Book Report: I Do (I Think) by Allison Raskin

Welcome to 2025, another year and another book. I had a bit of downtime over the holidays and read "I Do (I Think)" by Allison Raskin. The book is a modern, feminist guide to rethinking relationships, marriage, and all the messy, beautiful parts in between. Allison blends humor, real talk, and some eye-opening truths about how relationships are evolving in a world that no longer fits the “leave it to Beaver” mold.

Gone are the days when marriage had one recipe: man, woman, vows, babies, forever. Today, marriage is what you make it. Raskin hammers home the idea that modern couples are rewriting the rules. Want a female-led relationship where you’re calling the shots? Go for it. Prefer separate finances and no white picket fence? That’s cool too. It’s about tossing out the “must-dos” and focusing on the “what-works-for-us.”

Let’s get real—money can be a relationship landmine. Raskin points out that these days, many folks think they need financial perfection before tying the knot. The catch? This leaves marriage feeling like a luxury only for the rich. Once you’re hitched, she suggests that keeping some financial independence (think separate bank accounts or clear money boundaries) can actually help your relationship thrive. Less fighting over finances = more loving.

Raskin champions the idea of flipping the script on traditional gender roles. Women leading relationships isn’t about control—it’s about creating balance, respect, and connection. Whether that means she earns more, makes the big decisions, or takes the emotional reins, it’s all about finding what works best for the two of you. These partnerships challenge old norms and build new ones based on equality.

Not every marriage lasts forever—and that’s okay. Raskin reminds us that understanding your own needs and expectations before walking down the aisle is critical. This means asking yourself and your partner the hard questions upfront: What does commitment mean to us? How do we handle conflict? It’s better to tackle these tough convos now than deal with the fallout later.

Allison Raskin’s emphasis on customizing modern relationships aligns seamlessly with the principles of orgasm denial and male chastity in female-led dynamics. These practices embody the book’s call to challenge traditional norms and explore what works best for your unique partnership. Orgasm denial and chastity shift the focus from instant gratification to long-term intimacy, trust, and power dynamics that many couples find deeply fulfilling. In this sense, they align with Raskin's broader message of reimagining roles and connection within a partnership. By creating new boundaries around physical intimacy, couples open a dialogue about control, pleasure, and emotional closeness that can bring them closer together.…