We've started his new 6 week schedule, and he's past the two week mark.  I wasn't really expecting much at this stage.  Maybe it's the fact that his E-day is so far away that psychologically he's just given up on ejaculation.  In any case, he seems to have a renewed stamina, and seems to go numb in his penis after my nine, and gains a second wind where he can pump like a machine allowing me to find and explore new heights.  My husband has given me more time by virtue of retention for me to explore my sexuality.  He just pumps endlessly, and I don't have to worry he's going to cum any minute.  He's on top pumping, he pumps while I lay on my stomach, on my side, faster, deeper, faster and deeper, slow and deep, now deep and stop, you get the point. He's giving me all the green eggs and ham configurations.  Sam I am I do like green eggs and ham, in a box with a fox, in a house with a mouse.  Would you could you in a car?  It goes forever until I can't take it anymore, I would not could not in a car  ...now let me be!  The first part during my nine is still very intense driving him crazy, and then that urge to release subsides in him, and he becomes the Terminator on foot chasing John Conner and Arnold in the car.  Unstoppable!  Seriously, I need to bring over some girlfriends that are married to minute men so they can get some of this.  This is an all you can eat buffet that's just going to waste.

In any case this green eggs and ham business has allowed me to reach a new plateau.  My nine are over, so I figure I'd just let him expend some energy thrusting and let him tire himself out before ending it.  He's pumping me like a piston, and going deep awakening some new things in there in the depths.  He's pumping, pumping, pumping, and then jams it and holds it against my cervix probably to stop himself from ejaculation.  While he holds it there throbbing against my cervix (or probably more accurately just beyond the cervix so it's up against the lip of the cervix where the A spot is), I start to spasm and have an orgasm with no clitoral assistance.  We just stumbled onto this.  I didn't know I could have a vaginal orgasm without the clitoral stimulation.  At first it was just subtle, and I had to listen to my body to become more aware of what I was experiencing.

I tell him to do it again. Pump fast and deep like a bunny and then jam it in there and hold.  And again it happens.  It's like an orgasm button that says press here.  He does this about 10 or more times.  Each time I have an orgasm.  And each time I get wetter and wetter.  I'm always pretty wet, but this is spill on aisle 5 wet.  Get a mop!  He just keeps going and going, and the orgasms get stronger and stronger in my A spot region.  Pump like a bunny - and Jam - orgasm.  Now we have a system.  I tell him to pump, and when it's time I say "Jam it!" I authoritatively state "Again!" signaling him to start pumping and then again and again repeating this process 10-15 times.  But this is the thing, he needs to be at his hardest for this to work.  If he's not, he comes up short which is frustrating.   He's got to press in there really hard, and it has to be his best penis.  But it's getting the job done for sure, and I love feeling him so engorged and throbbing while he holds it ever so still in my holy of holies.

Vaginal orgasms with no clitoral stimulation: A New Frontier.  Mission accomplished.  He's exhausted, spent, and covered in sweat, and he has pleasured me into another universe.  Two birds with one stone.  I can see this becoming a part of our regimen.  He's working hard for his money.

The experience transcends just base sex, which is great, but this experience is a whole new discovery.  I'm with someone I love, someone whom I feel safe with and loved by.  When he holds it up there in that special spot usually in an embrace, I feel this expansiveness like I'm opening up like a flower.  I feel like every cell in my body is experiencing this flood of awakening.  I can only imagine the hormones, chemicals, and neurotransmitters being affected.  This fountain between my legs has now become a fountain of youth, making me feel like a vital twenty year old version of my self.  I feel high and energized, and I feel like every cell in my being has just been connected to Source.  Like hitting that magical spot in just the right way and holding on it has plugged me into this higher realm.  I feel a sacred communion with Divine, and yet it's a result from his basest drive to just want to penetrate.  It's like he's the electrical outlet, and I'm the computer plugged into it.  The computer is nothing without the electricity flowing through it.

One reason I have my husband retain his semen is for my spiritual practice.  He's leaving behind an ejaculating penis and developing a lingam stored with potent cosmic energy (jing/life essence) that is worthy for transcendent practice.  After a year we're passing through a new gate.  As he loses himself in being an instrument of this practice, he finds himself as his heart is turned to his wife in his state of need, and we're able to bond more intimately than before.  One reason I provide the threat of correction is to communicate to his lizard brain during the height of passion when his higher communication systems aren't available.  This controls for ejaculation as we work to make it as rare as possible, bringing him into proper relationship to his wife.  I am not selfishly having this transcendent experience without him benefiting as well.  I know that some of those sacred chemicals from my orgasmic flow are being absorbed by the skin of his penis, sharing my essence that he's worked so hard to produce letting him feed from my cosmic flow.  I believe the expansive energies I feel are beyond my physical body and affect my etheric body and charge his at the same time. …

We are having fun with this so far, as it has greatly enhanced our sex life even with just this short run so far. The desired goal is to get him retaining his ejaculations for a period of 7 days with each cycle, and to completely eliminate self pleasuring for him. He is only permitted to ejaculate from intercourse with me and only upon receiving my final permission in each case. It is my belief that not only will his retention improve his overall health and mental well being, but also that these improvements will also naturally transcend into other aspects of his life - not limited to just our own partnership.

Outside of sex, semen retention and NO masturbation, I am also expecting him to improve his behavior in all other areas of life. This ranges from performance of all household tasks, his performance at his job, and any social functions we happen to be engaged in outside of the home. Any sub par performance in any of these other areas is also subject to application of correction. I am judge and jury in this and I am allowed to administer justice at my complete discretion.

