A breakthrough in my wife’s thinking occurred when she got kinda mean and was super bitchy one day. I didn’t have a bad reaction at all and simply doubled down on my love for her. I could feel the guilt being lifted off her as she realized that I liked it when she was bossy.
You ... my friend ... have evolved (see what I did there?) into a FLR/WLM savant. This is the best, most articulate, and easy-to-understand explanation of how a practicable Wife-Led Marriage can work.
That is very high praise, indeed, coming from you @subhubphx becuase I think you are the guru. FLRs clearly come in a shapes and sizes, but it is great to have regular contact with a man who, with his wife (like me and my wife), sees the epitome of an FLR as a relationship that exists to promote the greatest possible intimacy and bonding between the partners, and specifically refuses to accept that humiliation or degradation of a partner can ever be a good thing. I think we agree that humiliation/degradation necessarily lead to resentment and resestment necessary leads to distancing and the destruction of intimacy.
I have to admit that to a very large extent, I think that the fact that there has to be so many repetitions and redistillations of the theory that embracing one's inferiority, inability to satisfy, inadequacy, and accepting the consequent humiliation of life partner who insists on pointing out the supposed inadequacy, indicates that the argument is very weak fromt he get-go.
As Shakespeare said, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks." Makes me think those who in post after post after post have to justify the "healthiness" of creating distance in their most imporatant relationship and humiliating the person they love, really know that they are fundamentally harming their relationship and their partner.
In my opinion, we are uplifted by uplifting others and no one is ever built-up by tearing down another.
Very well said ... again! You lawyers are pretty good at saying things well.
