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Welcome to the party Lynn.  What a wonderful introduction!  It sounds like you're on the threshold of a beautiful Wife Led Marriage (WLM) experience.  From your brief description, you two sound very much like my Wife (Mistress K.) when we first started our WLM journey 15 years ago. I can tell you this for certain ... it's definitely worth it because our marriage, love life, sex life, marriage, daily existence, and everything else about our marriage is amazing.  All of which (OK, a lot of it) I have chronicled in my own blog called Submissive Husband in Phoenix. I invite you to take a look and poke around, starting at the beginning (2013).  

I don't pretend to be an expert or the last word on other people's journeys, just ours.  I think you'll enjoy it and perhaps even get something out of it in terms of bumps in the road, pitfalls, discoveries, joys, successes, and many other things that go along with a WLM.  There's nothing to buy there.  There is no need to subscribe.  You can even view and comment anonymously if you want.  If you do come by and visit the site, I invite you to say hello and let me know that you are "Lynn from EYM".

All that said, for my Goddess Wife and I, the most critical ingredients in our marriage, the unwavering pillars that support the foundation of our life together, are orgasm control, an absolute prohibition on masturbation (or any other sexual touching) for me, and the (now constant) use of a well-fitting chastity cage.  I'd be happy to elaborate on anything else if you are so inclined.

I wish you both much success and am excited for you to experience how fulfilling a marriage can really be.

I will definitely check out your blog. Thank you for sharing. Like I said I'm a bit overwhelmed but I'm good ways. He is on is way home from a work trip, driving, been talking. When he said "I think I'm ready and looking forward to moving into a submissive role in the bedroom", I just about fell over. He has always been someone who was very much needing to be in control and made that clear. But I knew there was a submissive but in there. The fact he LOVES to see me with other men was one thing. But for him to all of a sudden be buying me a strap on, (which I got, tried on and sent him pictures that he can't stop takkkng about), from saying he is wanting to take some sort of submissive role, it's all a lot. Thankfully we have good communication. Don't think we could be married 25 years if we didn't. 
he is getting over his, as he puts it "embarrassment " from enjoying anal play so much. He is putting aside the manly man stereotype in his head that way too many have. 
If our boys weren't home from school, I'd be wearing the strap on when he gets home in an hour or so. 
I feel like I'm stepping into an entirely new world and it's exciting. Just don't want to mess anything up, since I've never been the one in control. 

No matter what I try your blog won't load. 

I don't know why. I tried from my comment, and it worked fine. It is an adult site (like this one is) and does require a sign-in for Google.

If you wear dresses or some type of loose skirt, put the strap-on on underneath your dress removed link Wear it and tease him with it. Him knowing that you are wearing it will be such tease knowing he can't have it till the children are safely in bed. It sounds like you are only a couple steps away from chastity, talk about it, you never know what he is thinking unless you ask.

That's a hot idea! Thank you!! 
I think he is enjoying the denial a lot more than I thought he would. We will find out tonight. We have the house alone all evening. I was going to allow it, but only with my equipment in him, but with how he has been acting since he got homesteader from his work trip, I'm more sure he nor I want him to orgasm. He is such a good boy! 

Yessss. Orgasm denial is so arousing.

It is for sure. But he got to cum tonight but only with me in him  Now I'll see how he does from now till next weekend. I think he really enjoyed those days.  Definitely a new experience for both of us. 

He won't be able to avoid a drop-off after cumming because it is hormonal. Be sure to NOT allow him to drop off in his attitude and service during the refractory period. Mistress K. was able to cure me of that by being quick to wield a harsh paddling for even the slightest drop off in performance and attention after cumming.

Yes there was a change indeed and he noticed it effected my mood quickly. This morning he made me coffee, and made the bed. Yeah that does not typically happen. He also was very much asking for reassurance if he pleased me last night. He did on the way out, I'm working with him today , say "I am the boss now" I laughed, I told him till we get home. He runs his own business, contractor, of course he is the boss and I'm helping it.
His response was a smile and a nod and things have been good. Will see how he is when we get home.