For many couples, there is something deliciously empowering about knowing exactly what you want, how you want it, and choosing yourself over anyone else. It’s no secret that many women have discovered the pure joy of self-love, but what happens when that self-satisfaction takes priority over sexual attention from your husband? Even better, what if you let him know?
Imagine this: You walk confidently into the bedroom, and tell your husband, “I’m going to go masturbate now, please leave for a little while, okay, love?” Then you lock the door. No, he can’t come in. No, he can’t watch. He’s left outside, knowing you are taking care of yourself in the most intimate way without a single thought for his involvement.
This isn’t just masturbation. This is a declaration, a statement of empowerment that your pleasure belongs to you and that his presence is neither necessary nor wanted. And that, my dear, is the essence of a finger-led relationship where your hands are the lovers you choose, and he remains on the sidelines. Humiliation isn't for everyone and it certainly isn't necessary but it sure can be fun.
For many women, masturbation isn’t just a solo act of pleasure, it’s an intentional, preferred alternative to their husband’s attention. Maybe he tries, but his feeble attempts just don’t compare. Maybe you’re not in the mood for him but still very much in the mood for yourself. Or perhaps you simply enjoy the control the power of choosing your own fingers over his touch.
Many women can't wait for their husband to leave, they hear the door close when he is out to run errands and she rushes to the bedroom excitedly grabbing her vibrator to pleasure herself. Why keep this lustful desire in the shadows, don't just hide it but actively flaunt your sexuality in front of him as a proud flag flying high.
This isn’t about neglecting intimacy it’s about rewriting the script, prioritizing and empowering your own sexuality. Instead of giving in to the expectation that marital sex means redundant penetration or that your husband is the gatekeeper to your pleasure, you’re flipping the narrative. You’re making it known that your pleasure is self-contained, self-controlled, and, most importantly, self-sufficient.…
