The human body is a masterpiece, a canvas of arousal, connection, and intrigue. Whether you’re squarely aligned with your Kinsey number or a bit of a slider, exploring how sexual fluidity and attraction works can unlock a world of new experiences. Today, we’re diving into the juicy world of arousal training, specifically the fascinating journey of conditioning my husband Kev’s responsiveness to male bodies.
This might seem like a wild leap for some, but our experiments are rooted in understanding and curiosity. Sexual fluidity isn’t just a buzzword; it’s an inherent aspect of many people’s desires. Research, including Lisa Diamond’s work, shows that arousal can be flexible, adapting based on circumstances and emotional contexts.
Apparently I am smack dab in the middle of the Kinsey Scale.
Sexual fluidity refers to "situation-dependent flexibility" in sexual arousal. Historically, this concept has been more widely studied in women, but men are not exempt. Diamond’s research on fluidity highlights how specific stimuli can shift desires without altering core orientation. For Kev, this journey started with asking a simple question: If I find certain visuals and contexts arousing, could he?
Studies suggest that conditioning can play a role in altering arousal patterns. For example, repeated exposure to certain stimuli, combined with sexual release, can rewire the brain to associate those stimuli with pleasure. Think of it like Pavlov’s bell, but way more fun and consensual.
It began innocently: Kev and I pondered why visuals of a ready male partner triggered intense arousal for me but didn’t do the same for him. We realized Kev wasn’t entirely rigid in his preferences—he leaned middle-left on the Kinsey scale but wasn’t opposed to exploration. With Erik, our boyfriend, in the picture, the dynamic opened up further opportunities.…
I’m number two on the test. Long time nudest seen a lot of men’s bodies all shapes and sizes. In the heat of the moment in threesomes and cuckold weekends I have touched, played with the other men’s equipment. I have no interest in being with a man romantically. I have touched another men and a men have touched me in a sexual situation. Very Hot and fun. Enjoy the feelings, don’t think too much about it.
Yep. Most men probably fall in the middle—able to engage with other men sexually without it meaning anything romantic or changing their identity. The “disgust” toward other men’s bodies? I strongly believe that’s a learned response, not something inherent. Attraction isn’t just about romantic feelings, it’s about appreciating people’s features, regardless of gender. Men need to shift from “repulsed by” to “accepting of” others, even if they don’t draw pleasure from it. Getting past that freak-out reaction is key to a more confident, open mindset. Do you think embracing this mindset could make sexual experiences more fulfilling?
If you’re in this type of dynamics in your relationship, I think you already have an open mindset. When I was younger. Now this was in the late seventies and early eighties I wouldn’t think of touching a man. Now that I’m older and wiser. It’s all just sexual fun. I’m going to be who I am. No matter if I interact with a man sexually or not. I look at it this way. As long as everyone involved is having fun and consensual with what’s happening. We are good.
That sums it up quite nicely. I’m so happy to have evolved (see what I did there?) perspectives like yours in the EYM community.
” … have evolved (see what I did there?)”
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This line of inquiry would suggest that “conversion” therapy for same-sex attracted men (many of whom described revulsion to women’s bodies and intimate parts) has a scientific basis and potential to succeed…?
Oh my. Love this experiment and this is the kind of things I’d definitely be up to trying/exploring. Love to see these little insights into what you guys are doing too
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