There’s something wildly liberating about standing in your power, isn’t there? Especially when you’ve crafted a relationship that truly supports your emotional, physical and sexual needs with a heart full of compersion. I’m talking about having your cake, eating it too. This isn’t just about kinky fun or cuckolding clichés.
This is about evolution, female empowerment, emotional intimacy, and the incredible satisfaction of designing a relationship that reflects your truth and feeds your deepest drives as a woman. Let’s talk science, psychology, desire, and how being adored by a stable, nurturing man while surrendering to a dominant lover can give you everything you’ve been told you couldn’t have.
Short term mating is exactly what it sounds like: sex or romantic experiences that are designed to be passionate, temporary, and driven by pure desire. Think intense chemistry, heart-pounding anticipation, that breathless kind of sex where you’re not in your head at all—you’re just in your body.
And while we often assume men are the ones who want this, research shows that women crave short term mating for very different, but just as powerful reasons. Studies show that women who feel safe choose short-term mates based on physical dominance, confidence, and sexual prowess—not because they’re shallow, but because this taps into something deeply biological.
Our female drives have two very different sides. We want safety, and we also want erotic power but both of these drives contradict each other. We want someone who’ll hold our hand when we cry, and someone who’ll slap our ass and throw us into the mattress. The long-term husband? He’s usually the former. The short-term bull/boyfriend is usually the latter.
Being a woman in today’s world means juggling a hundred needs at once. We want connection, stability, two and a half kids, a home, a white picket fence, financial stability and oh yes, earth-shaking orgasms. And here’s the thing: expecting one man to be everything is setting yourself up for unmet needs.…
