This is on of a few blogs that were published by Yoga Girl at her website at http://flr101.blogspot.com. This site is now offline but all credit goes to her.
I'm writing this based on recent observations over the last few months and from recent information that my husband has shared with me since I have allowed him to pull on his penis without ejaculation as basically more of a means so that he could pacify himself after sex so I can escape and get on with things other than sex. I'm very satisfied after sex, and it frees me to move on as he lies there moaning and pulling on his penis helping him to cool down post sex without ejaculation and I don't have to lie there and cuddle and be affectionate. I was initially concerned that he could have an accidental spill while doing this. He reports that even though he's obviously highly aroused post sex, that this provides no stimulation to him other than just more of a pacifying behavior while he's still highly aroused. I really wasn't expecting this, but the stimulus response between his brain/fantasy, hand and penis matrix (brain + hand + penis = ejaculation) has successfully been put on extinction over the last year, and replaced with only vagina + penis = ejaculation. That's pretty exciting! It's to be expected I guess, and I shouldn't be surprised that the principle of extinction in operant conditioning applies even to human male arousal mechanisms, but I'm still surprised that the stimulus response mechanism between his hand and penis could be broken. I'm sure this relationship could be restored with effort, it's just that the wet vagina is a much more superior conditioned stimulus.
I know there's a lot of wives/girlfriends dealing with a lot of masturbaters out there. I hope this offers some hope. It is possible to condition a man to seek only your vagina. Granted this is my experience with this particular male. It just required me to stand up and enforce retention in our home.…
