Need Advice

Thank you for your inspiration. Yes I have been locked 24/7 365 since January of 2021. She lets me out maybe once a month to shave but that’s it. She bought me a micro cobra 8 months ago so she wouldn’t have to unlock me when we fly. She says I have an attitude when I am not caged. I can deal with all that f that it’s just never being intimate that kills my heart. I love being romantic and I am not allowed to even touch her unless I ask for permission first. The one thing she allows everyday is me rubbing her feet and calves for an hour or more   She really enjoys that she says. 

Dear friend,

It is true that cuckolding is not for everyone. What's more, I think it is made for very few, but I also think that those who are able to enjoy it enjoy it a lot.

"She says she's in control and she makes all the decisions and things stay the way they are." This seems very positive to me. You can be proud of having a real dominant woman.

I think you have been showing her that you would accept being a cuckold and she has given you what you wanted. In her own way. As you say he likes to have control over everything.

I think now you have what you wanted, a dominant woman, who has you at her feet and is capable of turning you into an obedient submissive. You just need to show her that you are strong enough to accept his command and his decisions.

You're still digesting being cuckolded, but I think you'll both end up enjoying it.

Let go of your wounded ego.

I'm not telling you not to give your opinion, but she has the last word, as she has already demonstrated.

It must be hard to never be intimate, but I don't know, you might as well try to negotiate.

You may demostrarte that you accept your position and ask for some intimacy in return.

Enjoy.

last night I talked to her and told her I can’t go on never having any kind of intimacy. I told her I was going to start backing off in our interactions and only being quiet and doing any and everything she tells me to do but that’s it. She walked out of the room and walked back in with the biggest belt we have and told me to drop them and bend over. I did as told and she proceeded to spank me so hard and tell me she makes all decisions and she tells me how I will act and serve her not the other way around. She spanked me 25 times. I had tears coming down my face but stayed still until she stopped. I Thanked her for her correcting me and went clean the kitchen. I know I sound pathetic but after all these years I just can’t go against her. Her dominance is spell binding. When she finished correcting me she said she is the only one that makes decisions about our relationship and I only do as told   All I could say was yes Mistress.  

Well, I will make positive comments.

You certainly have a real Mistress at home. You know who decides at home.

After her infidelities she has done the smartest thing she could do. If I ever suffered infidelity, I think that deep down I would like my wife to do the same. 

It was not her time to take steps back. Deep down we value a woman's determination in a relationship of this type, and she has transformed your doubts into obedience.

She has also been smart to be able to be unfaithful for 3 years without you realizing it. I think she simply chose her ex because, despite there being nothing solid between them, they already know each other and he surely knew how to give her incredible sex.

I think it is very rare to find a woman that determined.

I also find it very positive that she has not abandoned the Mistress-submissive relationship in a situation like this. Bravo.

Well, maybe she really enjoys denying you pleasure while she gets pleasure and has you as a servant.

Whether you have privacy or not will depend absolutely on her.

Congratulations, I guess. 😉

Well, I've tried a little to put myself in your Mistress's shoes.

I think that almost no woman likes a very structured Mistress-cuckold relationship.

I believe that when you have talked to her so many times about cuckolding, she simply understood that you were willing to accept that she had boyfriends, and that is what she did.

I think your Mistress, as almost all women would, has become much more comfortable seeing her boyfriend alone without her husband's control.

I think she expected a different reaction from you when she shared that part of her intimacy with you.

The mixture of feelings she has had cannot be easy at all, and she did not like your reaction (logical from your point of view), and it made her feel guilty and bad.

She would expect you to thank her for fulfilling your fantasy and for all the stress she has had to endure.

Maybe she hasn't been intimate with you because she didn't feel good being intimate with two men at once.

It may sound a little crazy but perhaps she now expects you to apologize for being jealous while indirectly asking her to have a boyfriend.

I don't think she expected that reaction from you.

