More than a few times people have asked me for suggestions in my comment sections on aversive stimuli that could be used for unauthorized ejaculation. I decided to put this together so I have something that I can easily refer people to. If you select the right one and apply it correctly, your husband's behavior can improve greatly.
You will have to decide what works best with your husband during your companion inventories. With any aversive stimulus, if the behavior repeats, or isn't curtailed, then a different stimulus should be tried. My husband fears non-contact punishment much more than contact. My go to non-contact punishment is to delay ejaculation day, and that will curtail his mouth immediately every time. The phrase "You've just been (or will be) bumped a day." functions as a sharp reminder when he drifts over the line. Really, this should be enough to influence and correct behavior for most males once you've both agreed that your the one controlling the ejaculation schedule.
There are so many effective aversive stimuli available which may be more appealing to women to apply than contact punishment. For most of us, our nature is not to be harsh and abusive. I encourage you to come up with your own ideas with your husband in your companion inventories. The following are ideas that often work just as well if not better than contact punishment:
-Delay ejaculation day one or two days (this is the most common one I use).
- An early bedtime for a week.
-Revoking TV or computer time.…
