My journey has been accelerating

AllAboutHer · 2022-02-14T06:00:47Z

I have been following Evolving your Man for several years. While I am a driven and successful lawyer, I am also submissive when it comes to sex. I find the topics of chastity and orgasm denial highly erotic. It is not because I see any particular value to semen retention, but rather because they are extreme examples of a woman’s control over her lover. Perhaps I don’t recognize any flagging devotion to my girlfriend or lack of total focus on her desires even after I have had a release. Nonetheless, I have found so much great stuff here in the conversations and posts I have read from those who believe that the purpose of sex is for the woman’s pleasure. I could not agree more with the idea that I have seen expressed here on numerous occasions that the best and strongest relationships are built on true intimacy and the intense closeness that comes from willingly and confidently being able to be vulnerable with our lovers. It has taken a long time to get my girlfriend to truly accept what I have been telling her that I sincerely want her to be in control and that nothing makes me feel more intimate, safely vulnerable, and loved than when she embraces her power without reservation. It has taken years to get us to the point we are now. The idea that any man would feel that sex should be about his woman’s pleasure was such a foreign concept to her that I just didn’t think she thought it could possibly be true. For so long, she thought I was just being noble or simply exaggerating for her benefit. In part, I think this is because she sees me at work (we work together) and knows how in charge I am there. More generally, I don’t think she has ever known, or even heard about, any men who share this view. Certainly, she never experienced it in her own life. In twenty-five years of marriage, she told me that she had fewer than five orgasms during sex with her husband. Of course, every single time ended in an orgasm for him. Fortunately for me, she loves sex and has always been willing, even eager, to please me. I sincerely think it makes her happy to give me pleasure. But I know her well, and I know that while she can play nice, she is really most comfortable when in control. It is how she is wired. She has just suppressed it, at least in the bedroom, because she felt that it was necessary or expected. Unlike the previous men in her life, I feel I am a very attentive lover. I truly get as much pleasure from giving my lover an orgasm as I get by having one myself. I am proud to say that it is not unusual for my girlfriend to have as many as ten orgasms during a single love-making session. As I have drawn out her dominant nature and desire to control, I have seen us both expose more and more vulnerability to each other. And as a consequence, we are achieving a true intimacy that goes way beyond sex. It is unusual for a love-making session to last less than an hour. Two hours is quite common. This last weekend, we made love for over three hours. I am sure you can imagine the satisfaction, joy, and pride it gives me to know that I can give her more sexual pleasure in one evening than her ex-husband gave her during their entire marriage. When I say we “made love,” I don’t mean to say PIV sex. I am, by no means, some kind of 18 year-old porn star. Actually, the PIV sex we enjoyed during our last session lasted no more than one minute. Most of the time we were snuggling, talking, sharing thoughts and feelings, and kissing. While I consider the entire session to have been “sex,” or at least extraordinary intimacy, the vast majority of the time we spent in what most people would call “sex” was spent with me focusing on bringing her pleasure. At the end, when she was completely satisfied, we spent only about five minutes focused on my orgasm. I feel it is important to point out that because of the way I am wired, when I say that we spent the vast majority of the time focusing on bringing her pleasure, this also means that the vast majority of the time was spent with me receiving unparalleled pleasure, too. Her pleasure comes from being in total control without guilt and by having her every sexual whim catered to. My pleasure comes from knowing that I am giving her exactly what she wants at every single second and that she is free to feel no distraction from that joy because of some sense of obligation to reciprocate the physical attention. I have never been so aroused as I was when we made love yesterday, and I told her afterward that it was the best sex that I have had in my entire life. I feel like we passed to a new level this weekend. Over time, she has slowly and gradually “let go” as I make love to her and allowed the focus to be 100% on her. More and more, she has become comfortable letting go of the feeling she needs to reciprocate. I have encouraged her to relax and enjoy every moment, including the “come down” after her orgasms. She calls this period “bliss.” And I have always fe...

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A breakthrough in my wife’s thinking occurred when she got kinda mean and was super bitchy one day. I didn’t have a bad reaction at all and simply doubled down on my love for her. I could feel the guilt being lifted off her as she realized that I liked it when she was bossy.

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