Hello, lovely visitors to my little wet spot on the internet! Today, we’re talking about how to approach your husband when you’re interested in exploring a cuckold relationship. This is a question I’ve received from Sally (not her real name) and several others, and I think her situation is something a lot of women might relate to. So, let’s get right into it, shall we?
Sally wrote in with a story that probably feels familiar to some of you. She and her husband were chatting about their sexual fantasies one evening, and out of nowhere, he brought up the idea of cuckolding. At first, she didn’t quite get it. I mean, why would any guy be into something like that? But curiosity got the best of her, and she started looking into it.
To her surprise, the more she learned about the fetish, the more intrigued she became. The idea of finding a friend with benefits to “treat” her husband with some cuckolding action once a week began to sound more and more appealing. And though it seemed almost too good to be true, Sally found herself fantasizing about the thrill of it all—especially the thought of bringing home a creampie for her husband. The only thing holding her back? She’s worried about how to bring it up without hurting his feelings or damaging their relationship.
So, let’s help Sally out, shall we? This one is for you if you’re in a similar boat, or you've heard about this fetish but aren't quite sure how to go about discussing it with your partner.
First things first, Sally: your husband brought up cuckolding because he’s genuinely into the idea. Whether it’s something he fantasizes about or a lifestyle he’s seriously considering, it’s a desire he has, and he’s shared it with you because he trusts you. That’s a big deal! It means he feels comfortable enough to be vulnerable and open with you about something that’s clearly important to him.
Now, this doesn’t mean you need to jump into bed with someone else straight away. The fact that he hasn’t brought it up again might mean he’s not sure how you feel about it, or he could be waiting for you to process the idea before discussing it further. He may not even know how he feels about it. Either way, communication is key here. You’ve got to talk to him about it, but don’t worry—we’ll get to how you can do that in a minute.…
Telling your husband you want a cuckold relationship is the easy part. Creating the right setting for a positive response is more difficult. She might start with a subtle FLR, once this is established, and he’s accepted her dominant role, a locking chastity cage would be the the next logical step, along with training him into gradually longer chastity periods. Next would be some SPH (even if he’s of average size) and a few weeks of subtle hints that needs something “bigger” to fulfill her needs. Once this setting is firmly in place, he’s sexually aroused, but securely locked, and knows the only hope for release is to please her, then…it’s time for her to say something like “You’re the love of my life, but you’re not enough for me. I want another man to fulfill sexual needs” (Don’t ask him – – tell him!) By this time he’ll be used to obeying her, and will usually agree to give it a try. If he does not agree, don’t give up, carry on with the chastity training, along with some edging, teasing, ruined orgasms, keeping aroused, but locked. Carry on with more subtle hints she needs something bigger then , after a few weeks, tell him again you want another man. It may take several cycles of this, but In time his resistance will weaken, and he’ll eventually agree to give it a try. Good things, sometimes take time.
Exactly. This man gets it!
Thank You. Just a creative writing exercise. 🙂
“If he does not agree, don’t give up, carry on with the chastity training, along with some edging, teasing, ruined orgasms, keeping aroused, but locked. Carry on with more subtle hints she needs something bigger then , after a few weeks, tell him again you want another man. It may take several cycles of this, but In time his resistance will weaken, and he’ll eventually agree to give it a try. “
It seems like a blueprint for tricking the husband into eventually agreeing to do something that he doesn’t want to do. Then what? Live happily ever after?
It seems like a blueprint for tricking the husband into eventually agreeing to do something that he doesn’t want to do.
subhubphx – Yes, it is a blueprint, and so it should be. Please remember we’re talking about a FEMALE led relationship here. What she wants takes priority over what he wants. If she wants him caged, edged, and cuckolded, then that’s how it will be. 🙂
Ridiculous. Consent doesn’t matter then? Is all of that critical communication that gets talked about here all the time supposed only to be one way with no regard for the submissive’s needs? He already said he doesn’t want the cuckolding. Ignoring that fact and plotting and planning to systematically make him accept something he already said he doesn’t want is despicable. By your logic, if she simply just wanted him to be without arms, he should accept it. Where does it end?
When I read the title, I thought you meant the topic being first brought up by her, not him. In your example, he had already made hints at it. What happens to many men is she immediately rejects the idea, but what many “wannabees” don’t know is it may take a long time for this idea to be digested by her. Some wives take years to revisit the topic, but be assured, she is thinking about it as she does everything else you tell her!
Over at Our Hot Wives (OHW) this is a well explored topic, if only for its novelty. Men seem to be the majority initiators of this. From the many threads posted there, it appears that when women suggest this on their own, they have often already initiated some extra marital adventures, or at least awash with offers. Not scientific, but none the less a trend I have observed in that forum.
This forum approaches cuckolding as the result of mostly male initiated FLR. This path is but one of many ways to end up into cuckolding, and based on this unique pathway, one that can be safely called the more natural evolution. Not inevitable, but an easier transition from the vanilla world.
You have busy with the cuckolding topic, Emma. I think it’s time for you to write the book!
I really think that the potential submissive and cuckold who WANTS to be a good servant and enjoy watching his wife with a “real man ” needs an intelligent girl to lead him to that goal.
That girl should know what her submissive really desire, and with these chastity techniques, SPH, tease and denial, etc she will take him to the subspace that he really searches and be able to accept his true desires:
To be put on his knees and clean up her wife with love after she has had a good time with another man.
Thank you.
“…the potential submissive and cuckold who WANTS …”
The key word is “WANTS”. If he wants, then consent is given, in which case, knock yourselves out and have a great time.
If he doesn’t want to, but he is coerced, then it’s deception. Where there is deception there can be no trust.
Subhubphx: Do you really think there are couples who practice cuckolding, spanking, erotic humiliation or any other kind of fetishes against the sub will?
Chastity, SPH, etc are just a game to help the sub have what he really wants.
Can you imagine a couple in which the husband is treated as a slave against his will? I don’t think that even exist.
It’s necessary to understand that cuckolding works for some people and not for others.
You may support any other ways of submission which are not OK for others.
Thanks.
I’m sure there are, and I’m sure that it is a very small number, but that isn’t the point. If it is what he really wants, then, of course, have at it and live your best life. But that’s not what was said. The husband DIDN’T want it, and the advice was how to get him to want it. In such a scenario, it is entirely possible, even likely, that the husband will succumb out of fear of losing her, say he wants it, when he doesn’t. Then what?
I have zero problems with cuckolding or any other mutually agreed-upon kinks. It’s not my place to judge, and I never do. I eagerly support relationships where consent exists and mutual desires are met. But some of the overly generalized things that are said are not that and are dangerous.
I can tell you that marriages with spanking do exist. We have been married almost 44 years and were together 4 years before that. From almost the beginning she has used spankings to make sure I understand and follow the rules. Rules I agreed to, so I have no problem when I am told to bare my bottom and get across her knees.
Felicia … I can also tell you that at least marriages exist with spanking exist. yours and ours. Clearly there are many more. How many? Who really knows, but I believe it’s way more than people are willing to consider or admit.
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