Here are some details about the sex hormones that make all of this so exciting:
We hear a lot about testosterone, and it is a huge thing in male bodies but the key players in this game are named Dopamine, Prolactin, and Oxytocin. Here is a simplistic picture of what those three are:
Dopamine
The intense pleasure hormone. A built-in reward system. The heroin of hormones. High highs followed by a deep crash.
(he wants this)
Oxytocin
The “cuddle hormone.” It is what I was given to induce labor. It is involved in bonding, intimacy, trust, and maybe anxiety.
(you want this)
Prolactin
The satisfaction hormone. Like an antidote to the Dopamine & Oxytocin. It shuts down sex stuff.
(nobody wants this)
So now lets look at two patterns in terms of male bodies. The first is a regular “masturbate and have sex whenever I feel like it” pattern and the second is the tease and denial pattern. The “regular” pattern: orgasms on a regular basis. In this pattern Oxytocin builds up slowly in each cycle, then at orgasm a huge heroin rush of dopamine explodes his brain, and immediately it is all killed by Prolactin, so he instantly loses desire, intimate feelings, submissiveness, and trust. It then takes a few days or weeks to build those up again properly. The tease and denial pattern: no orgasms for longer periods, but CONSTANT teasing. In this pattern there are no big blasts of dopamine except for the occasional releases. Oxytocin builds up and stays high all the time, making him attentive and horny and affectionate and obedient and very eager to please the woman. The more teasing, the more Oxytocin! They have done experiments with suggestibility tests before and after doses of Oxytocin by nasal mist, and Oxytocin makes men up to 400% more open to taking and embracing the suggestions of their partner.…
