A man who does laundry, cleans around the house. Pure hotness. Are you kidding me? On the other hand, we are hard wired to have a man who provides security (financial and otherwise). That means a domesticated man should be completely unattractive to us. Ladies, ask yourself if you find an apron wielding man to be a sexual object or a sexless eunich. For those of you with a stay at home man, do you find that this adds to his sex appeal or does it make you more observant and critical of his shortcomings? Do you find your stay at home man to be the object of your affection or do you find yourself drifting elsewhere for mental stimulation when it comes time to paddle the pink canoe, finger paint, visiting the old safety deposit box or woman 'splain yourself to yourself. (Yes, these are all lovely euphemisms for masturbation.)
Tidying up the house is hard work and although picking up after yourself is an expectation, it can't be taken for granted. A man that goes the extra mile to either do chores equal to that of his partner or exceeding that of his partner is a better and more thoughtful lover. While I don't know that I find it sexually appealing to see Kev vacuuming, I do feel like he is more on my team. I feel like he is a better, more caring and selfless partner.
One of the interesting things which may reinforce the gender role stereotype is that I often find myself fantasizing about penetrating rather than being penetrated by my domesticated spouse. When I see him clean, I find myself wanting to dominate him sexually rather than allow him to dominate me. Our love life is a give and take relationship, sometimes he gives while I take and other times I give while he takes. A family that pegs together stays together. Right? A domesticated man lends himself to a female led relationship or female led partnership because he allows himself to accept a submissive role and that is hot.
The sex you have with a man who does chores is an emotionally connected sex. This isn't passion fueled pheromone fueled fucking, this is an emotional connection. This is a man who is your partner and has proven such by accepting a nontraditional role. Is that to say that a man who snubs his nose at housework is a better lover? It might be, in fact he might be a great roll in the hay but never as a long term partner. A man who shows his generosity and helpfulness around the house is long term partner material.
I washed the dishes and vacuumed the house, now you owe me sex. Uh hello, this is the most unattractive attitude a man can take and nothing will make me resent you and sex more. I've talked to a few lovely ladies who agree with this. The motivation behind the act is far more important than the act itself. It is almost like compersion or cuckolding. If he wants to make me have sex with someone else to push his will on me, that is far different than allowing me to have sex with someone so I can experience added pleasure that might add to our relationship.
Your guy goes to the gym while you are at work, worries about his appearance, plays some sports and is... well... hot. How is the hunk different than the dad bod wielding man who helps around the house? I think it comes down to his mentality, does he workout to compensate for staying at home? Does he do it for me? Does he do it for his self worth and to fish for compliments from me? Long term relationships go beyond physical attraction. At some point, his body becomes secondary to his mind and the emotional connection. Kev isn't a trophy husband but he is a runner and when he goes to the gym, it doesn't take long before he has a noticeable change in his physique. Jealous stare in Kev's direction! Progress at the gym takes me forever but fitness is most certainly a shared passion for both of us.…
