this year. She did, and has since told me that Locktober will now be a permanent part of our relationship.
Early on in our relationship, Karin encouraged me to experience as many other women as possible. Sometime after that, it was only Her friends, other women She approved when I asked, and frequent swinging with other couples. Now, outside of occasional swinging, it’s basically two or three of Her friends. I am still allowed to ask permission under very specific circumstances.
I don’t think Karin will ever completely close my side of the relationship, as She really enjoys watching me with other women. Keep in mind, even if She does close it, I consider myself a very fortunate man and I’m not complaining at all!
“Miss Karin always gets what Miss Karin wants” are words we live by. The most wonderful part of that is that Karin has a way of getting what She wants in such a way that I never feel neglected, physically or emotionally. That is always the case, even as I’m watching Her have fun with others, whether She is with another man, woman, or couple.
In particular, women 40 years old or above would definitely be open to this idea after living a more traditional life with marriage and children. It does seem like women become more confident around this time and more open to being dominant. The problem is that people have a lot of negative stereotypes about women being dominant and men being more submissive. Her being the dominant one in the relationship doesn’t mean that you go around in the world being a meek wimp or that you wouldn’t defend her if she was being attacked or something like that. You are in the submissive/supportive role for her, not for everybody and everything.
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