This is one of a few blogs that were published by Yoga Girl at her website at http://flr101.blogspot.com. This site is now offline but all credit goes to her.
It's important in my opinion that when you have your man retaining and he is preserving his Jing and building Chi that I prepare myself to receive that special Lingam that has been prepared for me by my loving husband. I incorporate Yoni exercises like this to maximize my orgasms in addition to my regular Yoga routine. I insist on his retention for spiritual and health reasons. Some comments I receive seem to focus on retention as a way to domesticate the man which can be a role for him as he discovers his true nature through retention. It's not something I'm as focused on as the spiritual and intimacy benefits. He doesn't orgasm/ejaculate while servicing me, but he does participate in the cycle of chi between us.
These videos demonstrate why it's so important that I be his discipline for retaining as he is weakest at the moment of intercourse. While every woman is not going to be as limber, or have the vaginal strength as other women, or even be as comfortable in letting it all go and being a sexual being, there are great benefits in practicing and strengthening and fun in seeing what your yoni can be. I'll let Grace demonstrate (Her husband also retains)
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Great point. I tell my goddess she can do for me the one thing I cannot do myself. Stop. I am almost always horny after intimacy but thankful later that she helped me retain. I feel disconnected from her after a full orgasm.