Evolving My Kev AMA

Did you ever think as young man in your late teens you would be in a FLR.? Did you have an interest in this dynamic? Or was it (I love this woman so much I can’t not live without her)? Emma you can change the wording around if you need to.This had to be a big comment. Did you ever have second thoughts about this relationship dynamics?

1) What has been the biggest surprise to you about being in an active cuckold relationship?
2) How have your feelings and beliefs about your role in the relationship changed since cuckolding?
3) In your 2019 post you said you have never experienced a prostate orgasm - is this still true? If it is not true - how did you experience your first prostate orgasm and how did it make you feel?
4) As you have grown and changed are there any things you and Emma tried out in the past and didn't like that you want to consider trying over again now that you are older and wiser?
5) When did you first realize you wanted Emma to cuckold you?
6) Before Emma were you ever cuckolded (willingly or unwillingly)? Did you ever have a strong suspicion you were being cheated on?
7) Was Emma the first woman to peg you? Who first brought up the idea? If Emma (or another previous partner) what was your first thought when you heard about it?
8) Emma has written about you pleasing her lovers - does it surprise you now that you are willing to have sexual contact with another man? Had you ever done anything sexually with another man before this?
9) The first time you gave one of her lovers a blowjob to completion - how did you feel afterward? What was it like for you as your processed that experience?
10) Have you been taken anally by any of her lovers yet? If not, is this a hard line for you at this point or have the circumstances just not been right for you to be penetrated by one of them?
11) Since 2019 what has been the biggest surprise(s) in your evolving relationship?
12) Since 2019 what has been your biggest struggle(s) in your evolving relationship?
13) Since 2019 what has been your biggest regret(s)?
14) If you could go back to the start of your relationship with Emma what is one thing you would change?
15) Who in your vanilla life knows you are a cuckold? Has anyone found out that you wish hadn't? How did those people finding out impact you?
16) Of the men Emma has cuckolded you with who has been your favorite and why? Who has been your least favorite and why?
17) What is the biggest difference between how you imagined it would be to be Emma's cuckold and the actual reality of being her cuckold? How have you dealt with (or enjoyed) this difference?

Do you ever wish, even a little and maybe in secret, that you didn't share your wife sexually and emotionally with other men?

You mentioned in your last post that whenever Emma set a new term, you knew it was non-negotiable and “my way or the highway.” Was there any time you considered the possibility of leaving the relationship over a term? What ultimately made you come around and accept it?

Also, do you end up enjoying things you’re initially reluctant to do because she’s determined those things are non-negotiable?

Dear Kev:

I’m the dominant man whose letter Emma published as a blog in 2020.

https://evolvingyourman.com/2020/01/25/a-dom-perspective/

I’ve been following this blog to see how you and Emma’s relationship unfolds.

The arc, as I read it, is clear:

You guys began by exploring, privately, chastity and pegging. Your sex life included you penetrating Emma and releasing into her.

Emma in her early writings, rejected out-of-hand having physical intimacy with other men in favor of a deep private connection.

Five years later Emma is a firmly committed cuckholdress.

During the evolution of your relationship Emma wrote about some notable milestones:

Andrew moved-in.

Emma tells us that during this period she deepened her dominance of you while becoming more and more submissive to Andrew.

At some point after Andrew your Sunday release no longer included penetrating Emma.

Emma wrote, in a blog I can’t find easily, that while pegging you she sometimes says: “Some men fuck their wives; you get fucked in the ass by your wife.”

This is a very strong affirmation of your dynamic.

You now post on Feeld and vet bulls for Emma. More and more, Emma tells us, you serve the bulls as well as Emma.

Three questions come to me:

First:
I, and I think many readers, would love to read your reflections on the (pick your term) progression / arc / development / evolution of your relationship. I hope you are brave enough to share these reflections.

Second:
Notably, both you and Emma have embraced deepening submission: you to Emma and her bulls;; and Emma to her bulls.

Could you reflect on the nature of:
1. a man submitting to a dominant woman (your perspective from your journey)
2. a woman submitting to a dominant man (your perspective as a witness)

Third:

Please share your reflections on this question: If for some reason you and Emma ceased to be together, do you think or doubt that you would, back in the dating pool, actively seek-out an FLR? Why or why not? Please expound.

Great questions thus far, keep 'em coming. 😍 

Where do you think you would have scored on  the Kenzie scale at the start of your relationship versus now? 

@dominusservae Yes, excellent questions. I'm on the edge of my seat in anticipation.

