On twitter, I will tweet about femdom related things, and female led relationship (FLR) things, and often conflate the two; because its fun. Kev and I enjoy a wonderful loving FLR and to be honest I love to brag about the dynamic we've built with intentional conversation and communication.
Women are no longer expected to hold traditional roles in their households and relationships. In fact, many women have taken to more dominant roles in their partnerships with men. A FLR is an amazing kind of relationship, because it matches two people up who have opposite sexual charge. In other words, they need each other's energy like crack cocaine.
The deeper they explore together, the deeper the addiction to each other. It's a good kind of addiction though, because its full of love. A FLR represents a relationship in which both partners can be vulnerable with each other, and explore their sexuality. Submissive men, need the structure she provides, the control she offers. That does not mean he is weak, it simply means, she opens the door for him to support and provide for her. The same as any other man submissive or not could do. She has no interest in an aggressive male that takes away her control because she is dominant so a submissive man is the perfect match for her. He provides, and supports. All of the rest of it, the kink, the degradation, the humiliation, the sissification, only become a part of it if that's something agreed to.
Femdom has capitalized on this, and made it into a huge deal, because it's what sells. It's arousing to see a dominant woman forcing a submissive to lick her feet. Or whatever other kink they're up to. Femdom has portrayed that submissive men are weak stupid doormats. Unfortunately, this has been portrayed so far and wide, that most people only see that version of submission. This is unfortunate, because there are many submissive men out there that know their worth, and they are looking only for one woman, the right woman, to give their devotion to. They're not interested in submitting to any random woman.
Femdom again, has created a bunch of men that are lost in that fantasy, and can't escape it. But there are many that have escaped it, and know who they are. They know at their core, that they respect women, that female beauty captures them. They want nothing more than to be there for her, and they crave her attention. A dominant woman, wants this quality in a submissive. He is offering to her, all of her dreams, pleasures, desires, and liberating her from any guilt or inhibitions, while remaining as her rock steady and trustworthy support. If that doesn't scream intimacy, bonding, romance, chivalry, and amazing sex ( kinky or not), I don't know what does. A FLR works with those who match each other this way, and there's a lot of people that want it. It's just taboo and misunderstood. In the first place. I would really love to shout from rooftops that to be submissive does not mean you are weak and unworthy of female attention. While also shouting, that to be dominant, you don't have to be mean, cruel, uncaring, or selfish.
These taboos don't allow a FLR to shine for the beacon of love that it is. A FLR is a way of creating harmony with another human being. Is it the only way to do that? No, it's not. Many conventional relationships are happy. But many conventional relationships are also unhappy. Many relationships need a FLR don't know it.…
