She is willing to try

I am the one that Emma helped to write a letter to my wife who I will call Kim and she was receptive to my letter. Kim knew I had help with the letter and I showed her this site too. Kim said she was impressed at the amount of time and research that I spent to try and work on our relationship but she knows that she is the world to me. We had a number of nights with deep conversations about my needs and Kim read many of the blogs that I sent to her. I bought a cage from ebay and it was the one Emma recommended and it arrived today. I work from home so I got the box when it came to the door. Kim told me sharply to wait until she was home to open it together. Well I got back to work and several hours later she came home. We didn't open it right away and did our nightly routine with dinner and things.

After some hours, we both too showers and prepared for bed. I noticed the still unopened box sitting on her nightstand so I had a small smile and wondered what was in store. We got into bed and she initiated physical contact and eventually sex by rubbing on my arms and back. Now my wife has a much lower sex drive so we have sex maybe one or two times a week so sex is certainly not and expectation each night in my home. We had sex for some time maybe three or five minutes and she could tell from my breathing that I was getting close. She calmly said to get off her and lick her until she cums. I enjoy pleasing her this way but I was also very close so it was bittersweet and my balls wanted to explode but this was not her wish. 

After feeling her body have two orgasms that she described as delightful, she opened the box from the bedside table and we fiddled with the three different sized rings. I was still very hard so we could not try any of them on but we decided on the one we thought would fit me best the middle size. She told me to get a washcloth and run cool water over it so I did and she put the cool cloth on me and my body tensed from the cold water. My penis shrunk almost immediately and it turns out the size we picked for the ring was the closest so she put the cage on. Little did I know she wasn't just trying it on but she locked me that very moment. With a wild smile she took the two keys and set them on the bed beside her. She said something I would never forget with that same smile on her face. I've been learning your love language, thank you for letting me in to learn your needs. I was beaming with happiness but also fearful of what it might mean for me. I masturbate daily several times some days so I had no idea how this would impact that. 

It felt comfortable to put it on, I used some lube to get it all the way on but it felt good. She told me that she wants to try a few days right away and I was nervous but agreed. I was just happy that she was willing to try and learn about me and how to make both of our needs be met in spite of differences that we have. I brought it up when I woke the next day and told her that it hurt overnight when I had erections and she smiled and said aw baby did you change your mind? I told her no and she said ok I don't want to hear about it anymore. Starting now. This was on Monday and today is now Friday and she seems to be on cloud 9 with teasing me and touching me. She said that no pressure for sex is the best thing, she loves to tease and taunt me because it is my language but that rarely means she wants to have sex. So that was Monday and now it is Friday morning and it has been an incredible week I don't even know what to say but her attention and teasing makes me feel great. She laughed at how much I want to touch and massage her and also how much I accomplished around the house this week to speak her acts of service language back to her. Some of it is because I am thankful she made an effort to show love for me and some just comes naturally. I do masturbate once a day it is almost routine for me when I have my tea and before I start my work but that isn't happening obviously so I wonder if that makes a difference. I am sexually frustrated and highly aroused all of the time but it is like a natural high on stimulants.

Thank you so much Emma for helping me and thank you for everyone and the supportive community on the site.

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