Hi, some great questions so far. My question is when Emma used to play alone, as in meet up with bulls/boyfriends on her own, what coping mechanisms did you use to help yourself come to terms with that, especially on the nights when she maybe did not come home until the morning after? I only ask cos my Wife did this recently for the first time (i was always either present or at least in the next room previously) and i struggled to cope with my feelings on the night, and still struggling a bit now, especially as i think she may have decided that she now prefers it that way, to be on her own rather than have me present 

Hi Kev:

I have two more questions:

First:

Emma titled her blog “Evolving Your Man.” During the term of your relationship with Emma do feel that you have, as a man, evolved, stayed about the same or devolved?

Tell us why you think / feel / believe this. Please be honest / forthcoming / candid.

Second:

The structure of a relationship can be a premise or a conclusion.

If you start with form—a 1950 household dynamic or, in your case, an FLR—the relationship structure is a premise.

If the form of a relationship evolves organically from the experience of the connection, the relationship structure is a conclusion.

In your first blog a few years ago you shared that Emma, from the get go, was very clear: yours would be an ever-deepening FLR or she’d terminate the relationship.

So, for you and Emma, your relationship structure has always been a foundational premise.

And, given the length of your relationship, including marriage, you have clearly accepted this premise.

Undoubtedly accepting this foundational premise has, over time, brought you many thoughts and emotions. Please share with us the inner voices that said “no,” the inner voices that said “yes,” and how you resolved the contradictions.

Put differently: where there is no inner struggle between “yes” and “no” there is no submission. Tell us how your struggles between yes and no resolved into your deepening and embraced submission.

Thank you in advance for your candid replies. Readers across the planet are anxious to read what you write.

If there was 1 aspect of your relationship that you could you could lead and Emma would follow what would it be and why? If there is none please explain that as well.

How do you deal with the transition from getting regular penetrative sex to being partially or totally cut off from it? How long did it take to get to where you are now in regards to sex and how did your mindset change over time, especially after introducing cuckolding and having to deal with the emotions that go along with your wife having regular penetrative sex with another man? 

Ok no more questions. We've got enough for this blog, thank you to everyone that contributed!

Ok. did I miss anything?

1. Did you ever imagine yourself in a Female-Led Relationship (FLR) when you were younger? Was this a conscious desire, or was it more about your love for Emma?
2. Did you ever have second thoughts about this dynamic?
3. What has been the biggest surprise about being in an active cuckold relationship?
4. How have your feelings and beliefs about your role changed over time?
5. If you could go back to the start of your relationship with Emma, what is one thing you would change?
6. Your relationship was structured as an FLR from the start. How did you navigate inner struggles between “yes” and “no” in accepting Emma’s leadership?
7. Emma’s blog is called Evolving Your Man. Do you feel that you have evolved, stayed the same, or devolved in your masculinity? Why?
8. When did you first realize you wanted Emma to cuckold you?
9. Were you ever cuckolded before Emma (willingly or unwillingly)? Have you ever suspected past partners of cheating?
10. Of the men Emma has been with, who has been your favorite and why? Who has been your least favorite and why?
11. How did you imagine being Emma’s cuckold versus what it actually turned out to be? How have you adjusted to or enjoyed those differences?
12. Do you ever, even in secret, wish you didn’t share Emma with other men?
13. When Emma started seeing partners alone, how did you cope with that emotionally, especially when she didn’t come home until the next morning?
14. Who in your everyday life knows about your cuckold dynamic? Has anyone found out that you wish hadn’t? How did that impact you?
15. In your 2019 post, you mentioned never experiencing a prostate orgasm. Is that still true? If not, what was your first experience like?
16. Was Emma the first woman to peg you? Who brought up the idea? What was your initial reaction?
17. Emma has written about you pleasing her lovers. Are you surprised by your own willingness to engage sexually with other men? Had you ever done so before Emma?
18. What was it like the first time you gave one of her lovers a blowjob to completion? How did you feel afterward?
19. Have you been taken anally by any of Emma’s lovers? If not, is this a hard limit for you, or have the circumstances just not been right?
20. Where do you think you would have scored on the Kinsey scale at the start of your relationship versus now?
21. You mentioned that Emma’s terms are always final. Have you ever considered leaving the relationship over one of her decisions? What made you accept it in the end?
22. Have you ended up enjoying anything you were initially reluctant to do simply because Emma made it a non-negotiable?
23. If there were one aspect of your relationship where you could lead and Emma would follow, what would it be and why? If there is none, please explain.
24. What has been the biggest surprise, struggle, and regret in your evolving relationship over the past few years?
25. How did you deal with the transition from regular penetrative sex with Emma to being partially or totally cut off?
26. How long did it take to get to where you are now in regards to sex, and how did your mindset change over time, especially after introducing cuckolding?

There was some duplication and overlap but I think I got everything covered. This may be a two or three part blog depending on how wordy Kev wants to be. How does everyone feel about my compiled list, did I cover everything?