I think I'm a fairly typical woman in many respects. I have a science and medical background. My husband and I have been married over ten years. All pretty good years I might add, but this last year has probably been the most passionate to say the least. I'm also the breadwinner in the house. My income is quite lucrative which allows me the luxury of having a house husband. I'm also a Yoga and Qigong practitioner.
Although we've always had a great marriage, about a year ago we embarked on the Yoga/Qigong practice of semen retention. Simply put, semen retention is when the male has sexual intercourse, and refrains from ejaculation in order preserve Jing and Qi not to mention a myriad of health benefits. And as a female that dabbled with a FLR in the past, this took on a new meaning which maybe the Tao masters didn't envision. Many couples are attracted to a FLR, but as a result of my studies, I'm realizing that the principles of a FLR reside in some of these traditions. The principle of semen retention certainly reside in the tantra, but I think what we're doing is more baby tantra with a FLR twist. I'm not a reiki master or anything like that, and my husband doesn't practice. I take truth where I find it, and I thought this might resonate with some other women.
Practicing semen retention has certainly brought a new change in my husbands biology. Our marriage has become more passionate, blissful, and joyful than ever. He agreed to participate thinking it might be fun to try for a little while. Well, it's been close to a year. I don't think he saw that coming. He didn't know the last time he masturbated was the last time period. After almost a year of practice, I believe that semen retention is the foundation of a blissful joyful marriage.
Like most men, my husband lacked the strength to refrain from release in the heat of the moment, and it was obvious some intervention was needed. I think most women will have to be strong for their husband in this regard. Using some spiritual traditions and some scientific research (see my next article) I devised an ejaculation schedule that serves the relationship best. I decided on one ejaculation every 5-7 days, preferably 7 if he's holding up well emotionally. Thanks to the application of consequences for unauthorized ejaculation which is really a topic for another blog entry, he has learned restraint and waits for me to give him the release command which once given produces a large amount of ejaculate immediately every time. It would be great if the male only ejaculated for procreation, but the truth is that after riding him daily for 5-7 days for extended periods in his pre-climax state (the moment just before ejaculation), he's more than a little anxious, and I'm kind of eager to watch his release. It's a special day all around.
Any woman that has removed ejaculation from their husband's life knows how much his personality can be adjusted. He can go from aggressive, lazy and moody with frequent ejaculation to agreeable, compliant, and loving, waiting to serve my every whim when there is very infrequent release. Just adjust the dial to your liking. It's all the same guy you fell in love with, just different versions. It's truly transforming how much it can bring a couple closer together.
For the first nine years of our marriage, before I made these changes, he was releasing way before I was even getting warmed up. That was throwing us out of balance and denying me as a woman my true nature of being multi orgasmic which in turn denied him my Qi energy. Practiced in this way, the whole sex act is unnatural and it keeps both parties mired in the mud. I didn't truly awaken down there until he started practicing semen retention and developed his stamina. Now that he’s trained, retaining his semen, and maintaining sustained thrusting, I typically enjoy at least nine orgasms in intercourse and about 50-100 orgasms before he has his special day. It’s so much more intense having intercourse with a man that's writhing on the brink in excruciating pleasure beneath me.
There are some things you might have to deal with at first in this process. As he’s not used to retaining, he might have blue balls, but that will go away in time. His body will just reabsorb his semen. I can ride him every day for five days, put his Lingam (phallus) away in my purse after each use without release and no more cases of blue balls. It's just something to be aware of. He will complain about it. I'm really starting to see semen retention as his rite of passage to becoming a man. I marvel at how it's changed his biology to reveal the true man that he is inside. The man that's happy to serve cleaning the kitchen, and the lover that's always ready with a steel hard Lingam to pump me to 18 orgasms, and then ask if he can provide me with 9 more. Another fringe benefit is that he actually measures bigger practicing semen retention for close to a year. It's probably due to just heightened constant arousal. He also has the penis of a 16 year old having erections on and off throughout the day.…
