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spinpole2001
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Well I finally screwed up the courage to talk to my wife about orgasm control. I told her I was working on reducing my masturbation habits as they were getting a bit out of control. I told I was trying to stop because I felt it reduced my focus on her wants and needs. She told me that was ok, as she knows we both masturbate. I did tell her I was pretty sure I was way more active than I should be and i wanted to do this for us and our relationship. I told her I didn't want my focus to be about my own selfish needs and I want to place our sex life front and center in my mind. I told her I was gonna try to and do this with out any help but if I was having any issue I would consider a chastity device if I felt it would help. She was surprised by that statement and told me she didn't think iIwould need that but I wanted her to know I was serious. I was very nervous to bringing this up with her, which is a weird  thing to say after 20 yrs of marriage . I guess we can all work on communication skills lol. So here I am six days later, successful so far but requiring a lot more self restraint than I thought I had. Life is a journey!

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Posted : 10/11/2019 12:31 pm
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Emma
 Emma
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How did she receive it? Does she want to take an active role in your orgasm control or is this something that she would rather you do on your own? Do you want her to take a role in your orgasm control or are you thinking of going the nofap route?

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Posted : 10/11/2019 7:01 pm
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jd
 jd
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Spinpole, 

First one to post in the Journey section. My hat is off to you! Congratulations on taking the plunge. 

from the sidelines, 

JD

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Posted : 10/11/2019 11:26 pm
spinpole2001
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Emma,  the better half seemed a bit unsure about the whole thing and I think for no she going  be a curious watcher of the whole exercise. Hopefully as she sees a positive change in me and some benefits for her maybe she'll be come a more active participant. But Rome wasn't built in a day. Right now I'm going to start by trying to go no fap for at least 2 weeks and we'll see how that goes. #nofapjourney

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Posted : 11/11/2019 1:54 am
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spinpole2001
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Posted by: @jd

Spinpole, 

First one to post in the Journey section. My hat is off to you! Congratulations on taking the plunge. 

from the sidelines, 

JD

Thanks JD,as someone who was on the sidelines until 6 days ago I can't really say I'm in the game just maybe about 1 foot onto the field! LOL

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Posted : 11/11/2019 1:56 am
jc5200
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Great job, Spinpole! Keep going, treat her as your queen and keep communicating. Excited to hear how things progress.

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Posted : 11/11/2019 1:21 pm
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