See what she wants to do, support her and when she feels relaxed, obeyed and understood it is possible that she can enjoy her boyfriends and perhaps be intimate with you.

Try not to guide her and don't ask her too many embarrassing questions.

She wants to feel like a Queen, and not like a woman of dubious morals.

Happy wife, happy life. 😉

"All I could say was yes Mistress."

Rock on bro.  If the lies and broken trust are good with you ... truly good with you, and not just the kind of 'good with you' that amounts to an answer that you think she wants to hear ... then you have what you want from her.  Rock on.

Last night I apologized to her for acting the way I have the last week. I really wanted to just give in and relinquish all decisions and actions back to her. She told me to go to the bedroom and I did. She immediately told me to drop them and lean over the bed. She took her hard sole sandal that I absolutely hate and began whipping me   She said while she was doing it that she says when things are done and that I have no say in this and I will be a very sweet sissy from now on. She gave me 25 licks again like the night before and stoped. She told me to go clean the kitchen and then meet her in the living room. I did as told and met her in there. She pointed to the floor in front of her recliner and said to rub her feet and calves. I did this for an hour and she said she was very happy with me tonight and told me to go to bed. And yes she calls me her Sissy girl every day. No I didn’t want to say that but it’s the truth so I put it In here. Thank you all for your constructive criticism and I really appreciated you listening to me. I really needed the support. 

Well, I'm glad everything is okay.

Don't worry.

I guess as a Sissy you will get your pleasure by cleaning your Mistress's kitchen in women's underwear. It's not that strange.

I hope everything is well and that if your Lady chooses to have lovers you enjoy it, and you two have loving moments.

Kiss.

Being in a cuckolding relationship and you being caged all the time, did she not have any sex with another guy?

It seems to be a part of the deal that when you are a cuck that the wife or girlfriend does have sex with another guy. My girlfriend does not tell me also all the encounters she had with other men but I know she does that not to hurt my feelings all the time. She mostly tells me this when she wants to see or sees a guy regularly and wants to have bares sex with him. To keep a cuckold-relationship healthy the cuck has also to have a kind of emotional and sexual compensation.

Hello, Pampix,

Please, read the story from the beginning.

Thanks!

Ok for everyone interested I will tell all. If everyone has read Emma from years ago she really trained Kevin to accept the entire situation with enthusiasm. Well my Mistress (wife) used different aspects from Emma and other Mistress’s   She started as I said with complete Chasity. It took some mental clarity but I got use to it. One day she showed up with an 8 inch dildo and said we were starting a new training. She put me on my knees and made me suck for 5 minutes while she stood there and instructed me. She would humiliate me and tell me how I was a natural. This went on for months then one day she brought home a bigger one and said it was my new friend. In all these months I was not allowed to cum at all. I was pretty desperate and she knew it. She said now we would start anal training. She also said if I was always going to have sex as a girl I needed to start wearing feminine clothes. She had bought me a maids outfit and Maryjane heels. The first time was pretty painful but she bought a big but plug and from then on it was easy. She would stand there and watch me and humiliate me a lot. It got to where I would cum very quickly and she would make me continue and cum again. Then she said I was to suck my other one while I rode that one. Well when you have been locked in Chasity completely for so long you will do anything to get relief believe me you will. I forgot to say that she had also continued the oral trading and it became a twice a day thing and worked its way to 30 minutes in the morning and one hour in the evenings and I had to watch sissy sucking videos while I do it. She still makes me do that every day while I am dressed.