In recognition of this, and to help motivate him with these significant behavioral enhancements, I pledge to him the following (most of these are a given regardless of his ability to retain etc. – but I thought it would be nice to put this in writing for him in the context of this discussion)

1) To express my love for him honestly and freely.
2) To treat him with respect.
3) To be a positive force in his life.
4) Fair and consistent application of corrections based on his
achievements and performance as a committed partner in our
special relationship.
5) Regular stimulation of his penis through intercourse.
Ejaculation to occur only per his E-day cycle.
6) Any other manner of sexual edging both mental and physical, in
any degree and quantity and at my total discretion to provide
suitable motivation and reward for good performance when I see
fit.

And finally a summary of where we are are with his retention program currently

Start of retention program: January 12th 2018
Current E-day interval: 7 days
Days into current retention cycle: 2
Number of E-days achieved: 0
Number of spillages and corresponding corrections: 1
Non Spillage related corrections applied: 0
Number of Orgasms for Sarah (running total since start of program): 4…

Hi, Its just me Sarah with an update – sorry this will be a bit long but I think I need to get this all out …

I rolled the dice quite a bit last night and we ended up having a long conversation over a bottle of wine for me and some drinks for him. I needed a bit of fake courage to get over my nervousness about discussing this with him (huge understatement)…. I told him about my relationship concerns especially relating to my sexual satisfaction and his need to really step things up in and around the house (we have been sharing a home together before our pending marriage). He conceded that he could do better in these areas….

I then spoke to him about some things that I thought we should experiment with to see if it can enhance the dynamics of out relationship to change those things – and I directed him to your site at that time. I gave him instructions that I “please” wanted him to read everything on the site from top to bottom and that we could then talk about it further once he had done that. But that I really needed him to read your site in its entirety before I wanted to have any more conversation with him. I then left him with a fresh drink (I said he might need it half jokingly) and headed upstairs to our bedroom to wait it out. A couple of very long hours later he came upstairs to our bedroom – where I was laying in bed, waiting quite apprehensively for his return…. Those were some of the longest hours of my life, and I thought perhaps I had just screwed up our relationship royally….

He had a big sheepish smile on his face!!!!! Big sigh of relief from me!!!

He said he had read everything – a couple of times, and he thought overall it was all pretty hot and that most of it made some sense to him.  He wasn’t fully sure about the semen retention thing as that would be something which he had never tried before beyond a couple of days.  We talked, and he eventually admitted that he had been masturbating several times a day on average, but that he would be willing to try the retention out and see how things went….

I said “thats really great and I am so proud and happy with you right now for having said all of this and being so understanding.” I then went on to explain how nervous I had been waiting for him and how important I thought this little program would be to our future relationship. I then went on to say to him that we would start very slowly with this program and let it fit into our lives. I said for starters what do you think about trying out semen retention for a week?  Do you think you can handle that? After a bit of thought he said he was wiling to give that a try.  I then said with a bit of a naughty smile, you have to do more than try, what are your consequences going to be if you accidentally spill during the week? - that's a part of the program that we need to try out too….. Lets think about some good consequences we could use and then have you pick one of those out that we would use – but that it has to be an effective deterrent.  I then smiled and said before we both go any further, maybe we should put you in the right frame of mind and have you take off all of your clothes. I want you naked the rest of the night. He smiled and tore off his clothes.  He had a HUGE erection.  It was big and puffy, purple and very veiny! And I think I saw some pre-cum.  I said whats this and playfully slapped it with my hand.  I then said well you seem to be receptive to this discussion so lets get on with it and come up with some consequences for a spill...…

"Writing at my wife's request who recently found your blog. She's so pleased by the benefits of this that she wonders why allow any ejaculation, ever? Two weeks in so far and I'm worried about health consequences, although she says those are overblown. She also took to the separate bed idea given my constant night erections. So now after some gentle oral attention under the covers while she reads, followed by a nightly leg and foot massage while she falls asleep, I retreat to the sofa. Worried I'm becoming more of a maid than a husband (yes, apron and all), although in all other areas we're communicating and getting along better than ever. Advice?"

I’m so glad that both of you are finding retention rewarding.  You will need to ascertain the benefits or ill effects of retention for yourselves.  I really can’t make a recommendation.  Consult your physician.   Just keep up on the latest studies and see where it leads you.  As far as the psychology of the relationship you can also alternate back and forth and see if the marriage is better with retention or without.

"She's so pleased by the benefits of this that she wonders why allow any ejaculation, ever?”

No ejaculations ever?  It’s just my opinion that ejaculation reinforces erections keeping it likely that they will occur more frequently.  I like erections, and that’s my target behavior.  If erections are never allowed to ejaculate, there may be fewer and fewer erections just going by behavioral science principles.  They call that putting behavior on extinction when the reinforcer (in this case: ejaculation) is never delivered.  Intermittent reinforcement causes target behavior to strengthen.  So when I let him squirt once a week but not always, his penis always has hope that this time may be the time and not just exist in despair of why bother because it’s not going to happen anyway.  I’ve heard of men that retain for very long periods, like for months and months. I’m not sure what the right answer is.  Each couple will have to work that out for themselves.  I think if I said never, my husband’s sex drive may dwindle, and he may lose interest.  There are plenty of couples out there that don’t have sex and both libidos are low.  His desire fuels mine and drives our sex life.  We’re tied very close together like that. You'll have to discuss your ejaculation schedule with your wife.  She can experiment with it and see where your sweet spot is.  It probably varies with each male.

Also from a medical stand point, it may be beneficial to flush the pipes so to speak for prostate health.

"She also took to the separate bed idea given my constant night erections"…