In countless previous blogs, I've discussed the merits of separating sex from ejaculation. I've received comments that make it seem impossible but it really isn't that difficult. The problem is getting started and changing what you've taken for granted all of these years.
Soaking is an interesting concept of inserting a penis into a vagina and waiting until it gets flaccid or your bedroom pal needs to pull it out to prevent accidental spillage. So what do you do while you and your guy friend are all intertwined? You talk. You touch each other. You do everything aside from thrusting and poking and bouncing.
It really isn't that crazy. Talking is that thing the two of you did while you were getting to know each other and it really shouldn't be too much more awkward now that you are up in each other's personal space.
If your guy is new to the idea, talk about bills, chores or holiday plans to help keep his mind distracted. Start off slow and work your way to sexual or erotic conversation. If he is a seasoned pro, you can rub each other's shoulders and connect on a more sensual level.
The point is to feel the deep physical connection that PIV sex provides while working to separate the end-goal of ejaculation from sex. Sure, sex can end with ejaculation sometimes but it shouldn't be the expectation and his penile eruption shouldn't be the focus of your experience together.…