during this training regime she also incorporated domestic chores and I had to be in my maids uniform but sometimes she would make me wear a skirt and top or a pretty dress. Always making me wear heels. I can now do all my chores while in six inch heels. The only thing she has never wanted was me to wear makeup. Only lipstick or gloss. Said she likes my lips full looking.  
  She started making me have anal all the time   Then she started backing off only letting me have it once a week on funday as she calls it   Then it went to every other week and then once a month. Now she says it for only when she feels I deserve it. 
she calls me Sissy girl no matter where we are unless there are kids around then she won’t. 
over the years she would be off shopping or visiting and she would call me and tell me to have funday just out of the blue. I didn’t fully figure it out until she came clean to me about her having sex with her ex that I figured out she would do that when she was having fun and felt guilty and would make me do that for her to feel better. I would wonder why she was letting me do that but when you are desperate for relief you just do as you are told and let things go. 
she is always continuing with her so called training she says and when I don’t perform as she expects she speaks me until I get it right or she feels confident that I do. 
we haven’t had so called sex in years and she tells me that I am a Sissy Girl and she is a woman and I don’t deserve sex with a woman. 
She threatens me to make me suck and have anal with a man but has never done that and I am happy with that   But I really think if I stay she will eventually do it. 
like I have been saying all along there is so much involved in our relationship it’s a wild ride that I have been on. The lying and the never have any intimacy really brought me down but through all of your comments and inspiration I am feeling better about my relationship. 
you can ask me anything and I will try to explain more if you want. Thank you 

Hello. How are you doing?

I have a few questions:

When you proposed a FLR relationship, did you think she would turn you into a Sissy?

What other Mistresses has she learned from other than Emma?

Has she directly contacted other Mistresses to learn how to dominate you?

Does her ex know that you are aware of the relationship your wife has had with him?

Can you explain what it felt like when you accepted that she has been with her ex and apologized to her and told her that she is the one in charge?

Has she allowed you to be romantic after accepting her complete dominance? Have you gotten anything out of it?

Do you think she will have other lovers in the future?

What do you like most about her doing?

Thank you so much!

To answer your questions the best I can.  
no when I introduced FLR to my Mistress she was in a stressful state of mind and I really thought that it would let her have freedom she never had in other relationships. I was a complete man’s man and never even assumed she would change me into a complete Sissy in 4 years.  Her training and disciplines with me and her making me watch Sissy hypno videos every single day really changed me   It’s what she wanted . 
as far as her contacting other Mistresses yes she has talked to several on Reddit. I wasn’t allowed to read those conversations so I don’t know what she learned from them. I just know that she comes up with new ideas to keep me in-line and humiliate me more. 
yes her ex does know now that she came clean with me that I know the situation. One of the mistresses told her I needed visual reminders so she took pictures of his pecker and when she doesn’t make me watch videos she makes me stare at his pecker and do my sucking while she humiliated me   She will make sure to say that is a picture of a real man and all I have is a little sissy clit. 
what it felt like the other night when I apologized to her and asked her to please keep seeing her ex was pretty shameful. I meant what I said to her but the little bit of boy I do have felt degraded. My girl side and submissive side was happy that she was happy. It’s all about her feelings and happiness and I know that. He has a very large pecker and it looks so good and that makes me feel defeated in ways. 
no she has not let me be romantic in any way at all. About the most romantic thing is her spanking me two nights in a row so I will see clearly who is in charge of our relationship. She told me I could never leave and she would make sure of it. I don’t know what she meant by that but I believe her every word 

What I love most about her now is her complete dominance. She doesn’t play. It’s going to be her way or else. Believe me I have had enough spankings and corner time on my knees over these last few years to believe her totally. She does protect me 100 percent from other people and doesn’t let anyone put down on me.  So I know she really Loves me. 

if y’all have any other questions just ask. Thank you 

Maybe I am missing something, but with all due respect, I would recommend getting as far away as you can from this woman, seek shelter and find a good therspist.

This relationship appears extremely distructve from what I have read. I hope that I am wrong.

Yes Tincup that was my whole concern last week until others said that I needed to apologize and work it out. The deeper I go the harder it gets to leave. Then she told me I was never leaving so I don’t know what really to do. When she dominates me my submissive side really gives in and I just say Yes Mistress and go with it. Everyone here has really helped me the last week