First off what is a femdom handjob? The definition is incredibly broad, a femdom handjob is any type of handjob where the female is dominant. That is an incredibly broad definition for an incredibly broad and fun type of handjob. While we might get caught up with this idea of needing to be a dominatrix, it really isn’t. A femdom handjob is any handjob where the female is in the slightest bit of control. With this blog I’m trying something new with a mixed content post with accompanying videos, I think my website can support videos but I don’t know for sure. I like to push the limits of everything, what can I say? Let me know if you like this style of post in the comments below.
Love Taps
The balance of pleasure with the painful agony of some loving CBT is enough to take some guys over the top. Stroke him until he is hard and tap the little boys, alternate as desired until you decide to stop. For bonus points, you can even do this while he is locked without the accompanying pleasure of the handjob.
Red Light Green Light
Do you remember the childhood game, red light green light? When you say green light everyone goes and when you say red light everyone stops. If we adapt this to a handjob, he strokes when you say green light and he stops when you say red light. If you say red light and he keeps going, he gets a love tap on that wonderfully sensitive bag beneath his little guy.
Distracted or Ignored Handjob
Doing something else while you give him a handjob is utterly humiliating and shows that focusing on his pleasure is second or third or tenth on your list. Pick a distraction and focus on that instead of the action in the palm of your hand. You may even become so distracted that you forget to tug for a few minutes. Watch TV, talk on the phone with a friend, facetime your mother. Ok, probably not that last one!
Jerk Off Instructions (JOI)
The JOI handjob doesn’t involve you jerking him off at all. In fact, he is jerking himself off while you tell him what to do. This can be fun because you can incorporate elements of SPH (small penis humiliation) and even cuckold fantasies. For bonus points you can include CEI (cum eating instructions) once the deed is done and his juices spring forth. You can even stop him midway through and tell him to re-cage or simply put his underwear back on and go about your evening together.
The Denied/Simulated Handjob
How about giving a dildo a handjob while he is locked? With this one, you passionately stroke a dildo and show him exactly what he is missing while he is either sitting on his hands or fully locked. Show him how much attention you would be giving to a dick that wasn’t his. He won’t feel much of anything but agony and humiliation with this one. Bonus points if you throw in some SPH elements and explain to him why you are giving attention to the fake dick instead of his puny worthless shrimp dick. You can even give him a cock to stroke and talk about the handjob he is giving rather than the one he is getting.
Elements of Feet, Socks and Panties
Try using a sock or panty instead of touching him directly, this can be fun twist to the typical handjob. You can also put your feet in his face during the activities as an act of humiliation. How about including a JOI handjob while your feet are in his face and you are doing other things. Maybe a tap on his balls while you indulge him. As you can see, so many elements can be combined to give the two of you a wonderful time together.
Conclusion
Penises are fun. I love to feel them get hard, get soft and get hard once more. So much control and so much power playing with his guy. The range of role play when you tell him that his penis is huge versus telling him that he is the smallest one you’ve ever touched hits him right in the feels. The handjob art at the top of this page is of course created by the amazing femdom artist mare; check out his stuff if you haven’t already! The videos are property of their respective owners and I encourage you to support their creators if you enjoy their content.
Enjoy!
Great post, Emma! When you think about it, every handjob is a femdom handjob because the woman is in control. She can do it quickly . She can draw it out. She can stop and start. She can start and stop before finishing. She can tease by caressing the stomach and the thighs, coming close to touching the penis over and over, raising hopes that she will touch the penis, but never quite doing it, keeping the guy in suspense.
When the relationship involves cuckolding, being limited to handjobs while the other man gets to f**k is wonderfully humiliating. I have had my best orgasms from handjobs during which my wife teases me about how much larger her lover is and that’s why I don’t get to f**k anymore.
I didn’t know there was a name for it, but my wife is a master (or mistress?) of what you have named “the distracted handjob”. That usually happens after she has had a couple of orgasms from oral sex or from playing with sex toys, and she decides to reward me with a handjob. She doesn’t like me to cum on her hand, so I have to kneel on all fours with a towel under me to catch the ejaculate. Since she has already been satisfied, she seems sleepy and disinterested while she lazily pumps my cock. Sometimes she just holds it, and I have to do the work to reach orgasm, gyrating and thrusting, basically humping her hand. Sometimes she seems close to sleep by the time I finish.
I love your idea of a Red Light-Green Light game.
Good one Emma. There are so many variations to this and depending on the goal for the Mistress (allowing me to orgasm, ruined orgasm, taken to the edge, denied then re-caged), something that we focus on frequently is the ‘no work for her hand job’. It’s very simple really. When I am offered the opportunity to have my erect cock stimulated, Ms. K. will sometimes (often) hold her hand in the classic hand job shape, and simply required that I do all the work by being told to fuck her hand. I especially enjoy when I’ve just delivered her coffee in bed, and I stand at her side of the bed and fuck her hand while she enjoys her HGTV shows, even talking about how she would like to do some home improvement things like on the screen.
Yes, my wife also does the “no work for her handjob”! I see that as a variation of what Emma called “the distracted or ignored handjob.” It has a wonderful D/s power vibe to it, doesn’t it.
Wife mistress give me hand job monthly with ruined orgasm and back my penis in cage.
Great article, my wife makes me count or recite a passage of text she asked me to memorise. It really takes the fun out of it and is quite humilating