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More than just about the fucking

subhubphx
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Came across this when looking at Tumblr.  It made me pause.  I know that some are different and to those of you, God Bless you.  I mean that.  For me?  Truth be told, it would not turn me on but rather it would be at the very core of my worst fear because it's a bell that can't be un-rung.  Living in an evolving, loving WLM, it will always exist as a distinct possibility, even though we currently don't find ourselves on that razor's edge.  Other than the "to each their own" aspect, what are your thoughts.  

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Topic starter Posted : 29/04/2021 8:52 am
Brian
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My comment is based on no education, only what i've read or heard so apply lots of salt.

Its my understanding that people didn't evolve monogamous. That monogamy is a fairly recent thing.
Men evolved to spread their seed as widely as possible and women evolved to provide the best chance of survival for the child. In practice, from a certain view, this could explain why men are less likely to form emotional bonds with multiple sexual partners where women are more likely.

I've also read that the cause of this is in part the different chemicals involved in male and female orgasm, i.e. male orgasm tends to have a drop after it where female orgasm is often followed by a sense of closeness and intimacy.

So, your photo, I can see the potential for literal truth in it.

 

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Posted : 29/04/2021 3:05 pm
subhubphx
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@brian,  Yup, that's my understanding as well.  Your words do a good job explaining why one's wife/gf would/could literally begin an irreversible process of genuine emotional feelings/falling in love with/something more than just fucking, with another man. 

I'm no scientist nor do I have a BS in psychology like our friend Stan, but, for me anyway, it seems like once that fire is lit, it would burn enough to cause damage to what we have.  Is that damage fatal?  Is that damage irreparable?  Is it the kind of damage that might clear away some of the weeds and let some new grass grow?  Who knows.

Even if there was deep, meaningful communication, and even if there was never an initial intention for love between her and her caged and restricted husband to wane and be replaced, in whole or in part, by another man, it seems inevitable that the foundation of our marriage, and the type and depth of love would evolve and dramatically change to require room for another in that love.  It's different in a Femdom relationship than say a polyamorous or open relationship, because in a D/s relationship, one person has expanding horizons and the other's closing.  

Again, these are MY fears and in no way do I look down my nose or intend to apply my thoughts and fears to anyone else.  It's a quandary.  I blame compersion.  *smile   Damn you compersion!  *another smile

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Topic starter Posted : 29/04/2021 3:36 pm
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